Paano ba?

So I had a pretty good amount of comments/replies on my Vday Playlist entry regarding on how they are going to spend their Valentines Day. I’ve read a couple and I have noticed that most of them have basically the same plans on that day:

  • Go out with the family and spend some quality time together.
  • Go out alone; eat out and see a movie. (Hey, alone time on Vday isn’t bad at all!)
  • Stay at home and do nothing. (Like IDGAS about Valentines what so)

But there are also a few who have said that, they do not know how to spend the day because they desire to spend it with the “one” they love but for some reason they don’t know how to make it happen. They want their Valentines Day to be spent with their “special someone” but they feel “unwanted”, “unloved” and “rejected” or in other words, broken-hearted. I’ve read a couple of comments about how lonely they feel towards Valentines Day because they just lost someone they’re supposed to spend it with. You know, it’s actually nice how people leave comments on my blog and spill their deepest sentiments as if I am their confidante; I am like a human diary, know what I am saying? Browsing through their comments–or should I say their stories– makes me feel sad knowing how bad they feel about losing the one they love; how awful they feel about having to break up with their partners, and how devastated they have been for they are still stuck in the past and still madly in love with the one that got away. Sucks, I know. I’ve been there. I’ve been left hanging a couple of times already and I know how bad it feels.

So at the end of their stories about their not-so-happy endings, the following sentence they tell me is (or ask, rather) “Paano ba mag move on?” I am not a love guru and I do not claim to be one but I think there are some things that I can share to you that might help you. I know I am too young to be talking about this; you might be asking me what do I know about love for me to be giving you an advice. Well, you have a point. What does a 20-year old girl know about moving on from someone who has left you? What does a 20-year old girl have experienced to tell you what you should do? What does a 20-year old girl know about LOVE? You might be right, I am just 20, and presumably I have not gone through a major heartbreak yet so I may not know how BAD it really feels (uhm, what’s even the basis of a “major heart break” anyway?!) The thing is, I don’t think I have to go through each level of broken-heartedness for me to understand how love works and this thing called ‘moving on’. I don’t think I need to get my heart broken a million times for me to how to know how HORRIBLE it feels to be “broken-hearted”. I don’t think I need to go through different kinds and levels of rejection for me to know that not everybody feels the same kind of heartache.

Okay, I get it. You have been fooled? You have been left hanging? Someone cheated on you? Oh, he/she didn’t love you all along? Dang, he/she just used you? What, you are in love someone who doesn’t love you? You feel sad, oh, no– not just sad? You feel horrible? You feel devastated? Wait, you feel like dying already?

Before you throw me that “You will never understand how it feels unless you are the one feeling it” line, let me tell you this.. I might not have experienced being in your position and condition (if that’s something really drastic) but there are ways to avoid being in or being stuck in that state. It’s not easy but once you get know how to control your emotions and the way you think, then dealing with heartbreaks would be easier for you–in a way.

Moving on is not easy; especially if you have invested so much (love, time, etc.) on your partner. Also if you have been together for so long, breaking up them would never be easy. You are lucky if you have found someone who will stick with you thru thick and thin for the rest of your life but let’s admit it, not everyone is fortunate enough to be with someone who will stay with them no matter what. It sucks I know, and I hate it; I hate how complicated relationships can be– which is why I don’t just commit with someone that easily.

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I have young blog readers (teens) and I think I need them to know about this; they need to be aware of what they are getting their selves into. Okay yung pa-happy happy crush lang muna but if you are planning to take it to the next level, then there are things you need to know.

Before you enter a relationship– or better yet, before you decide to love someone wholeheartedly– you must know that getting hurt in the process is inevitable. You will get hurt from time to time may it be because of something either big or petty; and it happens to everyone, not just to you don’t feel SO distressed about it­. You will face a lot of circumstances in life together; and that is when you will start to get the hint of how strong (or weak) your relationship’s foundation is. If you think you have not built a strong foundation yet then you two can always work on it– if the both of you are willing to. It’s always up to the two of you if you really want to make your relationship work and last. Kayong dalawa yan eh, alanganaman sa driver mo o kaya sa tambay dyan sa kanto. At the end of the day, it’s always going to be your decision. It isn’t actually bad to follow what your heart tells you; follow your heart, pero wag ka masyadong (excuse my language) tanga.

Going back, paano nga ba mag move on? I believe each one of us have our own ways of moving on; the ones that work for me might not work for you and vice versa. If you are struggling moving on from your past relationship then I hope these could help you. Let’s go back to square one.

So your partner has decided to break up with you– or they just simply left you. Or it could be the other way around; you could be the “partner” that I am talking about. What are the possible and usual reasons for you to be left on your own or for you to give up?

  • The relationship is not working.
  • He/she is not happy with you anymore.
  • He/she likes someone else
  • He/she is cheating on you
  • He/she is seeking for something new. (May sawa factor, wit!)
  • You keep on hurting so many times.
  • You need space
  • He/she is just not worth it–anymore
  • You never really loved him/her.
  • *insert whatever your reason is*

I shall speak in two (female) POVs, for you to understand it better.

Nang iwan
Okay, so ikaw ang nang iwan. You have your reasons as to why you’ve decided to leave him. Presumably the reason could be you’ve had enough and you cannot keep up with your partner’s upsetting actions anymore. You love him so much that you’ve decided to leave him for you know that he is clearly already taking you for granted. Understandable­–if that is really the reason– it’s good that you’ve thought about your own sake this time. I’m proud of you sister for making that tough decision. Love yourself, ganoin! Pero gets ko, mashakeeet din sa part mo.

Iniwan
Okay, so ikaw naman ang iniwan. Ouch. Just the term “iniwan” itself hurts already. He has his reasons; although most of the time, it isn’t sensible at all. But you have to understand that he’s just not that into you anymore. Accept it, he left you for a reason– rational or not. Masakit tanggapin but you have to. You might have asked yourself a thousand times already “What happened to us?” “What changed his mind?” “Where did I go wrong?” You guys used to be really happy and all, then all of a sudden, things changed. That’s one of the worst things ever, not knowing the reason why. But hey come to think about it, you know precisely what the reason is–it’s just you cannot accept it.

Acceptance is the key! The first thing you need to do in order to move on is to accept it. Accept the fact that he’s not part of your life anymore; accept the fact that you two are not together anymore. He left you; he’s gone. The worst thing you could do is to please him to get back together with you. Do. Not. Do. It. I tell you, do not ever please someone to love you. Love isn’t something that you beg for; it is something that is given to you freely without questions asked. So quit asking yourself where did you go wrong. Quit asking yourself if you are not good enough; because you are, believe me. You deserve someone who will love you as much as you love them. And clearly, he’s not the one– accept it.

Feel your feelings. You’re sad because he left you? You feel sad? Don’t ignore it. Go feel your sadness. It’s actually nice to feel down from time to time; I believe every human needs to feel some kind of way every once in a while. Go reminisce about the times you spent together, listen to sad love songs, scan through your cheesy photos together, read his old texts messages. That’s fine, that’s normal. I’m not even going to tell you not do it, because I know that you will. (Ha!) Okay lang yan, normal lang. But! Here’s the thing, do not go overboard with it. It’s fine you do it a couple of times (because you miss the feeling), but don’t do it all the freaking time. That is actually the reason why you cannot move on, cause you keep on going back, and then it makes you feel miserable and then bam! you’re stuck. Feel your sadness for a short period then get back on track again– don’t go beyond the expiry date.

Cut him out. Okay now that you have had your time going through his photos and text messages.. it’s time to delete it. Remove traces of him in your phone. Why? Because I know that you won’t stop checking him out. Staring at your photos together won’t make him come back. Stalking his social media accounts won’t make him come back. Thinking about him all day won’t make him come back. Gets? Don’t torture yourself.

Mind over matter. It’s not easy to control your emotions especially if you are feeling out of sorts. There are times in life wherein we feel depressed that it makes us feel like there is nothing we can do but to wallow in sadness. Mahirap yan, misery will stay within us if we let our emotions control us. You know how it feels to be really sad; admit it, when you’re sad you don’t feel like doing anything at all. You feel so uninspired, and sometimes you just want to get lost forever. It’s always up to the way we think. Quit thinking about being so broken because you’re not as broken as you THINK you are. We are capable of controlling the way we feel, it is ALL in the mind. Don’t go following your feelings around, let your feelings follow you.

Pray. Feel your negative emotions in the presence of God. Ask for His guidance. Don’t blame him for what’s happening to your life, it happened for a reason. (And you’ll know what the reason is–eventually) Know that He’s not going to let you go through something He knows you couldn’t handle. Pagsubok lang yan sa life. You are not the only one who gets to face such kind of problem; some people have it worse than you. Give thanks.

cant change situation

That’s basically it. At the end of the day we’re all going to end up with accepting the situation and learning how to deal with it. Like I have said, acceptance is the key. If you can’t accept the reality, then you are going to be stuck wherever you are until you find the courage to accept how things turned out and let go of it. Not all us get to have happy endings. (Is there even such thing as happy endings?) Kering keri mo yan. It’s not that easy, but you have to do what you have to do. There are far better things ahead of you, darling. Life doesn’t stop for anyone, not even for you. So don’t get stuck in that miserable state. Divert your attention to something else; there are plenty of things you could do. Don’t waste your time fantasizing on a guy who doesn’t give a shit about you, you deserve better– and you’ll meet him soon, sa tamang panahon. And when you meet him, you’ll be glad that none of your past relationships worked out.

Being in love is not easy, minsan talagang nakakatanga. And it makes you ask yourself “Ano bang meron sakanya at nagpapakatanga ako?” pero ganon talaga. At some point in our lives we’ll get to experience it. It’s fun at first but it gets tricky after some time. It’s actually nice to be in love if you know how to deal with it.

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If there is actually one thing I’ve learned about love, it is to love someone without setting any expectations. Love them lang, make them your inspiration. Do things that will make them smile, make them happy, ganoin! Don’t expect them to do same for you; most especially don’t expect them to love you back in the same level you love them– because it is not always going to happen. Not every person you’ll love will love you back. That’s a FACT. Love someone without expecting anything in return, you’ll be happier.

Like I’ve said earlier, jumping to the next level would be tough. Being in a serious relationship is a big responsibility; it isn’t something you should make fun of. (Kaya nga serious eh!) It’s very risky but you’ll know if someone is worth taking the risk. It takes a little and a lot of everything to make a relationship work. There are a lot of things that you need to take into consideration. It won’t be easy, it’s going to be really hard but it’s going to be worth it. 🙂

This Valentines, you don’t need someone to accompany you. You could spend the day by yourself. Go breathe some fresh air! Go out and enjoy your own company. Eat out at your favorite restaurant and get your favorite meal, kahit carbs on carbs on carbs pa yan. Enjoy it, you deserve to have a really good meal. Go see a movie! Or you could just stay at home, tuck yourself in your bed and watch your favorite movies. You could also invite your family to spend the day with you and spend quality time together. See your friends! Do the things you guys normally do and laugh at the silly things and the silly stories you all share. Who says you need a boyfriend/girlfriend to enjoy Valentines Day? There are plenty of people you could spend it with. Wag ka masyadong hopeless romantic dyan, ano ka ba. Di porket di ka nakatanggap ng bulaklak eh wala nang nagmamahal sayo.

PS: Remember my favorite quote? Be miserable or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it ALWAYS your CHOICE.

PPS: Smile! It’s not the end of the world.

438 Comment

  1. Cha AA says: Reply

    Awwe exactly 🙂 VDay is not just for lovers but for everyone. Thank you Meng 🙂 Tulog na uy wink

    1. vanessa says: Reply

      I EXPERIENCE INIWAN AKO. BUT I MOVE ON. I CRIED FOR a month thingking saan nagkamali.After that I did something for me. I go out with my friends na di ko ginagawa kasi ayaw niya dati yung friends ko. I prayed and I GIVE TIME TO my self more. After 2years not into relationship. I MET SOMEONE. UNA ANDON TAKOT BUT. A RISK THAT I take. Now im happily married. And I was base now dito sa states. But we are waiting for us to have children. Di pa din kami nabibiyayaan. But my husband and I are keep praying. Hopeful God will give us the blessings to have children. Pero right now we give lots of time to both of us and we adopted 4dogs that keep us busy. And Im enjoying watching you and Alden. EAT BULAGA. GOD BLESS YOU. AND ENJOY YOUR SUCCESS AND IM WAITING FOR YOUR ALBUM SURELY IM.GOING TO BUY. INGAT LAGI

    2. wahinie says: Reply

      hi maine…
      ang galing galing…isa kang malaking inspirasyon sa mga kabataan at lalo sa mga magulang na kagaya ko na hinde ko maubos maisip na sa edad mong 20 ay malayong malayo na ang narating mo dahil sa kagandahang ehemplo pinakita mo. salamat sana hinde ka magbago.

      1. liza says: Reply

        Write a book plz. Put it into writing everything is being documented. Part of a realitu show now. A book and a movie regarding your life story with alden.

    3. Elaine says: Reply

      Nice to see you have time to write again, I know it is one of your favorite thing to do. I hope you can answer my question, just humor me pls. Normally in a relationship you have common friends, after the breakup how do you stand seeing him in the arms of the other person everytime you have gatherings. Sad to say i have missed a lot of get togethers bec i don’t know how i would react. I don’t think i can stand seeing them happy together…so i guess i haven’t moved on. HAPPY VALENTINE! Stay happy and in love with…your career 😉

    4. Mitch Rosario says: Reply

      awe ur really great ms. maine, ewan ko ba pro down to earth ka tlga, pra bng anything u do makes people feel relieve, nakakagaan k ng loob kht cno na may mabigat na dinadala reading ur blogs, watching u on tv nakakawala ng stress nakaka inspire na there is still a better part of life. May God continue to shower u more blessing to inspire more people. Sana marealize din ng mga basher mo na instead of being bitter mging inspiration k nlng nila on how u deal everything in lyf. Take care always.

    5. Rose Bayaua says: Reply

      Hi Maine! Awww..sobrang inspiring ng blog mo. I hope you continue to update your blog whenever you have time. A lot of people find this blog very helpful and inspiring. Sobrang nakilala kita and for a 20 year old girl I can that you’ve got lot of wisdom to share about life. Please don’t ever change wish you all the best and THANK YOU.

    6. Maybe says: Reply

      Valentine’s day is so overrated. Probably i’ll be doing my laundry on that day. Then i’ll be moonlight dancing with justin timberlake in my mind✨

    7. fauna says: Reply

      Exactly….hindi nman kailangan my boyfriend or girlfriend to celebrate ang VD since mtgal n akong alone nsanay n din ako go out alone pwede n..n eenjoy ko nman ang sarili ko sometimes hanging out with my friends also…lahat nman tyo my knya knyang opinion hindi nman tyo pwede mg comment kung ano man ang pinag dadaanan nla kya minsan move on din pg my time d pwede cla ang happy ako hindi ganoin…your too young pra mg give ng advise sa mas ahead syo maganda yung pananaw mo s buhay n dapat tularan ka ng ibang kabataan na di dapat puro kilig lang hahaha enjoy lang sa life kc hiram lng natin toh ky Lord….GodBlessYou Maine sana mdami mk basa ng post mo na talaga nman nkk enjoy basahin….

    8. Mary Joy Bernal Borden says: Reply

      Thanks for this meng! 🙂

    9. Ding says: Reply

      Hope all ADN can read this. So theyll have the confidence tha our Mengmeng is so capable in handling emotion. NO need to worry. I love how you say love someone with out expecting anything . Eelxpectation were the first thing that will hurt us. To me if being in a relationship isnt good already let go dont try to hold on and make both of you go down in misery and make your life in living hell. CHOICES are made so you can use it.

    10. BELLA says: Reply

      Correct!

  2. fave part “Love isn’t something that you beg for; it is something that is given to you freely without questions asked.” grabe ka ikaw na pagagawan na kita ng radio station about love problems haha! pero seriously thanks for this Meng atleast someday I know how will I deal with heartbreak or moving on thingy .. just so you know I never had a boyfriends ever since I was born in this world in short”NBSB” so I don’t know anything about heartbreaks or moving on.. grabe san mo nahuhugot yang mga ganyan? LOL! keep it up gurl!

    PS. just in case in the future na magkaproblema ako sa lovelife ko (hopefully not) magccomment ako dito sa blog mo to ask for an advice, okay lang? well kahit ayae mo magccomment pdin naman ako walang makakapigil saken ganoin! xoxo :*

    1. *boyfriend (without S) typo hahaaha!

  3. GLEN MAGTIBAY says: Reply

    nice one Maine 🙂
    happy Valentine!

    1. emzpj16 says: Reply

      Regardless of either being in a relationship or none at all, I guess we all deserve the Valentines DAy, for us to know what real love is….kasi for me, ang LOVE wala kasi yang definition because it is how we make it , it is how we love yun yung magdedefine ng pagkatao natin…it’s how we love talaga actually…

  4. Maine, you forgot TIME.

  5. Gabrielle says: Reply

    Thank you for updating your blog despite your busy sched, Menggay. Through this we get to know you more. And gash, this blog update gave (all of) us extra feelszx. [plus the quote at the last part is worth sharing to everyone in my NSTP block.] Yes, I am (quite) sad because I don’t have SOMEONE SPECIAL to celebrate Vday with, but yeah, who cares? Right? HAHA
    Hope you’ll have an awesome week ahead!
    We love you Menggay, God bless!

  6. lorelei says: Reply

    Hi Maine

    i dont celebrate valentines day at all. I believe that we can always celebrate and show our love to people like our family and friends.
    maganda yung sinabi mo na ‘ to love someone without setting any expectations. Love them lang, make them your inspiration. Do things that will make them smile, make them happy, ganoin! Don’t expect them to do same for you; most especially don’t expect them to love you back in the same level you love them– because it is not always going to happen. Not every person you’ll love will love you back. That’s a FACT. Love someone without expecting anything in return, you’ll be happier.’
    I wish you good health and happiness.

    love,
    ate lorelei

  7. Elle says: Reply

    Yes, 20 ka palang and marami pang pagdadadaan sa buhay pero my dear, this blogpost is further proof that you are wise beyond your years and I feel very blessed for sharing your thoughts here. NBSB ako kaya sanay na magspend ng VDay in ways na walang kasamang BF pero happy naman ako, I think kaya to isustain for some more years hahahahahahaha.

  8. Alexandra Reduta says: Reply

    Yehey! You update your blog Maine…… It was helpful not only to me but also many people out there who expecting too much about their V-day and you make us realize that it’s not only for couples but it’s for EVERYONE!
    I love how you express your idea and thoughts about it.

    P.S. I love your works and you… Go to the beach and relax, #walanaakongmasabi

    1. Alexandra Reduta says: Reply

      Ang dami mong pwedeng mahalin!

      Be a fan of ALDUB, sasaya ang buhay mo HAHAHAHAHA
      #PAKGANOIN!

  9. Jhem Morales says: Reply

    People:” Sana may ka-date ako sa VDay.”

    Me: (Pagod, puyat, inuubo, sinisipon, masakit ulo dahil sa ojt.) Matutulog ako sa VDay! I need a break, ganoin!

  10. Marilyn Gutierrez says: Reply

    Dear Ate Helen, ay Maine pala!
    Maraming maraming salamat. I’m in complete awe with the maturity of your views. Isa ka ngang 20 year-old sweet lady (soon 21!) but your thinking is way beyond your age! Habang binabasa ko post mo, sabi ko sarili ko ikaw nga ang the best Social Media Influencer para sa mga kabataan.
    I can relate so much with the nang-iwan at iniwan dahil I was both for one person! And it was mutual with my partner! This nang-iwan at iniwan can happen to a couple when both of you realize that you’ve arrived in a stagnant relationship. Even if both of you tried to regain and give spice to your relationship pero kung na-realize nyo na hanggang doon na lang talaga, both of you have to learn to let go and accept the situation. Doon papasok ang term na NAG-IWANAN!
    Dito sa France, ang hirap mag-celebrate ng V-day kapag wala kang girlfriend or boyfriend. Sad to say, in this country V-day is still exclusive for lovers. Once I said Happy Valentines day to a lady friend it was taken so weirdly by people around us who heard it. Iba pa rin talaga sa Pilipinas.
    Anyways, maraming salamat sa payo. Marami sanang kabataan ang makapulot ng aral sa payo mo at maintidihan na hindi lang dapat puro kilig sa buhay. Getting into a relationship is not just being romantic all the time. It’s a hardwork to make it work and it’s a two-way process.
    Again thanks for your compassion and generosity!

    Advance Happy Valentine’s Day and enjoy your BED!

  11. Reina Vallejo says: Reply

    I’m 20 as well. But damn! I can relate to this already. Haha. INIWAN. Those were the things I did when it happened. Acceptance is really the key. Kung matanggap mo na ng lubusan, mas madaling i-let go lahat.

  12. lengemgie101 says: Reply

    just wow! coming from a 20 yr old.. i agree to everything you said/write.. Dont beg for love and dont expect ..

  13. Cha AA says: Reply

    Hey Meng btw, care to watch your 15th Weeksary? Swear, you were really Nicomaine during those days. I could really see how genuine you were and him too. I was smiling throughout the end. I miss your reactions, how you guys get so excited to see each other, how those little acts mean so much to you and everything. But I love how you are rn. You still have the spark, keep that fire burning okay? Hihi sorry kung puro AlDub ang topic ko. I know you sometimes you get annoyed with it. Or not. Okay last na to good night 🙂

  14. You’re perfect MENG.. <3 you

    1. Make ka na nang libro mo meng… I ably ‘ll it…

  15. Hazel says: Reply

    MEDYO NAPAHABA TO. GO GET A CUP OF COFFEE IF YOU WANT.

    I’m not one of those who commented about not having a date, or being left hanging, or blah blah blah pero tagos yung mga pinagsasabi mo dito, Meng. Tagos talaga, lalo na yung “Iniwan” part. Kingina. Ang sakit. Alam mo yung hopeless romantic ka, tapos nakilala mo sya, sya na dapat, sya na yun. Yung sasabihin mo na sa kanya, aamin ka na, ready ka na. Tapos malalaman mo na lang na meron ng iba? Na second choice ka lang nya? Na kapag di sya sinagot nung una, kampante syang ikaw sasagutin mo sya? Kingina nya talaga. Ang landi.

    Pero moved on na ko dun. Slight. Mga 60%. On the way to 100% na. And after reading this, nagkaguide ako sa journey of moving on.

    Pwede kitang maging, like you said, confidante? Naks. Parang nagka ate ako ng wala sa oras. Pwede kitang maging ate? Nagiisa lang kasi yung ate ko, pinsan pa. Nagtatrabaho na din kaya laging wala sa bahay nila. Yung kapatid ko naman, lalaki. Hirap kwentuhan tungkol sa mga bagay na ganyan. My family… I don’t want to add sa mga problema namin ngayon… So everything just build up inside me. Frustrations, heartaches, problems… Ang hirap. I need someone to help me vent out. And being a supporter of yours and following you for quite sometime now, I can say na we have so much in common (being an introvert for one). So can you be my confidante? My ate Meng? Kung okay lang naman.
    (Pero gusto talaga kita maging mudra eh hahahaha pudra naman si RJ )

    P.S.
    Sigurado kang 20 ka pa lang? Nadouble check nyo na ba yung birth certificate mo? Magkasing edad lang tayo pero ganyan na pananaw mo sa buhay! Ang lalim grabe!

    1. Hazel says: Reply

      Excuse my bad words pala.
      P.P.S.
      Love you.

      1. Kristinapai says: Reply

        *taps you back Helen* kebs lang…pray tayo. Dama kita e,

        1. Hazel says: Reply

          *kalabit sa balikat* Sino si Helen? lol Anyways, yes, pray lang. Pray for them, pray for ourselves pak! Ganoin!

  16. Nabby says: Reply

    Wow, that’s really a lot of insights from a 20 year-old lady. It is true that we do not need to experience it all to be able to relate and empathize with someone’s experience and circumstance. I do believe that life and love are really simple, people just tend to make them complicated, it is human nature. 🙂

    Your blog actually reminded me with one of my blogs from last year. It is about feeling hopeless and how to move on.. https://ybban7.wordpress.com/2015/07/27/quandary/
    I hope you will get the time to read it too..

    Like most single ladies, I will be spending V-day with my family, just like any ordinary day.. I hope you have a good V-day, with your bed or with someone special.. 😉

  17. Tin de Guia says: Reply

    Nice! Everything you’ve written is on point. We all have a choice. Choose to be happy.

  18. rhozalin galion says: Reply

    Hi! Menggay thank you for updating your blog and sharing your thoughts…Ang haba ha!!!pero malaman…Sad to say pero nklinya ako sa Iniwan…Tama ka acceptance is the key tlga…so un wlng valentines date jan ….Count me on!!!!hehehe

  19. becky pulido says: Reply

    Not bad for a 20-year old 😉

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on love and moving on. I must say, writing helps…a lot!– it helps you and it helps the one reading what you wrote.

    I can resonate with your points Maine. I think what most of us fail to appreciate is that “being broken is good” because it gives you a chance to be whole again, to pick the broken pieces of your life and create something new out of it– a new you.

    Keep it coming. Enjoy life Maine!

  20. Cha AA says: Reply

    Hey Meng btw, care to watch your 15th Weeksary? Swear, you were really Nicomaine during those days. I could really see how genuine you were and him too. I was smiling throughout the end. I miss your reactions, how you guys get so excited to see each other, how those little acts mean so much to you and everything. But I love how you are rn. You still have the spark, keep that fire burning okay? Hihi sorry kung puro AlDub ang topic ko. I know you sometimes get annoyed with it. Or not. Okay last na to good night 🙂

  21. paoui says: Reply

    I agree there’s not one recipe for moving on. It’s different for every individual. I should know, i’ve had my share of crazy young heartbreaks. Atleast thrice i’ve been sort of “dumped” or left hanging. It took me 3 long years after my last break up before i entertained the thought of dating again. I guess and i believe that focusing on something else rather than wallowing 24/7 is a good start. And i agree with another post here that giving your heart break time to actually go the process of slowly healing is a big help too. Dont fight it dont rush as it will have to end sometime anyway, right? All i know for sure is, one day u will wake up and realize it no longer hurts, ure gna wonder what u actually did the previous night that made it all go away. And then you’ll tell urself, it’s just finally over. Then u smile and greet ur life with a new beggining.

    Always remember, life doesnt stop in a single heartbreak, it gives it color, leave it’s mark as lessons u take with u and strengthen u as u go on your journey. Lastly, no matter how many break ups u go through, there will always be one who will never ever break your heart. GOD LOVES U

    Cheers,
    PAOUI

  22. Jennine says: Reply

    I’m gonna write almost the same, ang galing mo maine. I want to add lang about moving on.
    Most of us think that “TIME HEALS” NO, TIME HEALS NOTHING, it is what you do with that time that will heal you. Maine is right, it’s a matter of acceptance. I’ve been through a superb heartbreak last year Feb 14, 2015 ohhh diba? Heart’s day talaga! Hahaha, I realized that walang palang moving on kasi I have to start again, I have to start mylife again, yung mabuo ka ulit. Buuin ulit ako ni Lord. I found my security in the Lord. Love yourself enough, tandaan, you cannot give what you don’t have. 🙂

    Maine, thank you for these blog. 🙂 it inspires me to write again. 🙂 I have my blog as well. 🙂

    1. Jenny says: Reply

      I feel you Jennine. I experienced the same thing too. Breaking up on the Vday…ouch! But it was a choice for me too. A good and better choice. Coz kahit kami pa alam ko/ narealize ko na matagal na pala nya kong iniwan. Kasi kahit di pa kami break may iba na sya. Meaning dalawa kami. So just to give my self dignity…its me who ended it. Better to be alone than to be with someone who will continously hurt you. We girls dont deserve that. So ayun till now I am single but happy coz I dont wanna rush things and I dont like rebound relationship. And I found it liberating to do things on ur own ☺ nakakataas din ng self esteem. Hehehe! Anyways, our Menggay really rocks! She dont sound like a 20 year old lady.

    2. Eden says: Reply

      Feel po kita. Only we can find our security in the Lord! 🙂

  23. Cecilia E. mesias says: Reply

    matured talaga kung mag isip ka iha.i really like the way u motivated others and yourself.Indeed u are an inspiration.Keep writing. nakaka wala ka ng homesickness sa mga OFW na katulad ko.Ingat palagi and God bless you.

  24. Hi Maine! Im really looking forward for your new blog entries kasi through here I really got to know you more and your deepness. And this is very timely. Reading this at this wee hour of the day will open our minds and everything will just hit you. Napasabi na naman ako ng, “this is exactly whats on my mind”. I really see myself in you. Relate much ako

    You’re just 20, but you know what, you have a wide range of understanding things and situations kaya you were able to write these. You may not be in the same situation but you feel them. I feel you too. I got so hooked to your blog that I have them printed and compiled for my personal reading. Though you’re busy, sana you can update your blog pa din. I know that fulfillment everytime you write something. Therapy din ito for you. Right? So then, happy vday! I know you’ll have a good one. <3

  25. Tess says: Reply

    Hi Maine, galing mo talaga girl 20 ka lang nga pero mas magaling ka pang mag love advice kesa sakin e hahaha. Thank you Maine for sharing this, I’m sure madaming mapupulot na aral ang mga teens na fans mo and even not so young ones too. Eto nagustuhan ko sa mga sinabi mo:
    “follow your heart, pero wag ka masyadong (excuse my language) tanga”
    “If there is actually one thing I’ve learned about love, it is to love someone without setting any expectations.”
    “There are a lot of things that you need to take into consideration. It won’t be easy, it’s going to be really hard but it’s going to be worth it.”

    And yes di naman kelangan ng date with special someone para mag spend ng Vday. Kaya nga comment ko sa last post mo, if you don’t really have a date then go out with your friends and enjoy the day pero sus pinayuhan pa kita e kahit na mas bata ka mas wise ka pa sakin sa mga sinabi mo dito hahaha.

    Again, thank you Maine for posting, through this nababasa namin insights mo at mas lalo ka naming nakikilala. Sa totoo lang mas romantic pa ang ADN kesa sayo e, ikaw chill lang pero kami there’s a meaning into everything hahaha, sensya ka na mga hopeless romantic e.

    Ingat kayo ni Alden.

    Advance Happy Valentines day.

  26. Louie says: Reply

    May space pa ba para sa ibang advice? I think wala na hehe, but kidding aside Wow just wow, hands down.. Im older than you (not that old ah ) but your advice covers everything,
    This is a Fact too. To be able to give advices like that, (She’s been there alright) for a 20 year old girl who is a self proclaimed pessimist and Low esteem girl.. It must have been tough for you,.(“I’ve been left hanging a couple of times”)

    Everything that Maine said is spot on, and like maine (if she manage to move on) so are you..
    Another thing after you moved on.. You should also learn, hdi pwede babalik ka ulit sa dati, para next time na mag try ka ulit pumasok sa serious relationship, You are wiser and stronger na.. Hindi talaga mabilisan ang pag Move on.. You will need Time.. Basta keep in mind din (like the last song of lola nidora’s story)

    Tuloy parin ang buhay

    And to the owner of the blog, Maine! Thank you for the time to write this (kahit time mo na lng sana maka bawi tulog) you manage to do this parin.. Madami matutulungan nito for sure

    “Spread the Love”

    PS din: if the time comes na ready ka na din for a Serious relationship (enehbayan) Dont forget your post..
    And take care of your heart! (Alam mo na) Happy Restday!

  27. Jezebel Intong says: Reply

    Hi Meng! Thank you for taking time to update your blog, though alam namin na sobrang busy mo. This writing helps your readers a lot. Ako, I’ve been celebrating my VDay all by myself for 3 years now, but with those 3 years, hindi ko naman na feel na there’s something lacking. siguro dahil ako yung ipo nag tao na masyadong “selfish”. ayokong hayaan yung sarili ko na masaktan ng sobra kung alam ko namang may magagawa ako sa sitwasyon lalo na’t nararamdaman ko na hindi na nag wo-work yung relationship. As you’ve said, there’s always a reason why those things happen, so kebs lang. I may be spensing this vday alone pero andyan naman family ko which I think I would be happier rather than spending it to someone who doesn’t even make you feel that you’re loved.

    Two thunbs up for you again and again for being such a good writer! Grabe ang galing mo lang talaga! You’re so blessed to have this talent. So yun lang muna I’ll keep watching and refreshing your page para sa upcoming blogs mo.
    Love you Meng! Isa ako sa mga proud at supporters mo.

    Hugs,

    Jez

  28. Hi. This is a good entry. I enjoyed reading it and I’m enlightened. Paano nga ba ? grabeh, 6months had passed, I tell myself I’m over him, pero pag nakikita ko muka nia na nakatag kasama ng iba kong aquiantance, ayun, scroll down agad, my heart beats fast. He used to be my bestfriend, my someone I confide every heartaches, every problems I have in life. Then we fall in love, we take risks, but then, still, we end up and it’s so hard because I lose 2 person at the same time. I had no bestfriend to talk to, I leave my self alone and try to be fine by myself. Mahirap nga magmove on, pero from the moment I got myself busy, nalimutan ko sya, and that breakup leads me to something, i discover talents and skills na meron ako, and un ung dinivelop ko, dun ako nagpakabusy. hahahah pero upto now, ewan, pag nakikita ko kasi pictures nia lalo na nakatawa sia, aun nakakabitter, pero i’m not that type of person na nagpapakamiserable. tama ka, tama lahat ng payo mo, pero un nga, it takes time pa ren.

    Ngaung valentines, sanay naman ako wala kadate, pero ayaw ko nalang reng lumabas ng bahay, kasi ayaw ko ren naman saktan sarili ko, d naman kasi pwedeng sabihing balewala ung makikita mo sa araw ng valentines, tao paren, naiinggit. hahahha. but anyways, magluto nalang ako sa bahay and bond with my family.

    Thanks sa advise, balitaan kita pag nakamove on na me. hahaha .

    PS: Whenever I read yur blog, i don’t think na ikaw si Maine Mendoza, ewan, parang ibang iba ka dito sa mundong to, ordinaryong ordinaryo, kaya love ko tumambay dito and want to hear yur thoughts. sabagay, dito din kita mas una nakilala, wala ka kasing sinikreto dito sa blog mo, yu tell everything. 🙂

    PS ulit: Sunday pala ang valentines day, Church day, lalabas pa din pala talaga ako. hahahahaha

    Godbless mua :*

  29. Love says: Reply

    “..used to be happy & all, then all of a sudden, things changed. That’s one of the worst things ever, NOT KNOWING THE REASON WHY.”

    ~ yan palang yung thoughts ko kanina when I heard sa KMJS tell me, where did I go wrong? What did I do to make you change your mind completely So much feels sa part na yan, eh. Not knowing the reason why plus you’ve been together for years… svks. Actually Maine, I was on the process of moving on five years ago until last year. I kept on saying that time heals, and it really did, just leaving my heart scarred. Moved on? Not totally. Right there and then, AlDub came into the picture, especially the “dub” — you. The gv you radiate is so magical. You may not believe me but it’s true, because of the show and of you, I was inspired every day. Pramis. Every day ako in love. There was a major shift in my mood and of my thoughts. I could say you are my happy pill. Now, whenever I saw him with his girl, my heart smiles and my mind says, “no regrets… just LOVE”. I bet this is it. I already conquered the process of moving on. And I would just like to thank you for being a part of my today. Happy valentine’s day!!! Love Love Love!

    NP Tuloy Pa Rin

  30. Renee says: Reply

    I love all your points. I especially love the fact that you mentioned that you do not need to be with someone to spend Valentines day. I do feel like that should always be the case (not only on Valentines Day). There are times when you need to spend it alone to clear your thoughts, relax and smell the roses.

    Thank you for using your blog (your voice) to inspire people especially the young ones.

    By the way, you really should consider writing a book. I know it is almost impossible with your schedule and all but you are talented. Your writing is engaging. It makes you wanna keep reading it no matter how long it is.

    1. Manilyn Layson says: Reply

      I agree…
      Napaka-inspirational ng mga nasusulat niya.
      I would love having one of her published books sana, in the near future.
      May God bless you more of good health and time Meng para mas marami ka pang mapasaya at ma-inspire. Thank You!

  31. Manilyn Layson says: Reply

    Hi Meng!
    I summarized your blog. At ito ang mga paborito kong advices mo…

    “Love isn’t something that you beg for; it is something that is given to you freely without questions asked. You deserve someone who will love you as much as you love them. Pray. Ask for His (God) guidance. Don’t waste your time fantasizing on a guy who doesn’t give a shit about you, you deserve better– and you’ll meet him soon, sa tamang panahon. Love someone without expecting anything in return, you’ll be happier.
    Being in a serious relationship is a big responsibility; it isn’t something you should make fun of. It’s very risky but you’ll know if someone is worth taking the risk.”

    Medyo naiiyak ako sa advices mong yan Meng. Katulad ng ibang nagcomment, NBSB din ako at ang masaklap 28 na ako. Kinakabahan na ako sa totoo lang.
    May dumadating naman at nagpaparamdam pero bakit ang hirap mag-risk? Ayokong tumandang dalaga. Pero ayoko ring magkamali.

    Thank you for writing this blog. In a way, you reminded me about the things I need to workout for myself. Gusto ko rin namang masubukang ma-inlove at masaktan. Sabi mo nga…
    “Whatever has to be done, it’s ALWAYS your CHOICE.”
    At babaunin ko nalang din itong sinabi mo…
    “Smile! It’s not the end of the world.”

    THANK YOU FOR UPDATING YOUR BLOG. SOBRANG NAKAKATUWA!

  32. sittie says: Reply

    age is just a number. maturity is another thing. dami kaya ng may edad na pero di pa mature. and your views are very much welcomed. next time a friend comes crying over a broken relationship, i’ll open this blog entry and make that friend reads it. quiz na lang kami pagkatapos. i am glad that you are writing again, has the time to write.

    1. Pinkamss says: Reply

      You are really amainezing girl with your age. When I was at your age i didn’t have that kind of thinking that you have right now. Puro pa cute at dreaming that someday maging kami and right HINDI nangyari. But you are right it is a choice for a life is a choice to be HAPPY or miserable…I am happily married right now although there are “rollercoaster” sometimes but kebs lang para di magka wrinkles. I I just hope the young people have the chance to think about love..how they would accept if they failed. And the power of prayer. So if you feel like going to the beach go girl at pki post ha para marami kaming happy. Happy Valentines! SMILE…

  33. Rich says: Reply

    Hmm… About moving on, true enough to say that its really about acceptance. If I may add, its also about self respect.

    I am part of “Iniwan” and because I really do not commit that easy (im already 28 when i had my 1st) I am serious with my relationship. It took me 3yrs to really really say I have moved on. And piece of advice lang never skip a process of moving on.
    1. In denial stage
    2. Hurting stage
    3. Hoping stage
    4. Acceptance stage
    5. Life decision of where to start again

    Savor every stage of the process. Di pwede fast forward coz you will end up doing the whole process again.

    With all the hurt Ive experienced I can say I am much stronger now. (Fyi: kasama ko pa s work ngyn ang ex-bf at wife nya) but Im definitely fine with it. God is so good He gives everything I need.

    1. Kaw na Rich ang naka-move on! I think mas mahirap ngayon dahil sa social media, kita lahat ng posts, especially yung masaya sila moments. Pero tama ka, go through the process and emerge stronger than before. Mahirap, pero kaya!

  34. Rich says: Reply

    Thank you for blogging again Maine. Love to read your writtings. Your age doesn’t really define what you know. Its about how you live your life and learn from it. We all have different experiences and from it we all gain wisdom. God bless you always. Rest din ikaw, wag abusuhin ang katawan we want to see more of you in this lifetime. ❤️

  35. Anonymous says: Reply

    Best part:

    If there is actually one thing I’ve learned about love, it is to love someone without setting any expectations. Love them lang, make them your inspiration. Do things that will make them smile, make them happy, ganoin! Don’t expect them to do same for you; most especially don’t expect them to love you back in the same level you love them– because it is not always going to happen. Not every person you’ll love will love you back. That’s a FACT. Love someone without expecting anything in return, you’ll be happier.

    I’m a guy and I know this post is written from a woman’s perspective but I must say, sobrang tinamaan ako… Thanks for this post! Kudos to you Menggay!

    1. theargelan says: Reply

      same here… I found myself guilty with this part… bcoz this was exactly the reason why I broke up with him… I loved and gave my best effort to let him feel loved and I expected that he will do the same…. I felt tired n disappointed when he didn’t met my expectations (broke up even if we’re more than 8 yrs na n first bf 🙂 )

      for now.. I look forward to the day that I will meet someone who will make me realized why it didn’t worked with my ex.

      thanks for this post.. looking forward for your next blog post 🙂

  36. DonBoga says: Reply

    Salamat dito, Meng!

    It’s 4am at biglang pumasok sa isip kong iopen ulit itong blog mo. Sa gitna ng paghanap ko ng mga nakakatawang vids sa youtube, including mga pick up lines niyo at mga kalokohan ni Kuya Jose, para mapawi yung lungkot na ngayon ko na lang ulit naramdaman, eto andito ako sa blog mo.

    Simula nung nagcomment ako sa VDAY playlist mo, di ko alam kung isa yung comment ko sa nabasa mo, pero swak dito sa sagot mo na write up eh.

    Anyway, hindi ko inakala na babalik lahat ng lungkot at sakit. Kahapon ko lang ulit naikwento yun at nagkataon pa na dito sa blog mo. Siguro dahil na rin naging sentimental ako sa mga kanta.

    Hindi ko alam kung paano ako magrereact. Lalo sa part ng 2 POVS. Yung sa nang iwan at iniwan. Wala kasi ako dun eh. At masakit para sakin na hanggang ngayon hindi ko alam kung saan ilulugar yung sarili ko. Kailangan ba may sisihin ako kung bakit nagkaganun.

    Yung relationship ko sa ex-girlfriend ko ay hindi ordinaryo. Yes, parehas kami ni Direk Pat ng preference. (Hi, Direk!)

    Dumating sa point na “kinailangan” naming maghiwalay sa kadahilanang dumating siya sa point na gusto na niyang magkapamilya. Yung totoong pamilya. Yung normal na may asawa at anak siya. Ang masakit, hindi ko kayang ibigay yun. Umabot na rin sa point na ramdam ko na yung kagustuhan niyang kumalas sa kung anong meron kami.

    At dahil mahal na mahal ko siya, wala akong nagawa kundi hayaan siya. Hayaan na lang na tapusin namin yung relasyon na meron kami para makapag umpisa siya ulit. Malas ko lang siguro dahil hanggang ngayon, hindi ko pa rin matutunan na tumigil na mahalin siya.

    Yes, mahal na mahal ko pa rin siya. Lagi ko na lang iniisip at pinagdadasal na sana palagi lang siyang maging masaya kasama yung magiging asawa niya.

    Oo, ikakasal na siya..

    Masakit sobra pero wala naman akong magagawa. At wala naman na rin akong balak gawin pa. Sadyang nalulungkot lang siguro ako tuwing maaalala ko lahat ng pinagsamahan namin. At siguro andito lang din kasi sa puso ko yung takot na magmahal pa ulit. Haaaaay! Wala eh. Siguro ganun talaga.

    So, ayun lang. Salamat dito sa blog mo at kahit papano ay nailabas ko ulit lahat. Marami kang naiinspire, Meng.

    Kasama ka sa prayers ko. All the best!

  37. Kristinapai says: Reply

    Fave part (aside “sa Love isn’t something you beg for”) : “There are a lot of things that you need to take into consideration. It won’t be easy, it’s going to be really hard but it’s going to be worth it. ”

    You definitely rock ate Meng!(ate kita kasi mas matanda ka sakin ng 2 years :* )
    Grabe. Yung mga signs na kalimutan ko na ung heartbreak ko last year, eto sinasampal ako. Yung mga sinabi mo, parang kadugtong nung pinayo sa akin. Tipong wala na akong nasabi kundi “oo eto na nga, eto na nga, magmomove on na eh”. Mahirap mag move on, lalo na kung di mo maiwasan na balikan. Tipong, naghohold back ka kasi baka masaktan ka lang ulit, tulad ng nangyari ganun. May mga bagay na walang ibang pinapaalala sayo kundi SIYA. Jusme.

    Pero sige, pray lang tayo. Dadating din naman siguro ung taong nakatakda para sa bawat isa sa atin, sa tamang panahon.

    God bless ate meng! Keep writing coz ur inspiring! Mwah mwah :*

  38. Nancy Jeannette says: Reply

    Yeyy nag update ka uli love reading your blog.
    Ganda ng mga advice mo. Oh sa mga di pa makapagmove dyan basahin nyo to makakapulot kayo ng maraming tips 20 years old lang ang nag aadvice ha pero malalim may hugot. Tama ka Maine acceptance is the key kasi nga naman kung di mo matanggap na wala na kayo talagang di ka makakapagmove on dahil parati mo na lang babalikan kung ano ang meron kayo DATI. Eh DATI na nga as in nakalipas na natapos at nawala na PAST na tapos na kaya dapat kahit medyo may kirot pa O masakit pa eh dapat magmove on na. Tandaan tumatakbo ang ORAS at PANAHON hindi yan hihinto upang hintayin ka kung kelan ka handang magmove on. MIND over MATTER

  39. Ann says: Reply

    It’s true it’s within you after all. Happiness is a choice. If you’re miserable today or if you feel miserable because of the fast approaching V-day is because that’s the path you chose. You’re the decision-maker of your own emotion. It’s up to you to feel whatever you want to feel and you’re in that situation because that’s where you want to go.

    About moving on, I think it’s a process. Just don’t skip and go through every process of moving on. At first you’re still in denial of why you’re brokenhearted and it’s normal. you feel like why em I in this situation or no I’m not going through this broken-hearted stage. You’re in between crying and be strong stage. After that denial stage, you’ll go through anger. You will be angry at everything even God, to the people surrounding you and life itself. You’ll get angry and it’s normal because you’re in the process of grieving. After your anger subsides, you feel like bargaining to go back with him or no, stop, you’re relationship is dead-end already. You’re trying to bargain your pride and love. The next step of moving on is the hardest part. If you will be stuck to this process, then you will forever grieve and will not move-on. In this part, you feel depressed. Magkulong sa kwarto, ayaw kumain or kumain ng todo-todo, cry a lot. Feel like your only shoulder to lean on is your pillow. This stage is very depressing indeed that it keeps on breaking your heart. But after going through this different stages, then acceptance follows. It may be for a short period of time or because of that attachment or level of seriousness, it will take a long time. Acceptance can come depending on that person. But one thing is for sure, IT WILL COME. (One piece of advice- don’t skip the steps of moving on because you’ll end up going through the process again)

    What got me in your blog is on loving someone without any expectations. I agree with that. If you love just simply love. If you love, don’t expect the same love to be given unto you. That’s how unconditional love takes place. If you’ve learned how to love without condition then you know how to just simply love. Let me cite my favorite Bible verse regarding unconditional love. It’s John 3:16.

    Thanks Menggay for your time in updating your blog. Because of your wide array of fans now, with this blog of yours, it will be a big help especially to your teenager fans to take love one step at a time. They will learn how to cope-up with whatever their going through regarding love. Love, love, love.

  40. Nancy Jeannette says: Reply

    Continue writing Maine ang ganda ng mga advice mo malaman parang hindi 20 years old ang nag aadvice. Continue to inspire more people.

  41. Aleyyah H. Ebrahim says: Reply

    Nice one maine. You can be a good adviser or probably you can be a good writer.

    Nakarelate ako sa mga sinabi mo. I’ve been to it long time ago yang Broken heart ache na yan, and it takes several years to move on. and yah you are actually right. moving on is not easy, that it could vanish right a way like a dust but the thing is if you accepted it whole heatedly, isang araw marerealize mo nalang okey kana. You are ready for a new relationship or if not you will find your self happy ulit kahit single. just like what happen to me.

    And as an additional sa sinulat mo maine, tulad ng sabi ni Lola Nidora na minsan ang pagmamahal ay pagsasakripisyo para sa taong mahal mo.

    kung may mga taong iniwan, try to understand nalang why they do that. At certain point, lahat ng bagay may rason at minsan mahirap satin na intindihin un. And yes you are right. We don’t have to be stuck! Find ways to cope with it. Go out side and have fun. Don’t close your door, malay mo mahahanap mo din true love mo. ung hindi ka nya sasaktan o iiwan. O kung hindi man atleast you have tried. Ang Love ay kaakibat na ng sakit. Love Hurts nga but life doesn’t have to end that way. LOVE your self first before loving someone else, kasi kung lahat binigay mo na at hnd kana nagtira para sa sarili mo, at the end of the day ikaw parin ang masasaktan ng paulit ulit. Live your life to the fullest. ENJOY. Don’t let your past ruin your future. you have a good life ahead as i agreed.

    One day you will realize na lahat ng nangyari ay parte nalang ng nakaraan na pwedeng balik balikan. Gawing inspirasyon ang karanasan na pwedeng ikwento o maging babala sa susunod na henerasyon.

    P.S.
    Salamat Maine sa sinulat mo dito. Nag enjoy ako sa pagbabasa. Ang galing mo and you are truly an inspiration to us. I LOVE YOU Maine… Kayo ni ALDEN 🙂 Happy Valentines day sa inyong dalawa.

  42. Gigi says: Reply

    Hi Maine;

    I agree on your post that “This Valentines, you don’t need someone to accompany you. You could spend the day by yourself” Treat your self. Take a page out of Tom Haverford and Donna Meagle’s book from “Parks and Recreation” and treat your self. V-day is normally a lavish affair where you spend money on your significant other. Well, this V-day, turn that around and treat yourself! Be your own Valentine and pamper yourself. Buy yourself that gift you did not get during the holidays or go to a spa and have a full day of pampering. Most importantly, declare it a ME day and just do whatever the hell you want to do….

  43. Khryss says: Reply

    You’re perfectly right. You don’t need to please someone just to love you back. Kakapagod un! Love love love lang dpt.
    Basta ako if im depressed or broken hurted i just go to the beach here in our place(island kc)…. and remenisce. Ganoin. The uwi na kc move on na.
    Happy vday meng.

  44. liezel says: Reply

    Hi,Maine..so happy n nkpgsulat k ulit..twice n for this month h..s kgya q nkpg daan n s gnyn..(i’m happily married n)..mssabi q lng..PRAYER tlga ang pinaka mhlaga..un nsa taas lng kc tlga nkkaalam ng lhat..madali mg move on kung nkkapit k lng s Kanya..i guess s khit ano pgsubok s buhay..God Bless u more Maine..keep on writing..xx

  45. Espie says: Reply

    Snap out of it, watch Ridiculousness. .get a good laugh..too much drama is bad for you and those around you..
    Maine I agree with earlier comments here..reading this parang hindi ikaw..I was more busy thinking what the heck..sobra namang naka bilib ang batang ito..

  46. jessa brioso says: Reply

    paano ba? ang magmahal? echos!! ang haba ng update mo pero worth it basahin.. kagaya ng sabi mo MAINE. i’ll spend time with myself.. muni muni muna, isip isip kung may kulang ba ko or may mali saken. ACCEPTANCE leads to MATURITY! echos!!! haha magthank you kay GOD, kasi i’m happy with my family tsaka kay idol. haha happy vday! i hope you’ll be happy this vday. hey! spend time with your special someone (betterhalf or bf-f haha) have a great month ahead!

  47. tee says: Reply

    I believe, if you’re meant to be, kahit anong mangyari, kayo pa din. Divine intervention. That’s what happened to me & my husband.

  48. Superbowl morning! Pat on the back for yet another productive Sunday. I read a quote that says writing allows someone to know themselves more. As you ’teach’ us, you also go deeper in knowing who you really are.

    Love is a funny thing, whenever I give it, it comes back to me. Yey Jason Mraz! But I remember when I was younger (hahahahahahaha), I want to fall in love so badly. Gusto ko all in lagi. Magmahal kung magmamahal. Masaktan kung masasaktan. Walang guards, walang walls. All of me. Pero smart ako ha. Natakot sa judgement si lola?! What I mean is, give it all you have. Because when you look back, even through the hearteaches, I am proud that I gave my all. I am proud I was used, not the one who used. I am proud I did the right thing, even if it meant being broken in the end.

    Kaya totoo yung sinasabi ni Lola, papunta ka pa lang pabalik na sya. I am praying my kids would find love the clean way. I am praying for true love to find them when they are done accepting and loving themselves. Na yung love story nila may approval ng pamilya at godly. That’s the sweetest, and that lasts.

    Hay! Happy hay from Lola TamsLabs!

  49. Tracy Acosta says: Reply

    Hi Ms. Maine 🙂 I and my ex broke up 2 years ago and our relationship last for 4 years. Honestly, I am still in the moving on process. Thanks to you I am enlighten up a little. Happy Valentines, our Menggay♡ I love you.

  50. Mae says: Reply

    Awww haha true hnd kailangan mag hanap ng jowa sa Vday may mga family kayo db tska may mga friends kayo, sakanila nlang natin icelebrate ang Vday thanks for advice maine

  51. Tina Brizo says: Reply

    Ang galing galing mong magsulat menggay! Sapul na sapul sakin eh.. Bakit ka ganyan! Feels like you’re talking to me face to face!
    My favorite part of your blog?

    “If there is actually one thing I’ve learned about love, it is to love someone without setting any expectations. Love them lang, make them your inspiration. Do things that will make them smile, make them happy, ganoin! Don’t expect them to do same for you; most especially don’t expect them to love you back in the same level you love them– because it is not always going to happen. Not every person you’ll love will love you back. That’s a FACT. Love someone without expecting anything in return, you’ll be happier.“

    Yan yung sense ng christmas message ko sakanya.. Hindi ko ginagawa ung mga bagay na ginagawa ko para mahalin din nya ko.. Gusto ko lang makita na masaya sya, solve na ko. Mas masarap magmahal kung hindi ka mageexpect kase masasaktan ka lang.. Hahaha.. Mahalin mo lang sya sa paraang alam mo, hindi man nya masuklian yung love na yun, keri lang.. That’s life. Hindi lahat ng gusto mo nakukuha mo.. Basta alam mong masaya sya, masaya kana din.. Hahaha..

    Thanks sa blog mo meng! Sarap basahin.. At ang sarap magmahal dahil jan. Hahaha.. Happy balemtyms day! Love you!

  52. Maricar Ponge says: Reply

    Waaaaah! Grabe ka Maine, di ko alam kung bakit pero panay luha ko habang binabasa ko’to. Kasi ako ang taong NBSB, no bf since birth, pero hoping to have that someone someday (sa TAMANG PANAHON). Honestly, akala ko, I found him, pero hindi pa pala, ako yata yung sinasabi mo na parang tanga, hahahaha, pero kasi wala namang ibang nakakaalam ng feelings ko kundi ako lang, hehe. Ang sakit sakit kasi feeling ko broken hearted ako. Di ko maishare kahit kanino as in ako lang nakakaalam, nakwento ko ng konti sa bestie ko pero di nya alam kung sino, basta umiyak lang din ako sa kanya. Ito, last ko na ‘to na iiyak, ayoko na, para move on na. Thanks for sharing your ideas.

    “Pray. Feel your negative emotions in the presence of God. Ask for His guidance. Don’t blame him for what’s happening to your life, it happened for a reason. (And you’ll know what the reason is–eventually) Know that He’s not going to let you go through something He knows you couldn’t handle. Pagsubok lang yan sa life. You are not the only one who gets to face such kind of problem; some people have it worse than you. Give thanks.”

    This sadness has turned into joy when I received a message from God that He has prepared the best Man for me.
    Thank you Maine, God bless you always!

  53. Mon Mendoza says: Reply

    Nicomaine,

    You speak and think well beyond your age.

    I would probably have my 19-year old daughter read your blog as there are definite lessons to be picked up. Good pointers. Tough, but like they said, you cannot move to the next chapter of your life if you keep looking back at the previous ones. Life indeed, complicated. It’s not fair either.

    From somebody that has been married for 22 years, I would say that what has been said here also applies even when you are already married. The moving on part? True. Moving on in terms of petty quarrels and arguments that husband-wife/father-mother encounter. Serious relationship? DEFINITELY.

    Those that know me and my wife still could not believe that we ended up together. Some, even until now. I mean, we are literally worlds apart in terms of interests. She acts as the ‘functional eldest’in their family (she is the youngest) while I was the, err, dysfunctional youngest (?) in mine (I am the eldest but minsan gusto bumalik sa pagiging 12-year old). We started of as good friends, and honestly, I just enjoyed being with her. Mababaw lang for some, but I really just enjoyed sharing stories with her. She was a very simple woman, then and even until now.

    Definitely not my ideal woman – actually the exact opposite, but I guess that was the reason why I popped the question after 2 years of being boyfriend-girlfriend. I definitely fell in love with the person within. It’s true what they say – people age, grow old, and one day all that was once beautiful outside will fade, and what remains will be whatever is inside you. She is a very good wife and mother, and I look forward growing old with her for the rest of my life.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and meaningful advise through your blog. Continue to be a positive influence for today’s youth. I am expecting to be dishing out some of what you said as my 19-year old daughter starts going through these in her life. I will need all the help I can get, LOL.

    God Bless you, anak.

  54. Kath says: Reply

    You have said it very well, Maine! Thank you! God bless you more Stay positive, stay happy, stay inlove!❤️

  55. pauline marras says: Reply

    Sa lahat ng sinabi mo Meng.. mas lalo ako napaisip..you’re very intelligent! Even a person who’s not love guru can give thos love advices.. I only have one question… Since you’ve said there’ll be someone na darating sa tamapang panahon who will love you unconditionally… Nahanap mo na ba siya? I’m just curious..ano ba ang hinahanap mo sa guy at how would you know if it’s already the right guy and if it’s tamang panahon na?

    But most of all.. by praying…
    He’ll giv….the right guy…
    based on experience… 🙂

  56. Patrick says: Reply

    Nicomaine! Ikaw talaga! I thought you weren’t reading those comments from us. You’re soooo sweeeeet! I admit, akala ko you’ll just approve those comments to be posted but I didn’t realize na magrereply ka pa to everyone through another blog. Hahaha. Napaka-amazing mo talaga kase in a way, yes, what can a 20year old like you say about moving on nga naman diba? But how you said those things about moving on and love, isa ka na rin sa living proof na maturity isn’t really defined by age. It’s all in the head. It’s how you think, it’s how you understand things, it’s how things can be viewed from your own perspective. Ang galing!! Sadly, onting tao lang ang may ganyan klaseng pagiisip sa generation natin nowadays. You just really continue to amaze me. I must admit na if ever in the future maging kayo ni Richard, he would be the most blessed guy in this planet! Kase diba? Ano pa bang hahanapin ng isang lalaki sa isang Nicomaine Mendoza? Eh, lahat na nasayo. I hope and pray Maine, magbago ka man in the future, you’ll turn out to be better than what you are right now. Hindi naman tayo kase forever na ganitong klaseng tao, somehow, magbabago’t magbabago tayo pero yung pagbabago bang tinutukoy ko, eh, pagbabago sa pagiging mas maayos na tao. Syempre, yung principles na natutunan natin sa parents natin remains the same, standard na yun eh. Anyway, salamat ulit, napahanga mo na naman ako ng sobra at ang ibang million fans/supporters/admirers mo. Keep it up, more people will like you and I know you don’t so these things to be liked by everyone, I know for sure na ikaw talaga yang ganyang klaseng tao kahit di tayo close. Hahaha. Your parents are so blessed to have a daughter like you and I admire them for bringing you up ng ganyan. Cheers to your tatay and nanay! 🙂 Thank you, Nicomaine! Sana if ever magkita tayo one time, if I remind you about this, matandaan mo ako. Hahaha Take care!

  57. Babsy says: Reply

    Impressive ha … for someone your age. Pero eto, yung nanay ng ex ko na nag comfort sa akin nung naghiwalay kami told me “you have lived your life without him for the past years na di mo pa siya kilala so you could do it forward” … but not long after that naghiwalay sila ng husband niya at kahit wala na kami ng ex ko I felt it was my duty to stay beside her and comfort her … then she told me … “I was so strong in giving you advice that time but iba pala pag nasa situation ka na … kahit alam mo na kung ano ang tamang gawin parang nabubuang ka.” MENG you have your blog, you have your friends, you have your family … pag dumating ang point na yun sa buhay mo … EXPRESS yourself lang … time heals … It was a rough ride for me pero I have moved on and tita as well who found a new partner in life.

  58. Shania Valdriz says: Reply

    What a helpful blog entry. Thank you! Youre right, its not the end of the world! HAPPY VALENTINES MAINE! Hoping that you and Alden have a DATE! Yieee. ♥♥♥

  59. Marie Zamora says: Reply

    Nicely written, you’re an awesomely talented young lady. Keep on writing.

    Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (ESV)

  60. Anne Teodoro says: Reply

    Dearest Maine,
    Hi! Wow grabe ang daming replies nitong entry mo na to… Malamang di mo na mababasa ito so ilalabas ko na ang mga saloobin ko dito hehehe.
    I admire how confidently you write ur blogs.
    I just felt the need to comment kase its all about being hurt and moving on…
    I am a 40 year old mom of two young men (22 & 17) never been with anyone else but their father. When he decided to be with another woman but still be with me, i helped him made that possible. at that time i wanted all the hurt to stop but i felt that it would hurt me more to totally loose him. But i never stop praying, not for him to change or leave his mistress or stay but for me to stop hurting, for me to endure all the pain & to be numb. It took me 10 years to have the courage to physically leave him.
    Me and my boys moved to Seattle and left Manila 3 years ago. Its been 7 months since i last spoke to him over the phone (face time)
    I just realise now that Aldub helped me move on. My attention was diverted to you guys (aside from my busy work sched) 7 months ago i used to look forward to face timing him when i get off from work, now it is seeing you that i look forward to everyday.updates on twitter, ig, facebook & snap chat. So thank you!
    we have our own ways of moving on and coping and that is how i did it! Now i am spending my Vday with my new friends and my family just like our ordinary weekend.
    I am not waiting, praying or hoping for a new Love to come along but if and when it does I would be happy to welcome it. Again, I am ready to give Love with out expectations and to take the risk with out inhibitions.
    Thank you Maine, Good Luck and God Bless you always.

  61. Brent Ian says: Reply

    Wew! Cynical! 🙂

  62. Anonymous101 says: Reply

    You are worthy of all the admiration. Thanks for existing Maine! :))) Aldub you!

  63. Roseville misuelo says: Reply

    Tama po ate Maine ang valentines ay Hindi Lang para sa mag boyfriend at girlfriend ito ay para sa lahat nang mga nagmamahal dahil maraming meaning yung love may love kay god love sa family love sa friend love kay bestfriend love sa enemy love sa special someone love sa kapitbahay oh diba may ganoin hahaha ganun dapat kahit di mo kakilala mahalin mo ahahaha joke lang..Hindi ko po naiisio na ikaw po ay 20 years old lang dahil po nainspired ako sa pagbababasa nang blog niyo ang galing niyo po talaga at grabe English pa po lahat ang galing niyo po talaga at natutunan ko po sa blog niyo nah dapat ang salitang move on ay dapat ginagawa Hindi sinasabi lang dapat gawin talaga ganoin hahahaha ang hirap kayang magsulat nang blog at nakakainspired pah may matutunan ka talaga thank you ate Maine kahit nakakapagod mag type at nakakasakit magisip nang ilalagay ay ginagawa kaya fan na fan niyo po talaga ako at minamahal kayo nang mga Tao.. aaminin ko ate maine sa tanang buhay ko ngayun lang ako naging fans nang isang love team na kahit mapagalitan nang amo dahil kakatili dahil nakikilig po ako sa inyo ni kuya alden dedma lang yan go parin.. alam po bah ate Maine sa bahay nang amo ko ako lang ang nanunuod nang kalyeserye dahil sa kabilang channel Nila gusto kahit sinasabihan nilang panget daw nakikipagaway talaga ako sa amo ko maipagtanggol ko lang kayo pero kebs lang yun hahahaha marami talaga akong natutunan sa pagbasa nang blog niyo at umaasa nah may magmamhal din sa akin katulad ni kuya alden nah ipagsisigwan at ipapakita sa buong mundo nah mahal na mahal ka kailagan mong maghintay nang tamang panahon dahil ang sabi nga ni lola nidora na ang lahat nang bagay ang mangyayari sa tamang panahon kaya kebs ka lang Jan hahahahaha.. sana Makita ko nah kayong dalawa ni kuya alden at makapagpapicture man lang sabi nga ni Barbara sastre nah makapagpapicture Lang kahit nah blurred hahahaha dahil sa inyo ni kuya alden ate Maine naniniwala talaga akong may forever sana nga p.o. diba dahil naniniwala din akong may forever ang pangarap ko namakapagpapicture sa inyo kahit na blurred hahahaha naniniwala nah ako sa forever simula na nuod ako nag kalyeserye may natutunan rin ako Sayo ate maine nah kapag may pangarap ka kailangan mung paghirapan at dapat magsisimula kah sa baba para unti2x mo itong maaabot Baka ito ay mangyayari sa tamang panahon. God bless po sa inyong dalawa ni kuya I will be your number 1 ni kuya alden forever and ever and ever tandaan niyo po ano man ang mangyayari d ko kayo iiwan hahahahaha sana makakapagpaicture nama ako sa inyo kahit blurred lang (Barbara sastre mode) thank you po god bless take care always.

    P.s. SANA maibigay ko po Sayo ang birthday gift ko..

  64. Anne says: Reply

    Well said Menggay. 🙂 Been single for two years. Just like any others Vday is not something you need to have that “special someone” to make the Vday to be special. And for that moving on thingy to be that paano ba well you’re right “acceptance is the key”. I always keep in mind your qoute Be miserable or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it ALWAYS your CHOICE. 🙂 Let’s face it sometimes we have this feeling out of nowhere we feel this melancholy that you couldn’t fathom what is it. Personally experience after all those dark years (call it that way not that worse huh?) i began to open myself to HIM. From then and now whenever i feeling down i just pray. It really helps. To HIM nothing is impossible. We just need to be thankful for everything. ♥ Thank you for sharing your thoughts about moving on. Advance Happy Valentines Day Maine. ♥♥♥

  65. Joni Bautista says: Reply

    Hi Maine,

    As I read through this, I can’t help but be incredibly impressed by how much control you have over your emotions. It is quite comforting to know you have that command over it. Unlike me, when I was your age. Now 24, I still have much to learn. I was 18 when I lost my TOTGA. Until now, I can’t really say I have quite moved on. How can I when we remain to be the best for friends until now?. I have learned to accept the fact that it’s never going to work between us. That the reason why it all ended was because the distance between us (Pinas-Washington State) was just too unbearable. But he was my Noah and yes, I am quite the hopeless romantic. Never have I had a Vday as special as the ones I’ve spent with him, which is why for the past years I’ve learned to just brush it all off. Bitter I guess, would be the perfect term. I haven’t been able to commit to someone fully since then, mostly because I’ve been scared of the feeling of loss that comes with every heart ache. A pain that almost swallows you whole. I’ve done most of the things you said. I have focused on bettering myself, living a healthy lifestyle, making a name for myself career wise, spending all the love I can give for my family. But at days like these, I can’t help but ask myself how and where will I find someone that deserves my love and his in return. They say love is not something that you look for, it finds its way to you. It’s been years, and I haven’t had any luck. I’m almost at the brink of just giving up. People keep saying that my TOTGA and I still have this big chance of getting back together, with the way things are with us now it seems we both can’t get a break with our failed relationships after what we had. But I’ve long since given up on the fact that it will happen someday. Things have been great, I’ve recently gotten promoted and in my solitude, I have learned to love myself a lot. I’ve watched movies alone, ate out alone, work out alone, discover new things and met new people alone, But I have days where I can’t help but feel lonely. Perhaps I’m just thinking too far ahead, I’m trying to enjoy things as they are now. Day by day, trying to live life as best I can. But when I look far into the future, I no longer see myself being with someone and it scares me. No one wants to grow old alone. I think that’s my biggest fear. My friends and family urge me to go out more, I do. I guess I have to wait for the right person to come, but its been years. I’m not even sure now that I’ll come across him. Or maybe I just wasn’t looking hard enough. But again though, your blog post has given me comfort. So I’d like to thank you for that. Knocks some sense into a 24 year old’s unreal fantasies. 🙂

  66. Sador Ikin says: Reply

    One question: How long did this post took you to develop?

    As an introvert, you indeed had thought this matter all too well in your laboratory of the mind. Very mature, brave, insightful, definitely helpful.

    I could be a father for you hence I had worries indeed before this your “Paano Ba”, how you may fall prey to vultures in showbiz. But after reading this piece, am quite confident you can fend for yourself. You even can be intimidating to any male, even to Alden I suppose, ha ha, and I consider that good or helpful, for you.

    Continue, with what you are doing now. Your being true and natural had endeared you to many. Many men claim AlDub, especially you, had taught them to truly love, value or treasure the relationships they have at present.

    ps: Your uncanny capacity to cause what you wished for to happen in reality, makes me believe, you simply are living in deja vu.

  67. Jen Alavazo says: Reply

    I’m 36 yrs old and have had my fair share of heartbreak. Like, pang-teleserye kind of heartbreak, ganoin. If I were to write a blog post about my lovelife, it would mirror what you have written above. Age is not a gauge of knowledge of love but emotional maturity, capacity to understand feelings and thoughts of others (empath), and personal experience. Your mind, my dear, is a goldmine — rich, valuable and vivacious. Now that I’ve ready this entry, I’m not worried about you anymore Nicomaine. You possess a quiet strength and a rare capability to understand & differentiate feelings. You will find your happiness in His own time.
    P.S. I found my happiness eventually. Got married 5 years ago and we have a son. It is indeed true — that when you find who God gave to you, you will understand why it never worked out with anyone before.

  68. JM says: Reply

    “Feel your feelings” – This is one of my favorite advice to give people going thru some tough times. Our feelings are part of us & are meant to remind us we are alive so we need to well, FEEL them. Kasi in our world today, we always hear & get the advice ro just move past our emotions, overcome our feelings. I say, no! Feel your feelings. Kelangan yan. Feelings are not good or bad, they JUST ARE & that’s why we must let them BE. But like you said, Maine, we must also know when it’s time to stop wallowing in our feelings. Once we have allowed them to come out, we must turn our feelings into something productive. Then the moving on part will start.

    Thanks again for sharing your thoughts with us, Maine.

  69. Very well-written post. I never been a fan like this before, only now, with you and Alden. There is so much more about you guys behind the scenes that made me admire and adore you both.

    Going back to your post, the process in moving on like we learn in any medical-related course, the first thing in the process is DENIAL, at first hindi talaga natin kayang tanggapin yung reality esp if you invested a lot of emotions and time. Then comes ANGER, you’ll think that niloko ka nya at lahat ng possibilities na pwede kasi ikaw itong sinaktan. You’ll then BARGAIN, you’ll ask him for another try in the relationship. Hanggang sa mapagod kana kakahabol sa kanya you’ll be DEPRESS, you will pity yourself for asking him to rekindle your relationship. Reflectioning your worth and you’ll regain back into your senses. In this process you’ll then reach ACCEPTANCE. Don’t rush yourself moving on, its a Normal Process, we can Control, YES. But there will always come a time that you’ll end up doing this again.

  70. Cris Lee says: Reply

    This is a very heartwarming compisition coning from a 20year old lady. You are like my kid to me. I always share your blogs with my 2 teens aging 19 & 16 especially how they should handle heartaches when it comes. Both of them are havinfg suitors bt not attached yet. I always tell them to be very xareful when it cones to relationship. Though I am very close to them, there are things that I couldn’t tell ’em as I do not know how to to execute or deliver it in a more “teenager” way by not sounding like an old lady or preacher. By sharing your blogs & your advices with them helped me connect with them in a more “fun” & cuter” ways with of course kilig!!! Pati ako kinikilig na rin! I guess I am one of the fortunate in love as I found someone who really takes good care & pampers me even after 20years if marriage. Thanks for sharing your blogs publicly. Continue to be true to yourself as we love u the way u are. You are an inspiration to many. Your parents must be very proud of you coz I am! Of course, Love your parents is the BEST!

  71. Louise Reyes says: Reply

    Ateng, sigurado kang 20 ka lang going on 21? Eh kung magpayo ka, para kang si Lola Nidora. haha. That’s a compliment, btw. You really sound wiser/mature than your age. A beautiful soul, may I add.

    Thanks for sharing. =)

  72. Cris Lee says: Reply

    This is a very heartwarming composition coming from a 20year old lady. You are like my kid to me. I always share your blogs with my 2 teens aging 19 & 16 especially how they should handle heartaches when it comes. Both of them are having suitors bt not attached yet. I always tell them to be very careful when it comes to relationship. Though I am very close to them, there are things that I couldn’t tell ’em as I do not know how to to execute or deliver it in a more “teenager” way by not sounding like an old lady or preacher. By sharing your blogs & your advices with them helped me connect with them in a more “fun” & cuter” ways with of course kilig!!! Pati ako kinikilig na rin! I guess I am one of the fortunate in love as I found someone who really takes good care & pampers me even after 20years if marriage. Thanks for sharing your blogs publicly. Continue to be true to yourself as we love u the way u are. You are an inspiration to many. Your parents must be very proud of you coz I am! Of course, Love your parents is the BEST!

  73. MaiDen Super Fan says: Reply

    THIS! Haaays nakakarelate. Ang ganda superb!

  74. rancy says: Reply

    Hi Meng 🙂 wala naman sa age yan kung paano sosolusyunan ang problema lalo na pagdating sa pag-ibig ,wala din yan sa experiences as Long as Alam Mo Yung Dapat gawin…
    I love reading your blog I Learned a lot most Specially sa mga english term mo na kasing lalim ng karagatan Hahaha (actually I hate English Medyo mahina Ako Pagdating Dyan)
    I Love you Meng Stay Who you Are No Matter What…

  75. Eve Lali says: Reply

    Hi,

    So many wonderful insights…you’re only twenty and I am twenty two and..married to a wonderful husband who’s twenty five years old. Maybe I am just lucky not to go through all those heartbroken scenarios and all those feelings. But I remember that I always prayed to God for someone to love who would be really worth loving and all those superlatives. Right, no expectations, just simply giving happiness and comfort to each, supporting each other through bad and good times, arguing over little things that matter and at times don’t matter at all, being able to accept maybe he is right and you are right and he accepts it as well; showing flaws and faults here and there , and you simply accept and keep thinking that this person is all worth it. And he is, we got married young, we are financially independent which is good for us, we understand who we are with all our flaws, and pray a lot for guidance and strength. Two years ago we met, went steady after five months and got engaged for nine months and got married July 18,2015. We celebrate Aldub’s monthsary every 16th, and we’re going on our 7th month as a married couple. Life is good. Maybe we found each other at the right time; and we just could not accept the unforeseen that in the future when we look back, we would feel sorry and say that ‘that girl/boy was the one who got away’. We took the plunge and we are together; maybe it was destiny, meant to be and nothing could stop us being together to our road to forever. Hope you would find yours, alden is a good person, raised well by his parents and he has such high respect for women; he would not hurt you and I really believe that he is sincere. Best of luck to you.

  76. Maya says: Reply

    Very well-written post! You really never fail to amaze me everytime. For the record, I’ve never been so much addicted being your fan – you and Alden. I always believe that both of you has so much behind the scenes. And that, you deserve all the blessings.

    Going back to your post, I agree – moving on is not easy. There is actually a process you will go through. In any medical related course we learn,
    DABDA. (1) DENIAL – in short, hindi mo kayang tanggapin ang katotoohanan. (2) ANGER – because you are hurt you will think of things that he has done to inflict you pain. Magagalit ka to the point na ilan beses mo sya isinusumpa, minumura at sinasabi ang lahat ng masama nyang ugali. (3) BARGAINING – then you’ll realize bottomline, Mahal Mo Pa Din Sya. You’ll try to reach him again, magmamakaawa ka, “sana ako pa rin…” You’ll everything as in everything to get him back. (4) DEPRESSION – dahil hindi mo sya makuha ulit, you’ll sulk in a corner and think of the things you have done. Slowly, you’ll reflect on the things. Ito yung state na walang wala ka na. (5) ACCEPTANCE – then you’ll realize your worth and that you need to go back to your senses. Walang ibang tutulong sa sarili mo kundi ikaw lang din.

    I agree that you can control your emotions. But most of the time that its there – it is really there. You can’t doubt about it anymore. We always end up taking risk. Moving On is really a process you can’t skip a stage, lahat yan mararanasan mo…

  77. happymum says: Reply

    Hi Maine!

    WWWOOOOOOOWWW!!!! GRABE KA! You know what, as time goes by…lalo mo akong pinapahanga and you inspire me so much at lalo kitang minamahal, as a wife, as a person and even as a mother…I hope sana I could raise my kids to be like you especially the way you think about life, as a wife because even on KS and in real life, lalo akong naiinlove sa asawa ko and appreciating him more and of corse to my self to think positively always and have faith in HIM. Also…I would like to thank your parents for raising you and your siblings well (hindi ganun kadali ‘yun para sa magulang) please extend my warm hello to them. Napakalaki ng naitulong mo sakin lalo na nung mga times na hirap ako mentally and physically due to my pre-term labor i needed to stay home at kayo ang nagpapasaya sakin…EB & KS Squad…MARAMING MARAMING SALAMAT!!!!…if not because of you guys, siguradong nahirapan ako lalo those times.
    Regarding your blog, we get to know you better and loving you more…hope to see you someday…you and A are always in my prayers…

    GOD Bless & STAY STRONG!

  78. jen, says: Reply

    Wow., You got it Maine., Nung una sabe ko Ayy Ang Haba .,pero at first it got my interest talaga., worth reading for., I’ll wait The Book Hahha., Nako Pag ginawan na to ng libro Bibili Talaga ko.,!! Should i say .,Bang., One O My Favourite Writter Indeed ,. Hahhaha., Basta Basta Ang Galing Galing Lang., I’ll Wait The Book To Come Up Hahha,. Ikaw Na Kaya Pala Waley Update Yesterday Kase She;s Busyy Writting .,Ang Galingg., sTARING fROM nOW I’ll go reading All her updates here ., Ofcourse even the past updates., Hayayayyy Meng ., INLOVE NA KO SAYO.,!!NANG sobraaa.,!!! God Bless .,Way To Go.,!!

  79. Debra says: Reply

    Hi Menggay,

    This blog entry made so happy. Meng I know that you are smart enough to be in this industry. I trust you. I know you know the difference between reel and real. I trust you, bunso.

    ” Don’t waste your time fantasizing on a guy who doesn’t give a shit about you, you deserve better– and you’ll meet him soon, sa tamang panahon.” – Maine Mendoza

  80. martin manankil says: Reply

    Nag lunch ka na?? 10:52 am na..ingat ka palagi.:) ohayo!

  81. rona says: Reply

    If you can fight for it, fight for it, if you can’t, accept it.

  82. Anya says: Reply

    Very well said Meng. We need to learn how to accept things ….
    “THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON”.

    VD is not just for special someone.. It’s love month. for everyone…. ! it could be your friend , your family…or even to your pets….. Spread LOVE………………..

  83. Kreng says: Reply

    Thank you for inspiring us through your blogs, snaps, photos and tweets 🙂 Love you meng! FOR REAL!

  84. Anya says: Reply

    Very well said Meng. We need to learn how to accept things ….
    “EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON”.

    VD is not just for special someone.. It’s love month. for everyone…. ! it could be your friend , your family…or even to your pets….. Spread LOVE………………..

  85. Allyn says: Reply

    It has been two years since my hubby passed away. Life gets tougher for I miss him everyday. We never celebrate Vday for the last 18 yrs of being together coz everyday for us is Valentine. I am not planning to “move on” yet.. his memories makes me “live on” every second of the day. Thank u for an inspiring POV. True love is a great experience to have. Enjoy it, cherish it. For one day you can always look back and say.. I had that Loving Feeling! Some people might lost their love one but the feeling last. 🙂

  86. Joahna Summerfield says: Reply

    What u wrote is actually true.. Been there, done that.. Pero really, the key to moving on is acceptance. Thanks maine for this. U really is an inspiration.. Love u mwaah!

  87. Paola says: Reply

    Nice post!
    My then bf of 5 years now husband of 4 years and I do not celebrate Valentine’s in a conventional way. I don’t like flowers lagi ko sinasabi, di ko naman makakain yan!
    We don’t go out on dates, we just usually stay home and watch DVDs. This year it’ll be a bit different, we’re watching Russell Peter’s show here in the country! Feb 22, 8pm. Check his videos out, I’m sure you’ll find him hilarious!
    Anyway. Keep writing and keep inspiring people with your own unique weirdness. Ü

  88. mary says: Reply

    I hope the next one that will be special into your life will be worth taking the risk … and will not break your heart again. (Whoever he is!) I loveyou Nicomaine. Keep Shining babygirl!

    1. mary says: Reply

      PS: always smile beautiful girl!

      PSS: you’re doing great! *clap clap* *virtual huggggggggggggggg*

  89. Mark Caballero says: Reply

    ‘Paano ba magmahal? Palagi bang masasaktan?’ Akala ko tungkol dun yung blog but at some point pwede ring ipasok. Well, I guess ganoon naman talaga ang love masasaktan ka kasi nagmamahal ka. And it’s not always about love when you say ‘moving on’ right? There are things in life that happen and you can’t do anything but to accept it and face the reality. Atleast at the end of the this situation you can say that learn something from it that makes you a better person, right? Yes it’s a long way to go, you’ll deny about it, be mad,at some point you’ll beg then be depressed before you can accept it but it’s worth the ride, right? Sorry if I am sharing my sentiments here, I just need to. Hahaha.
    Kudos to this ‘DJ meng’!!! By the looks of it you’ve gone through a lot to have that mature way of thinking. You are not really 20 years old, you are just fooling us right? Keep it up! As for me, more nosebleeds and earbleeds to come. English pa more!

  90. hi maine ☺
    ang ganda ng post mo ngayon super may natutunan ako dito. by the way I’m also 20 years old at NBSB. This coming valentines day as usual mag celebrate kami ng mga friends, ang saya din pagkasama mo sila..maiba lang ako sabi nila kailangan ko na daw magka bf,may nagpaparamdam naman at my nankiligaw pero nong tym na yon hindi pa ako ready kasi feel ko ang batang bata ko pa pero 18 na ako nung tym na yon..sa totoo lang kasi ayoko pang sumali sa mga ganyang relationship kasi natatakot akong masaktan ayaw ko kasing matulad sa mga friends ko na iniwan at nasaktan kaya ito ako ngayon naghihintay ng right guy at the right time and at the right place.chos! pero totoo gusto ko kasi ng first and last ☺ pero sabi nila wala na daw yon ngayon yong 1st and last.

  91. janeth says: Reply

    Love is a unconditional feeling..at binibigay to ng kusa..

    Hi maine..relate ako dun sa heartaches..but to tell you frankly,iniwan or nang iwan..are just minor heartaches for me..at para sa akin,ang dali lang lagpasan yan..I just want to share my story to you…dahil hindi sa relate ako..but to inspire everyone here that love is a feeling we must treasure…

    Back when i was 22( thats year 2014..and im now 24 *age doesnt matter) ive experienced terrible heartaches..ive lost two important person in my life..two person whom i lean on..whom i loved that much..my boyfriend(already looks like my fiancee/husband)..and my mother..
    Me and my boyfriend were almost two years and coming three years in relationship last 2014..but all of a sudden,last april 21,2014 after our monthsary(april 20) i receive a message and a call from his family that he was lost(nawawala)..and they couldnt find him everywhere..and being far from him..all i can do is to pray and hoping that nothing bad happened to him..at yun nga,after an hour his brother texted me na nasa hospital sya and 50/50 yung life nya,that time i dont know wat to feel..i dont know to do..but id tried my best, after that day..pumunta ako ng hospital,khit gaanu pa kalau kahit mgkalubog ako sa utang para sa pamasahe ko para mkapunta lang…after that,andun na kmi sa hospital ksama ko mother nya,i dont know what to say and dont know what to feel..ang sakit eh..im preparing myself to be strong and to accept whatever may happen.. *excuse,naaksidente po kasi boyfriend ko sa motor..and yung damage po is yung sa spinal cords nya crack,ung ribs nya crack din po..and ng iinternal bleeding pa po sya…that time na makita ko sya,hindi ko talga mpigilan ang pag iyak..ang sakit na mkita ko syang ganun..ang sakit2..after all,that time is the most treasure time ko sa lhat ng araw na mgkasama kmi..because that moment,khit hirap sa pagsasalita,he still says i love u to me..and still knows me..my mga sugat din po kasi sa ulo na..most po sa face nya..and april 24, 8am that time po sya binawian ng buhay..ang sakit..ang sakit sakit..hindi ko alam ang gagawin ko..i really dont know..hindi ko talga matanggap,after lahat ng paghihirap,sakit at saya na pinagdaanan namin, nwala na parang bula..and i thought yun ang pinakamasakit na mararamdaman ko..na pagdadaanan ko…apparently,i continue my life,back to work..still the pain is inside me..sakit eh..mahal na mahal mo ba namn..

    Aftermonths of pain,i tried to divert my attention to something that can lessen my aches..i smile..i laugh..everything..when september comes (same year)..yung mother ko naman yung nahospital,kasi sumasakit daw yung ulo nya at hindi makakain ng tama..labas pasok kmi sa hospital..october ganun din…november same pa rin..pero palala ng palala…at dahil ako lang yung anak nila na nandito at malapit sa kanila,most kasi sa mga kapatid ko is andyan na sa manila..ako yung lakad dito lakad doon..and it requires me time management..kasi during that time im already working..so need to manage it properly na hindi maapektuhan trabaho ko..tindi ng pinagdaanan ko..puyat dito puyat doon..balik tayo sa mother ko..yun na nga..we’ve done a lot of test and they doctors cant even recognize my mothers sickness..my mga bukol daw sa ulo yung mother ko..and again..another laboratories..kasi hinahanap yung main na bukol hindi kasi sya pwede operahan sa ulo kasi nga madmi nang bukol at ang hirap tanggalin…labas pasok prin kmi ng hospital..(ayaw kasi ng mother ko na mgstay ng hospital)..fast forward tau..yun nga..december 10..eto yung araw na pinipilt ako ng mother ko na umuwi na raw kmi..gusto na nyang umuwi..and seeing my mother in pain..ang sakit..ang sakit sakit..i find ways para mkalabas kmi..learned all the feedings we should done to here,buy all the meds she need…everything..and that night nkalabas kmi at about 8pm (nang dahil sa paghihintay at paghahanap ng tga tulak ng bed ng mother ko..yes bed na po..hindi na nya kayng mag wheelchair pa)and we need to travel 2hrs just to be at home…10:30pm we finally arrived..i settled my mother on her bed and trying to talk to her and telling her that were home..she was finding my nephew that was very close to her..and i think thats the main reason she wants to go home bacause of my nephew..i need to go back with my uncle for i still have my duty at 4am..i teach my father all the things needed to be done..and i talk to my mother telling here that i love her and ill be back after my duty..and that always pray coz God is always listening to our prayers.then umalis na kmi.,i give her a kiss..sa daanan plang i was terribly crying to God saying “Lord let thy will be done,Father” and early in the morning,i wake up 1am to call my father para pakainin yung mother ko..tube na po yun..ipapump nlng po para mkapasok yung food..and natulog ulit..waking up at 2am to fix myself to go to work..i was totally shocked of the message i receive from my cousin..my mother died..again that feeling of i dont know..so painful…very painful..akala ko tlga yung pagkawala ng boyfriend ko,ang pinakamasakit na mangyayari sa buhay ko..and to tell you frankly im not prepared that two person whom i love that much will leave me same year also…

    Why i share to you my experience..because love is unconditional..pagmamahal ay hindi para sa mgboyfriend o sa mag asawa o kahit kanino man.. love is God..kung natutu kang mgmahal yun ay dahil una kang minahal..through that experienced i learned that kahit anu pa kasakit ang pagdadaanan ko ng dahil sa love..i will still learn to love somebody..kasi hindi rin tumitigil ang pagmamahal ng Diyos sa akin..

    at ang love ay tinitreasure..learn to give much time to those person who love you as much as you love them..treasure the times when all of you were together…

    At thank you maine for this..tlaga ipinalabas mo kung anu nasa puso ko..wishing and praying to God to give what your hearts desire..at sana mahanap mo ang lalaking magmamahal sayo ng totoo at pagkaingatan ka..dont rush things..wait for Gods time…alam kong madami kapang pagdadaanan..and dont forget God will never leave us nor forsaking us..kung anu man ang mangyari..always look at Him..He loves us unconditionally..yun kasi natutu ko..after all those pains..i learn to stand again because of Him..He lifted me up and never surrendered on me..

    *P.S.
    Love is about God and you…

    Thanks maine..God loves you

  92. carla says: Reply

    nice one meng khit parang hnd ka 20 sa mga advice mo bhe about love hmmm… galing mo… marami ma inspire sa mga sinabi mo isa na ako jan lots of heart break before… thank u queen…

  93. Jan1000 says: Reply

    Good points Maine!✅ Young ones, nbsb, broken-hearted, in the process of moving on & hopefuls are all entitled to love.. Most importantly, to love urself & those who love u unconditionally from the very beginning! We love u Meng & u deserve someone who also deserves u., in time!.. God bless!!!

  94. jane says: Reply

    Thank youuuuu Nicomaine! Loveyouuuuu so much!

    1. jane says: Reply
  95. Evelyn Bakshi says: Reply

    Hi,Maine!First,I want to introduce myself para we’ll start on the right foot…My name is Evelyn…call me Elyne for short.I’m a mother of 2boys.I have had my share of heartbreaks before I met my forever.Of course,before…I never knew that someone will love me as much as he loves me…as in sobra!But…totoo…he’s the answer to my prayers…cliché but true…let me tell you about my heartbreaks…My first bf dumped me for another girl…well,we were in late teens so probably he wanted to get as much girls as he wanted to…but I loved him…I’m not so pretty but I am confidently beautiful with a heart…yes!With a heart coz inspite of what he did…I accepted him as my friend and we are still friends until now.Actually,I am friends til now with my exes.I always believe that once you’ve shared special moments with someone,he/she deserves to be your friend after all the mess coz…just coz…haha…I leave everything behind and start fresh.My second and third heartbreaks were more painful than the first…but I made it through…why?Bcoz I didn’t give everything…I left a piece for myself so in the end…that piece will be with me to help me put myself back again.Altho’ I loved them so much…I always gave myself the love I deserve…to be in one piece even they broke me apart…so ayun na nga…of course,there was pain…so much…as in…but I got my God…I always prayed to Him…always…so now,I am celebrating VDay with my hubby for 18yrs and each year is always special.Parang banging bf/gf parati coz we’d always make plans.But I always think about those VDays that I was alone…contemplating…asking God when will I ever have a V date.And I always smile each time coz I will never be alone again…esp now,apat na kami!Tatlo na Ang dates Ko!!!Talk about blessed So,para as readers mo…don’t lose hope…God has a plan for you…darating din SIYA…when you least expect it talaga!And when he/she comes…iba ang feeling!Ibang-iba Sa Lahat and you’re the only one who will feel it then you’ll be assured that he/she is the one…Happy Valentine’s Day,Maine and to all your readers!!!Maski na si bed Ang date mo…kasama mo kami…twitter party??? PS…sorry Ang haba!!! PPS…Thanks for reading!!!

  96. Aga says: Reply

    Masakit maging broken hearted lalo na kung feeling mo siya na pala pero nauwi rin sa wala. Mahirap mag-move on. Sobra! Pero at the end of the day life goes on. Siguro right love, wrong time lang. Paasa effect pa rin. Or the universe is totally against you and God has better plans for you. Whatever reason you believe in, sana making HAPPY ka with your decision/choice. Sabi nga nila, ‘Pag mahal ka, babalikan ka’. Hwag tayong susuko sa pagmamamahal. Loving and being in love is such a wonderful feeling.
    Happy Valentine’s Everyone.

  97. happymum says: Reply

    Maine,

    MAHAL NA MAHAL KA namin kayo ni A, ako at ng buong pamilya ko kaya andito lang kaming lahat ng fans, admirers, supporters mo. Sobra mo akong napapabilib how mature and open-minded you are….Thanks din pala sa pagpapasaya sa parents ko, syempre bilang anak pag nakikita kong masaya parents ko, masayang-masaya din ako at ‘yun din ang naidudulot na saya sa mga anak ko.
    Again, God bless! ‘wag mo pansinin mga bashers/haters dahil kahit sino naman eh, kahit gaano ka kabait hindi lahat magugustuhan ka. Keep on writing…salamat because despite your busy sched you still find time to write para saming mga followers mo it’s another sign na mahal na mahal mo din kami, ramdam namin ‘yun.

  98. Evelyn Bakshi says: Reply

    Hi,Maine!First,I want to introduce myself para we’ll start on the right foot…My name is Evelyn…call me Elyne for short.I’m a mother of 2boys.I have had my share of heartbreaks before I met my forever.Of course,before…I never knew that someone will love me as much as he loves me…as in sobra!But…totoo…he’s the answer to my prayers…cliché but true…let me tell you about my heartbreaks…My first bf dumped me for another girl…well,we were in late teens so probably he wanted to get as much girls as he wanted to…but I loved him…I’m not so pretty but I am confidently beautiful with a heart…yes!With a heart coz inspite of what he did…I accepted him as my friend and we are still friends until now.Actually,I am friends til now with my exes.I always believe that once you’ve shared special moments with someone,he/she deserves to be your friend after all the mess coz…just coz…haha…I leave everything behind and start fresh.My second and third heartbreaks were more painful than the first…but I made it through…why?Bcoz I didn’t give everything…I left a piece for myself so in the end…that piece will be with me to help me put myself back again.Altho’ I loved them so much…I always gave myself the love I deserve…to be in one piece even they broke me apart…so ayun na nga…of course,there was pain…so much…as in…but I got my God…I always prayed to Him…always…so now,I am celebrating VDay with my hubby for 18yrs and each year is always special.Parang laging new bf/gf parati coz we’d always make plans.But I always think about those VDays that I was alone…contemplating…asking God when will I ever have a V date.And I always smile each time coz I will never be alone again…esp now,apat na kami!Tatlo na Ang dates Ko!!!Talk about blessed So,para sa readers mo…don’t lose hope…God has a plan for you…darating din SIYA…when you least expect it talaga!And when he/she comes…iba ang feeling!Ibang-iba Sa Lahat and you’re the only one who can feel it then you’ll be assured that he/she is the one…Happy Valentine’s Day,Maine and to all your readers!!!Maski na si bed Ang date mo…kasama mo kami…twitter party??? PS…sorry Ang haba!!! PPS…Thanks for reading!!!

  99. Maine Mendoza, can I make a request? Pwde ba ang love notes ko? ♡ such wonderful writing and the fact are they really your experience or some reading of love gurus books? For me, it happen to US, platonic love is like a pie crust daw, meant to be broken..love is like a game, no one is winners in end.. Etc.. To be in love or to be love has stages! 1st phase: crush mo si lalake, then you have mutual, getting to know him/her, 1st, 2nd, 3rd etc dates, then a yes or no situation, next is 2nd phase.. Are really though enough? Building pillars and foundation on the next level na ba? Kasi the longer we get strong, we tied up for commitment, and whatever you do or i do i know he/she believes in me when your not in my back..3rd phase: engagement and family! The happiest and worst part.. Critically yes? Of course, love, faith and trust is not a game, why? Its for set backs and future plans eh?! You have to sacrifice with love, being bumped by your partners judgment, and also your freedom as being tied up, youll have to let go of your pride or else you hurt them much. Maine’s blog is tama, pag ma-inlove ka be inspire, kilig pa more, be his/her sunshine, but I tell you, sabi nga ni lola nidora hindi palage my kilig, my saya, meron din kirot at tampuhan.. Love has balance, 50/50 measure of positive and negative emotions mga amigo/amiga, so dont be carried away by temptations and subra love, nakaka toxic.. Reminder, love and temptation are different ha? Ang pagnanais sa kapwa dahil maganda gwapo o macho at seksi ay di love haha.. Love is unconditional, love is kilig, faith, hope, charity, acceptance, understanding, and last and the one’s pillar..TRUST… Aldub you Maine Mendoza ♥♡ Thank you for letting us to post to your blog

  100. Jan says: Reply

    Happy V-day self HAHAHAHA 😀

  101. I really appreciate this topic coz Vday for me is a ordinary as a Single person but when your family is with you is much happier!

  102. Joyce says: Reply

    Na inspired ako kahit NBSB ako haha. Thanks Maine, this is such a very good advice 🙂

  103. KIMM_04 says: Reply

    You have a point Maine✔Talagang masakit ma broken-hearted but just think about it the are 7billion more people in the world, 8million people in our country and 7,107 island and there is one person that is just served for you…. if you broke up with your bf/gf maybe he/she is not the one….

  104. Jojo Mendoza Aquino says: Reply

    Paano ba? Mag move on. Move on as soon as you can. It’s not good to spend so much time thinking on a failed relationship. Just learn from it quick and charge it to experience. Go out and socialize with friends and family members so you can meet new friends. One can say, it is easier said than done. Maybe true but it can also be done as well as easily said. How? Start a relationship right. Don’t treat your significant other as if you own him or her. Don’t take him or her seriously until you said to each other “I do “. Whatever the outcome of the relationship, failure or success, you are prepared and ready to move forward.

  105. Very well said!!!

  106. Hi.maine your playlist is so very nice thanks for sharing hope to meet you someday.. godblessyou

  107. marichu says: Reply

    Omg. Love ds blog sooo.. im 33 and happy. Na try ko na yang Nang iwan, at iniwan. Hehe way back 13 yrs ago. 1st thing yung nang iwan, ayun na karma agad2x months later,iniwan din ako. Yah,it really hurts,but i’ve learned frm it. D ko nga maiwasan nun maglupasay sa kaiiyak wd my mom’s watching, and make advises. Pro ngayon pag naiisip ko yun,nkkahiya at nkkatawa. Hehehe reminiscing those days. Thank you meng,you are truly God’s gift from us. Take care and we’re praying na kayo na tlaga ni tisoy. Sana yung nang iwan at iniwan ay di ninyu magamit both. Pls.. pray lang kami dito pra sa 4ever ninyo. Kami nlng bahala sa dasal ,enjoy lng kayo(tisoy). 5yrs ,bilis lng yan. Di kami mag sasawang magdasal. ♥♥♥

  108. Brian Ivan says: Reply

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts..

  109. Abi says: Reply

    Hi Maine,
    I agree with all the comments, you think beyond your age – you are a beautiful, intelligent young woman. It’s obvious that writing has always been your forte!

    With regard to the topic “Paano ba?”. Hmmm… Okay. I am currently in a long time relationship because I fought for our love, I went back to him, and yes I did please him to get back to me. #Bashafeels “Ako na lang, ako na lang ulit”! Why? Because I was the “nang-iwan” (on our 5th year, I felt like I was already taken for granted) entered a new relationship (rebound – 1 month after we broke up) and yes it didn’t work out so guess what I did? After 5 months of no communication, we saw each other again (I made a way). We catched up and I felt that he really moved on already (was in a blossoming romance with somebody else) and I never was.
    That’s when the pleasing, the popoy basha feels of the epic movie #Onemorechance came in. Him was like: ” She had me at my worst, you had me at my best, pero binalewala mo lang… and you chose to break my heart”. Ganoin! haha! I could already laugh (feel kilig) at our scenes before, but during those days… months, it was a hell of a feeling. The pain, so much pain! *sigh* And so what I did is pray, pray and pray because I know in my heart I was fighting for the right love, for the right person (after my failed 2 month rebound relationship). I know his care and love for me didn’t go but the trust… Oh yeah, it took 3 months before I won his trust again, of me not leaving him again. And I’d say, it is all worth it. Now, we are on the road to our 10th year in March as bf/gf still! No worries, he is already reserved to be my lawfully wedded husband since day 1 of our relationship. hihi! We’ll get there, in God’s perfect time!☝

    In all these, there’s nothing wrong in lowering your pride for the one you love as long as the person is worth it. You know him/her best, your togetherness could attest to it.

    PS: Hoping you and Alden will have one the best of love stories to tell in the future! And your loved ones including us (your fans) are going to be the witnesses.

  110. Yra says: Reply

    Hai Maine! Happy Chinese New Year! Thanks a bunch for taking time reading diff. comments from all AlDub fans! It’s quite challenging to know that you’re still young, 20 y/o yet you’re very blessed to share your own experiences and insights about love, daah! Well, yah, because of work, I will spend VDay all alone in my room, maybe watch movies ’til I can sleep. May you get to experience the sweet aroma of love this 14 and I hope you’ll have someone to go for a date, I hope….. . Thank you so much for updating.. Looking forward to read another set of your o.blog update.

  111. Aw! You wrote all the “must” things that a brokenhearted human needs to know. I have heard of these lines from my roommates “you don’t beg for love”. Hahaha. I know all of us there don’t have stable partners (2 of us don’t really have one but is waiting for the right person to come our way). I still haven’t found the one and I never experienced such tragic heartbreaks (I guess?).

    Anyway, I hope you find your “The One”- whoever it is. All single ladies treat ourselves on Vday! Wala ngang masama maging alone sa Valentines. Ang mahalaga you celebrate love, kahit love for yourself pa yan!

  112. dang sicat says: Reply

    you are one sensible individual. indeed an inspiration to teens your age. may you continue to find time to do all these even with your hectic schedule. stay as you are.

  113. Gwen says: Reply

    So nice Meng 🙂 Nakaka inspire 🙂 Thank you 🙂

  114. Brian Ivan says: Reply

    For me Moving On is a natural process just like time. We cannot Stop it even if we want to, the pace is just different from each person. For some it moves Fast and for Others very Slow but it does move without us noticing it. Moving On is easy when you know where you are moving away from and where you are going. So goal setting is a key to moving on, set your goal and stick with it. Share your goal to your Family and Friends so they can work with you towards achieving it. And remember that you deserve better, remind yourself that you are created by God to be Happy and to enjoy the Life he gave you. You allow someone to be part of your life because that person can help you grow and be happier. Your 1st responsibility is to take care of the Life that God has given you, so your personal happiness should always comes first. Moving on might be hard at first but that shouldn’t kill you and what doesn’t kill you will not just make you Stronger but Wiser.

  115. Khim says: Reply

    “That’s the worst thing ever, not knowing the reason why” i agree to the highest level! Its better to know the painful truth kesa you keep on asking yourself why and the endless what ifs… Meng! Why don’t you write a book about love?

  116. joana abainza says: Reply

    nice one maine.! you know what kublng sino pa nga yung mas bata sila pa yung mas madaling magdala ng relationship. you’re just 20 pero yung isip mo mas malawak pa sa isip ng 27 year old like me 🙂 but anyways thanks for updating your blog kasi you’re such a good inspiration sa bata man o matanda na nagbabasa ng blog mo. im still thankful kahit mabasa mo man o hindi ang mga comments namin. take cara always maine! 🙂

  117. Jessica Abelin says: Reply

    Hi maine . this blog of yours really help me a lot. Nakakatuwa lang kasi na you are using your blog na to help others . Yung with sense na ganoin. Keep it up . Alam kong masyado ka ng busy pero dahil passion mo ang writing , ay nakukuha mo pa din maisingit to sa sched mo . I love your way of writing ang witty . love you maine . 🙂 im a big fan of yours . god bless you always.

  118. Mary Eve Laurora says: Reply

    Hi Maine,

    One thing I would like to tell you is that “Thank You”. Alam mo tama lahat ng sinabi mo. Even ako 32 yrs old na ang dami ko pa ring tanong kung paano ba ako babangon sa masakit na nangyari as akin buhay (take note almost 7yrs na nakalipas pero masakit pa rin). Kaya rin siguro ayoko ko pang pumasok ulit sa isang relation dahil di ko pa alam o handa na ba ako ulit umibig.
    Tama ka rin na we have to experience LOVE para magkaroon ng inspiration sa life.
    Pero Maine salamat talaga.
    Aldub you.

  119. Lorraine says: Reply

    I don’t agree when someone says “that relationship was a complete waste of time.” Getting your heart broken is part of growing. You can learn from the experience, or throw it in the waste basket. You can learn to love again, or you can build walls around you and never love again. Like you said, it’s your choice. If you choose to grow then you can learn, not just from your mistakes, but also from your partner’s mistakes. You can better yourself, and get stronger as a person. So next time you fall in love you know better how to handle certain situations, and maybe even love harder.
    As a partner you have to be patient with love, it takes work, and it does get a little tricky. Some relationships may be weak at first, yet grows stronger by the day. Some may seem unbreakable to begin with yet breaks apart the next day. You just have to find the right person whos as willing as you to work on the relationship. I also believe that love is not one sided. Its not always a 100% one partner’s fault. Remember, “it takes 2 to tango.” If all else fails, tanungin mo na lang ang sarili mo, how much of your heart did you put in the relationship? Kung nag “I did my best, but I guess my best wasnt good enough” ka then at least wala kang pwede iregret. Sa mga heart broken, huwag mawalan ng pagasa, darating din ang dance partner mo! And when s/he does, galingan mong sumayaw, para panalo!

  120. Minervaaaliana says: Reply

    I cried when I read your POVs because I can totally relate… Acceptance is really the key on moving on. I totally agree with you not expect in return but I can’t avoid sometimes to feel that expectation feeling with my hubby…. Though I know he doesn’t love me that much. So hard to carry on something that you keep all along and try to hide it… So hard to pretend that ur always okay when in fact you r not. Please help me God. Thank u for enlightening me too Maine. U R dat girl I alwys see on dat fantasy… U really have dat Pisces thing, xan relate.

  121. Irish says: Reply

    On point! Same as how I feel with people who are too stuck up with not finding love, being lonely, need someones validation for existance. Guys! It’s about self love! Once you learn to love yourself and know exactly your worth, thats when you will reach an epiphany! It was you, yourself all along, all that you were looking for in someone is what you needed to find in yourself Although no man is an island, you will eventually need someone to be with you and appreciate you it shouldn’t cost your self love and self respect, remember at the end of the day when everyone has left you only have you to yourself ☺️☺️☺️ Love you meng! Watch the youtube clip after us! It tackles the stages of grief in breaking up keep up the wonderful blogposts! Looking forward to another chapter of your story!!

  122. Lorraine says: Reply

    P.S. May mga masasayang moments naman siguro. Its not a waste of time kung napasaya ka naman. Icherish mo na lang. Tapos mag thank you, ganoin!

  123. ChaCha Salo says: Reply

    You really speak beyond your years. And I admire you a lot for using your influence to share good vibes to people, especially to young girls. I have the same passion in life. Relate. ^_^ The world needs more people like you. Thank you for the inspiration. You could write a book, dear. Consider mo. 🙂

  124. Wilen says: Reply

    Thanks Meng! Sobrang salamat!

    Each words……. Tagos! ❤️

  125. LYKA ARIGO says: Reply

    naranasan ko na din iniwan at iwanan ang isang lalaki,,take note same guy,,first nagbreak kami,,pagod na pagod na kasi ako,,tapos after a months nagbalikan kami,,this time sya naman nakipagbreak,,not totally nakipagbreak sya..he just leaved me hanging,,hndi nya ki kinontak for 3 days,,hi ha o ni ho wala,,tapos nung tinanong ko sya kung bakit nya nagawa un,,sabi nhya nasira daw cp nya..hello,,sino ba namang tanga ang maniniwala sa reason na iyon diba,,ky un break ulit.sakit lang..tapos ngayon andyan na naman sya at nakikipagbalikan,,NAPAKATANGA ko kung gagawin ko pa un,,ok na ako eh,,kaya lng balik sya ng balik,,ginawa ko na lahat,,pinutol ko lahat ng posibleng paraan para makontak nya ako o magkaron kami ng komunikasyon,pero nakakagawa at nakakagawa pa rin sya ng paraan,,kaya hindi ko din sya maiwasan,, im confuse GANON NYA BA AKO KAMAHAL KAYA BALIK SYA NG BALIK SA AKIN O HE JUST PLAYING WITH MY FEELINGS??

    P.S:
    Everytime kasi na magbebreak kami.. PAPAYAG SYA,,SASABIHIN NYA” OK KUNG YAN DESISYON MO” Then after humupa ung init ng ulo ko.. sasabihin nya “SINABI KO LANG UN PARA HINDI KA NA LALO MAGALIT SA AKIN ..AYAW DAW TALAGA NYA MAKIPAG BREAK.. lalo ako naguguluhan. MAHAL KAYA TALAGA NYA AKO?

  126. Pwde po bang maging magkaibigan ang magEX na ? Nainspired po kasi ako sa pagsusulat mo sa blog eh! Actually po all of my pain in heart break dinadaan ko na lang po sa panonood ng EB and KS thats my way to moving on to him. Pagpinapanood ko po kasi ang EB and KS nawawala po ung mga sakit at hirap na pingadadaanan sa heart break. Sabi nga po ni lola nidora tuloy pa rin ang buhay kahit anung mangyari! Thank you po ate maine for inspiring to us! I Love You po

  127. Mahalo says: Reply

    I have been married for 36 years. I agree with Maine blogs about expectation in a relationship. Too much expectation is what destroys relationship. The less you expect the less you get hurt. There should be no gender related when you fell like showering your hubby or someone you love a surprise. One of the things that can ruin the relationship is the expectation that he/she should be doing. Being surprise when you least expected is one of the greatest feeling. Happiness should come from within not from others.

    Maine I admired your maturity in looking on how to deal losing someone and moving forward. You are very intelligent. My prayer is for you to find Mr. Right; that you do not have to go through hardship in finding your forever. Keep the positivity. Keep in mind however that the intensity of losing someone changes as you mature. The intensity changes on how much emotional investment you have with someone. The more emotion you invested in a partner or boyfriend, the hardest it is to deal with.

    As young as you are, enjoy the giddy feeling of being in love or being showered with love. Do not allow the pessimistic side of you to deter you from allowing love abundance to flow through you. Learn to accept and enjoy the gift of love. Know your limit. However be wary of someone using you as a trophy or an object. In addition, do not allow success to dictate and to deter you from loving someone. Often times, career oriented people tends to neglect relationship because they are so hype up on their success. I am hoping that you maintain living a simple life so you will be happy with simple life style.

    Take care!
    Mahalo

  128. LOVES says: Reply

    Pag ba sinagot ni Divina/Yaya si Alden, kayo nrn ba ni Tisoy?

  129. Honey says: Reply

    Hi Maine. Thank you for the update. Too Long but very knowledgeable. Anyway been on this relationship for 18long years….been to all up and downs of life…have already been to the point of leaving him behind and moving on with my life alone and with my kids. But sometimes, you also need to think of the children’s feelings as well. sabi nga ni Lola Nidora, ang tunay na pagmamahal ay yung matuto kang magsakripisyo para sa mahal mo…hnd sarili lang parati ang iniisip. sometimes I think of myself but I really can’t hurt my children. so bearing all the pain is ok. praying is the only thing I hold on everyday…Minsan masakit at mahirap…pero kakayanin naman…basta masaya mga anak ko…at very thankful ako na dumating kau sa buhay ko…kc kau ang nagpapalimot ng sakit kapag napapanood kau…sometimes hoping na umayos pa relasyon namin…hoping you’ll have your forever ahead of you two…na magkasama kau…God bless Maine…and always be a blessing to everyone.

  130. jasmin says: Reply

    Thank you for this entry, I love you.

  131. Ana says: Reply

    While I was reading this I really felt that you were talking to me. I was left hanging, it was hard at first but thanks to Aldub and of course to you, moving on came earlier than expected. You’re like a burst of sunlight during my gloomy days. Thank you Maine, you have no idea how you have helped me move on. Keep smiling, it’s contagious. Hope to see you on March 3. Buwis buhay for your birthday from Bacolod with love ❤️!

  132. Nikki Villabona says: Reply

    For me, “Love takes time” Pwede ba ikaw na lang ka date ko? HAHAHA! Ate maine idol kita talaga! Godbless. I love you to the moon and back! #AlDubForever

  133. Maria says: Reply

    I enjoyed reading this, thanks Maine! I hear you loud and clear. I also hate complicated relationships but agree with you that loving someone who is really worth it makes a great difference. Praying to God for guidance in discerning who is THE one works! And yes one will be happier to love unconditionally and not expect anything in return. How the other person decides though to give back and how much is entirely up to him! Surprises! Surprises!

    Reading this has somehow assured me that you are ready to get into a relationship. For a 20-year-old, your perspective on love is deep. Your grip on the subject matter is comprehensive. You are ready to love albeit cautious, that is understandable. Getting hurt in the process is inevitable but the important thing is you know how to handle such things in a mature way. I appreciate you sharing with us your innermost thoughts. My prayers are with you for a successful journey in this thing called love, loving someone unconditionally, giving yourself selflessly and exploring the road to FOREVER! Maine Mendoza, you have just shown to the world what stuff you are made of! Impressive indeed!

  134. galing mu talaga meng ! ilove all your points ..

    Hmm.. Ikaw na talaga ! Brainy Girl with a talent !

    Thanks for this Maine !
    **to love someone without setting any expectations. Love them lang, make them your inspiration. Do things that will make them smile, make them happy, ganoin! **

    Going to 6 yrs. This June 30 ng kuyetsz ko but lately inaaway ko siya di ko makita ung mga expectations ko. Then I confront him for what i feel sinabi ko sa kanya na hndi mu man lang mareach ung expectations ko sayo.. He answered lng sakin * I will pero dont expect to much ! Then nabasa ko ung sinabi mo it means a lot to me ! Thanks maine ah .. LOVE my Kuyetsz Lang that’s what i learned to you Maine !

    Parehas mo kaming lalo na yung boyfie ko ! Sabay kaming nanunuod ng replay ng Kalyeserye eh same kasi kaming may work !

    Lovemuch maine

  135. Remie Rios says: Reply

    Good afternoon Maine 🙂 you’re very smart. I really like the story, it is very nice at nakaka relate ako sa story mo. Hahaha Sana magpatuloy pa yung pagsulat mo ng story. Magandang ang advice mo. Godbless and Take Care always 🙂 More blessings to come. I love you both, Alden and Maine.

  136. Remie Rios says: Reply

    Hi Maine 🙂 you’re very smart. I really like the story, it is very nice at nakaka relate ako sa story mo. Hahaha Sana magpatuloy pa yung pagsulat mo ng story. Magandang ang advice mo. Godbless and Take Care always 🙂 More blessings to come. I love you both, Alden and Maine.

  137. Beng Ignacio says: Reply

    Btw, I know people deal with sadness different ways… with me, I redirected my attention to studies when I had my heart broken. Instead of going home after school and not doing anything (which opens up opportunity para maisip ko yung heartache ko), tumambay ako sa school library. It’s not like I can concentrate every single time, but at least nahiya akong humagulgol in public. =P

    1. Rogelyn Gerero says: Reply

      Ganyan din ginawa ko dati. Natatwa lang ako kapg naalala ko un hahaha.,

  138. amalia ecleo says: Reply

    It’s nice to hear these insights from a 20 year old woman…with a happy and blessed life. Continue to inspire us…especially the broken ones….God bless and may the good Lord grant you special relationship that will be your forever. Whether it’s Richard F or not, someone who will love you as you are…be happy always…will pray that your charm… wisdom will continue to flow and vibrate in us…take care of your health….love you more…

  139. angel says: Reply

    Hi ate maine I love your blog so much and now I’m loving it more. Last night I prayed to God asking Him to help me forget my “the one that got a way.” I also ask God for some ways to unlove him and stop thinking about him because I still do. And now I saw your blog and I’m so happy and God is the first one that comes to my mind. He really does answer prayers and He made use of your blog to answer mine 🙂
    Please don’t stop writing blogs like this because you are helping and inspiring us so much (you don’t how much you inspired me). I love you so much and I’ll be your last fan standing no matter what. Thank you for being an angel in disguise that God sent for me 🙂

  140. Sheeryn says: Reply

    I enjoyed reading your blog and I can say you really an awesome girl not all in your age would have an open minded like yours and all you said (or write i mean) in your blog (Paano Ba?) are all true coz I’ve been there before and as what your advises says they’ll worked with me. At the end of the day it’s all up to you if you want to move on or continue being miserable.

    Thank you for your thoughts, I know that again you have inspired a lot of people out there especially the young generation like yours (wink wink). Just continue to inspire us more and we promise that we will support you on your endeavor in life. God Bless Always.

  141. Grace says: Reply

    I really love your favorite quote 🙂 Thank you for being such an inspiration to me, Maine. May you continue inspiring lots of people and may God bless you always!

    1. Grace Consebido says: Reply

      I really love your favorite quote 🙂 Thank you for being such an inspiration to me, Maine. May you continue inspiring lots of people and may God bless you always!

  142. Fher says: Reply

    Tama ka Meng! Mabuhay lang sa realidad para madaling matanggap ang mga mangyayari and Love yourself and be yourself, Feel the pain when something aching lalo na if its about love…the pain will subside anyways..then start anew..isiping di tayo nag iisa..someone out there na mas nasasaktan kesa sa atin!

  143. Nice blog,really experience is the best teacher. You don’t need to be older just realizing the facts of life. Hope that every girls learn from you and be an inspiration to our younger generation. You know Meng, you put a smile always in my mother’s face. She was diagnosed of live cirrhosis and she was given only 6 mos to leave but i and family believe in miracle and nanay who is now 80 and 5 years after the taning is still here with us. She loves watching kalyeserye. Thanks for giving us happiness. You know that putting smile or making people happy is the hardest part in this journey but YOU did it. Thank you for helping me,over come my stress, for making me laugh. God bless you and i know many people love and hoping always the best for you and RJ.

  144. chia garcia says: Reply

    Hello I will not expect na mababasa mo ang comment ko kasi masakit mag expect diba? Hahaha well anyway I still hope you will.
    I love reading your blog, Maine. I am 21 years old and I can relate to everything you have written on your blog. As a psychology major, i appreciate how you connect/interact with people. Sabi nga nila pang masa ang personality mo. What i like about you is that you are charming and genuine. Anyways, Ill give my thoughts about this entry.

    -Yes, it is true , a lot of people say and rant about “you don’t know how it feels unless you’ll experience it”. With what i have learned from my course, you do not have to experience other people’s experience in order for you to give advice to them., for you emphatize or for you to relate with them. All you have to do is listen with what they have to say and let them feel that you are there to help. A lot of my friends would talk to me when they have problems (most especially when it’s about love/relationships). I am not an expert when it comes to love but I do my best to say the things that are true/real in other words those things that are facts relating to reality. A lot of “in love” people are sorry to say “nag papakatanga” kaya nawawala minsan sa realidad. Sad but true.

    – Continue to inspire others, Meng. God bless you!

  145. Shariah Jhanine says: Reply

    *NP: Dear No One by Tori Kelly

    I’m hurting, Meng. I’m in a relationship right now and my bf’s love for me is unquestionable. I know, everyone knows, that he loves me 100%. Kaya ang problema ko is if I do break up with him (for reasons that only I know), ako ang male-label na masama. The thing is, he doesn’t make an effort to see my world. Kung kami lang dalawa ang pag-uusapan, no problem. But my friends, my family, my best friend, wala. He closed his doors. He only knows them by name, ‘yun lang. He doesn’t understand my relationship with those people and he always misunderstands. I’m different when I’m with my friends and he hasn’t seen that side of me yet. Once, when I did try to show him that other side of me, parang nag-repel siya. It’s hard because I am so close to cutting our relationship. But it’s hard ‘coz I’m so attached to his world. Alam ko lahat tungkol sa family niya. Friends. Lahat. But siya lang talaga. There’s still so much he has to know and he refuses to see it. I hope you can help me

  146. Hi Meng! Hahaha. As an 18 year old who’s never been in a relationship but has had my share of heartbreaks, nakakataba ng puso tong blogentry mo! AHH! Eh kasi, I suddenly felt na I’m not so alone after all pala. Hehe. There are people who’ve been through what I’ve been through and those people even include you. Thank you for taking your time to write for us, Meng! Pinapatawa mo na nga kami tuwing tanghalian tapos you still make time to write to us, and be a somewhat friend to us all. Sana wag ka magsawa na magreach out sa fans mo. You go, Menggay! I love you.

    p.s. we’ve met na before and even took pictures and i gave you a bear lol, asa naman akong natatandaan mo pa but yeah, nothing has beaten that specific moment pa. till we meet agaaain. wuuuuvvv youuuu xx

  147. aileen alipio says: Reply

    nice long entry..we missed this

  148. aileen alipio says: Reply

    nice long entry..we missed this..sana may new entry next week. God Bless

  149. Trixia Gregorio says: Reply

    True! Magigising ka na lang one day na “I’ve had enough”. Na kaya mo na pala talagang mag move on sa kanya. Na masaya ka na at hindi na masakit. Sabi daw sa isang quote, pag naka move on ka daw agad sa isang break up, di mo daw talaga minahal yun tao. Wth, i don’t agree! Hahaha hindi naman dun na me-measure yun. Sabi nga sa isang quote “In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it ( Five people you meet in heaven). And dun lang ako nag cling. May mga bagay na kailangan mo talagang bitawan para mas maging masaya kahit minsan iniisip mo kung ano ng mangyayari once na bumitaw ka na. Isa pa, being in a relationship is like doing a commitment and covenant with God. Never dapat sini set aside si God sa kahit na anong bagay. Kaya kung papasok ka lang din sa isang relasyon, please lang seryosohin niyo na 🙂 move on guys! No to bitterness! Everyday is an opportunity for a fresh start! Aja!

  150. Trixia Gregorio says: Reply

    Hi Maine! Hindi ako reader type person pero i must really say na insipiring and encouraging lahat ng blog entries mo. Kahit ako nga walang blog sa sobrang katamaran and for that sobrang thank you super fan and supporter mo ko in everything, promise. And True! Magigising ka na lang one day na “I’ve had enough”. Na kaya mo na pala talagang mag move on sa kanya. Na masaya ka na at hindi na masakit. Sabi daw sa isang quote, pag naka move on ka daw agad sa isang break up, di mo daw talaga minahal yun tao. Wth, i don’t agree! Hahaha hindi naman dun na me-measure yun. Sabi nga sa isang quote “In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it ( Five people you meet in heaven). And dun lang ako nag cling. May mga bagay na kailangan mo talagang bitawan para mas maging masaya kahit minsan iniisip mo kung ano ng mangyayari once na bumitaw ka na. Isa pa, being in a relationship is like doing a commitment and covenant with God. Never dapat sini set aside si God sa kahit na anong bagay. Kaya kung papasok ka lang din sa isang relasyon, please lang seryosohin niyo na 🙂 move on guys! No to bitterness! Everyday is an opportunity for a fresh start! Aja!

  151. yolly berroya says: Reply

    Nakaka relate naman ako s blog m first time k lang magbasa ng blog buhat ng mapanuod kita s Eat bulaga hanga ako sayo Maine.pati s twitter sinusundan kita hanga ako sayo hwag k sana magbabago GOD BLESS ALWAYS AND TAKE CARE.

  152. What a nice blog Meng !! Love it
    galing mo mag advice lahat ng yun nagawa ko TBH

  153. CARMELA REMIGIO says: Reply

    You’ll always makes us inspired Meng! 🙂 Thanks for the motivation. Godbless. All the best for you Meng!

  154. Hi Meng .. pwede ba pabirthday gift mo sakin this coming feb 15 ang greetings mo ? I’m a big fan of yours superrrr !!! You are my 3rd inspiration in my life together with Alden so please kahit isang greetings lang I will be

  155. Yna Roman says: Reply

    You’re the best among the rest . ILOVEYOUMENGGAY

  156. I will be the the most happy celebrant if you do that to me please ate Meng please February 15 ia my birthday please ate Meng ..

  157. lovely says: Reply

    yahhh true ! even me i’m single i will go out by my own ahaha boring kaya pag asa house lng 🙂

  158. Jhaz says: Reply

    Hi maine. As a regular viewer of kalyeserye, i found you as malalim na tao. Oo lagi kang nagpapatawa sa set pero pag seryosohan na dun mo na makikita ung kung sino talaga si Maine Mendoza. That’s why many people loves you. You’re such a simple but elegant person.

  159. Yung ang humble niya?? She’s AlDubEST talaga! 😉

  160. She’s Fantastic! 😉

  161. lizette esguerra says: Reply

    Meng are you really a 20 year old girl? I am 53 years old and a mom, and I admire you for your age to give this kind of advise and you are a very intellectual person keep it up dear and I am a parent and for sure your parents as well as your siblings are very proud of you . I love watching you and Alden and the rest of EB dabarkads Stay humble always to all your glory God gave this you , stay grounded always , God bless you always dear

  162. Nessa says: Reply

    Hi Maine. Sobrang idol ko yung pagka-real mo, as in di ka shy sabihin na love mo ang food (kasi same girl same hehehe) pero ako may problem: kahit na love ko ang food, masama trato nya sakin (pataba ako ng pataba kahit anong gawin ko). Ikaw ang ganda ganda mo ang super fit and yun yung isang reason kung bakit idol kita. May tips ka ba on how to stay fit and still eat your fave foods? Thank you very much in advance!! God Bless, Maine!! <3

  163. JD says: Reply

    IN DUE TIME, baby gurl ….. every word, phrase and sentences you’ve said, no matter how wise and intelligent u are, wouldn’t be enough. Coz again IN DUE and in your TIME, being in that situation (to love, being in love, having a relationship, fall in and out of love, heartbreaks, moving on…. till u repeat the same scenario… to love, being in love, having a relationship, fall in and out of love, heartbreaks, moving on) will only LEAD you to your own SELF realization.
    TIME comes… I hope and pray you can handle those scenarios, just like what you’ve said.
    Cause for THIS TIME, saying and sharing those words are the things that you live by…. FOR NOW.
    ciao

    1. JD says: Reply

      my first time to write a comment ’bout something and to someone….. maybe just maybe …. my comment isn’t ur forte….

  164. Richelle Tuazon says: Reply

    Your just an amazing lady Maine. Thank you for this madami ka na namang nainspired. I love you girl. 🙂

  165. Princess Ariane Bayas says: Reply

    Thank you so much Meng! You inspired me a lot! Thanks for the best advices. Galing mo ah inspired? Hahaha kebs lang sa LAHAT ganoin! Goodluck sa career mo and Godbless you always! Loveyou Meng! And thank you so much talaga!

  166. Bienna Marie says: Reply

    Hello Maine.. na enjoy ko reading “Paano ba”.. if everyone realize that LOVE is for everyone,, choice nila how they will handle the situation about LOVE.. Hoping for your next topic is about “Starting a New Beginning” hehe.. I am ALDUB fan but LOYALISTA talagah ako sa RJ AT MAINE in the future,,hehe,, Both of you, give smiles for every single people na napapanuod kayo, we truly feels the totoong kilig and GENUINE ACTIONS that creates unstoppable support sa inyong dalawa,, sa mga fans, kame tlagah excited sainyong dalawa, pero hindi namin kayo pressure pressure sainyo,,hehe,, enjoy nyo friendship nyo,, Strong Foundation yan 🙂 hehe.. Talagang like na like namin kayo.. We always pray, kayong GENUINE PEOPLE(you and alden/rj) LOVE LOVE LOVE DESTINY FOREVER 🙂 🙂 🙂

  167. AILEEN QUEANO says: Reply

    SALAMAT…. MARAMING SALAMAT…

  168. Erika says: Reply

    You made soooo much sense. Now all my thoughts are voiced out in words. Thanks for sharing this! Good luck to you!

  169. danvhie cayabyab says: Reply

    Hi Maine..
    i like the INIWAN@NANG.IWAN PART .. well kylngn tlgng i.let go kng prho ng kylngan .. but like u said hnd nmn kylngn mgluksa kng wala kng k.VDATE sa drtng n feb.14 wg mging bitter sb nga ng krmihan SUNDAY YUN mgsimba k at ipagdsal mo ky papa god n bgyn k ng dpat sa pgma2hl n ibibigy mo sa taong ipigka2loob nia sau! at xempre mgpsamat k dn SA KANYA sa lht ng mga bnbgy n blessing NYA sau .. tama k idol hnd nmn kylngan arw2 kilig dpt my natututunan dn tau sa bwat pgka2mling nggwa ntn.. eh anu pa’t naki2pg relasyon k lng kng puro kilig lng gs2 mong mngyare db!? hehe i lab ur writing MENG kc alm q n jn mo naeexpress ung feelings mo .. kht 2x plng aqng nka2bsa ng blog mo .. sna wag mo rn abusuhin ung srli mo mgngdng inpirasyon k sa lht ng gngwa mo at alm q sa mga gngwa mo eh alm mo rn n mgnda un pra sau at s mga ktulad nmin fans mo .. sna mging mgkatuluyan n kau ni ALDEN mgbu2yi ang buong ALDUBNATION/MAIDENATICS pg nging kau FOREVER <3 LAB U MENGGAY! 😉

  170. Lavgie Burgos says: Reply

    I’m 51 and still single and darn! I’ve been there so many times. when I was younger I never learned. and I could only move on if I have someone new. pathetic right? But I was that kind of girl who gave so much and expected all of it to return to me. and I know that was the reason why they all left me. and you’re right Meng, it only takes ACCEPTANCE to move on. That was what I did with my last failed relationship. I accepted that we could never be together anymore and I was able to move on. It is not easy, it takes years for me to do that but I finally did.

    And you are right, you have to cut ALL TIES because if not, you will KEEP ON HOPING, and that hope will not help you move on.

    I am in a relationship now, and we are on our 8th year. Why? because I have finally put into practice all the lessons I learned from my past relationships. I am still generous with my love, but this time, I don’t expect it to be returned that much. All I am asking now is appreciation from him, no matter how small or big it would be. and you know what he says about me? That I am the kindest, most understanding and lovable girl he has met. O di ba? hahahaha

    Happy Valentine to you and Alden, Meng. I am praying that Alden is that rare person who would love you forever, through thick and thin. You deserve it.

    BTW, did you receive one of my messages about a cure to your PMS? (Pre-menstrual syndrome). Is it ok now? if not please try EVENING PRIMROSE OIL. it is a jelly capsule to be taken everyday like a vitamin. it would not only lessen your cramps but totally eliminate it. I have been using that for 8 years now I think. and it is a big help on my pre-menopausal syndrome now that I am on that stage. I hope you will heed my advice. Take care of yourself. I will always be your avid fan who will support you all the way.

  171. REI says: Reply

    Thank you for this entry, Ate Maine! You may not know but you’ve given me an advice that’s worth remembering and doing. I hope that I’ll get to meet you soon and thank you personally. Anyways, love lots, Ate Maine! Keep inspiring others! I know that good karma will be with you soon. Thank you and love you!

  172. Alva Aberin says: Reply

    A nice read, this blog of yours.

    I appreciate the fact that you are not afraid to share your thoughts and insights … yourself to your readers. Your courage to be vulnerable is what I admire of you.
    How I pray that the Lord will protect you and bless you in all your ways.

    Have a great day ahead!

  173. danvhie cayabyab says: Reply

    Hi Maine..
    ang srap sa feeling ng mga shinishare mo ung mga words of wisdom mo 😀 kip it up .. veri hart warming .. kht twice plng aq nkkbsa ng bnlog mo sbra aqng ntutuwang basahin .. sna mkgwa k dn sumday ng books mo .. pagiipunan q un mbli q lng un .. godbless!

  174. faye says: Reply

    timely and auspicious blog

  175. Digna S. de Claro says: Reply

    Dear Maine,

  176. Digna S. de Claro says: Reply

    Dear Maine,

    Lalo mo akong pinahanga sa pagkakasulat mong ito sa iyong blog. . . lalo mo lang pinatunayan how intelligent you are and a role model to your fans. . . thank you for the advise. . . maraming makaka-move on sa mga ipinayo mo. maraming fans ang matutuwa sa sinulat mo. you really one of a kind Maine. . . a rare kind of a gem. Beauty na intelligent pa. You really is a blessing to us. Mabuti kang tao. . . . kaya ka pinagpapala ng Diyos. Keep up the good works Maine. we are always with you. We all love you. . I for one love you very much. . . SALAMAT SA PAGPAPASAYA MO SA AMING LAHAT.

  177. Mae says: Reply

    Wow! Amazing! for a 20 year old to be able to give these kind of love advices, incredible! You’re one of a kind girl! You’re mature beyond your years. You have this rare gift of putting your thoughts and feelings into writing. Continue to be an inspiration to others. Hope you’ll write an inspirational book someday ( when you have the time). I’ll be the first one to fall in line to buy it. Advance happy valentines!

  178. Jiffy says: Reply

    Pwede bang may part 2? How to get over someone you never had naman? Charing! Anyhow what an in depth view of Moving On 101. Everything was on point, really! 20 yrs old ka pa lang ba talaga? Admirable wisdom you got there young lady! Now I can get over someone that’s holding me back for the longest time. Ganoon ka kalakas sa akin, minsan mas naniniwala ko pag nanggaling sa’yo kesa sa sarili ko. Weird. haha! It’s never easy and taking the first step will always be the hardest. Sounds cliche but we all must walk away from people or things that might damage us no matter how much we love them. Self-preservation, ganoin! In order to know what true love is you must first learn how to love yourself and know the difference between wanting and needing to be in a relationship. Heartache is a broad topic, one may probably be able to write volumes of books about it but you were able to summarize it in a blog post. Well done girl! Reading your blog posts is like opening gifts on Christmas Day! Thank you Valentine Santa! Live well and love well! 🙂

  179. emy says: Reply

    Hi Maine,

    First Advance Happy Valentines day to you. You already mention sa Vday Playlist mo kung paano mo icecelebrate ang valentines day.. Well good choice. You deserve to take a day off with your bed to take more sleep. Bawi tulog at a day to spend time with your family..

    I really love this “Paano Ba”. Gaya ng ibang ng comment NBSB ako. Ewan ko ba pero ramdam ko lahat ng sinabi mo dito. Specially this part “If there is actually one thing I’ve learned about love, it is to love someone without setting any expectations. Love them lang, make them your inspiration. Do things that will make them smile, make them happy, ganoin! Don’t expect them to do same for you; most especially don’t expect them to love you back in the same level you love them– because it is not always going to happen. Not every person you’ll love will love you back. That’s a FACT. Love someone without expecting anything in return, you’ll be happier.” True na kapag nag mahal ka dont expect much from the person you love. Dapat tama lang.

    Galing mong mag advice maine talagang meron pinang-gagalingan. Many people can get a lesson here on how to move on specially kung hindi pa sila talaga nakaka Move on sa life. I know some of it based on your own experience to your past bf. Based na rin sa nabasa ko dito sa blog mo.. Well, lucky us to know how you move on from that past. Now you are happy and have a new inspiration with someone really special to you right now. Just enjoy what you have right now.

    Like me, single at laging sinasabi ko na darating din ang tamang panahon at makikilala ko din ang tamang tao para sa akin. Siguro ngayn i just want to enjoy being single and do all the things i want to do. I will spend my vday in my bed to. Check my social media to keep update with everything. Spend the day dito sa bahay watching ung series na inaabangan ko every week Pretty little liars at ung supergirl hehe syempre ang manuod ng reply ng kalyeserye.

    Cge na last na to… Hope to read more good writing from you in this blog.. Coz i really enjoying reading it while listening to good music.. (I can’t really live without music, music makez me relax and calm specially sa office na puro stress)

    Again Maine Advance Happpy Valentines day

    Emy

  180. Maris says: Reply

    As I was reading those words, I told myself “I know these are what I wanted to tell myself but refused to coz I let myself wallow in self pity and I’m used to the feeling of being hurt and not moving on”. But then I did a flashback after reading this, it’s just amazing to find out that OMG! I’m actually on the process of moving on and I’m so proud of myself. Funny how you just made me realize those, I just needed to read those words to convince myself that those are what I should do. Kailangan nga talaga ang SAMPAL para magising sa katotohanan. Salamat ah! 🙂 Alam ko ngayon mas masaya ang Valentine’s Day. Again, thank you! 😀

  181. Definitely true, life is about moving on. Everything heals on its own. Good to know that as early as now, you know these things and I hope that you will apply these things when things didn’t go well as planned in your love life (pero wag naman, syempre). I hope Alden could read your blogs so he will have ideas on how you deal with things like in love life department. Seeing you both as AlDub is very nice but I could sense (just sense) that despite having many things in common, Alden is not yet in “relationship” mode. His answers are vague and not direct to the point. Perhaps it’s the complications of being in showbiz which make it hard for both of you to really know each other and have some private moments (as in alone), i.e., without the fans and “alalays”. Just hoping that you will at least be open to other guys who truly admire you as a person; and enjoy some date,s whether Vday or not. Of course you’re still young but somehow along the way, we need someone who will always be available no matter what.

  182. theargelan says: Reply

    Hi meng! I’m such a fan of yours!

    found my self guilty with this part ” I’ve learned about love, it is to love someone without setting any expectations. Love them lang, make them your inspiration. Do things that will make them smile, make them happy, ganoin! Don’t expect them to do same for you; most especially don’t expect them to love you back in the same level you love them– because it is not always going to happen. Not every person you’ll love will love you back. That’s a FACT. Love someone without expecting anything in return, you’ll be happier.” as I commented above the reason why (
    as i mentioned this was exactly the reason why I broke up with him… I loved and gave my best effort to let him feel loved and I expected that he will do the same…. I felt tired n disappointed when he didn’t met my expectations (broke up even if we’re more than 8 yrs na n first bf 🙂 )

    I will not rant with vday bcoz we never celebrated it with my ex, thank God!

    another reason why I broke was “mas napapasaya pa ako ng KALYESERYE and kinikilig pako sa ALDUB kesa sa kanya” funny but its real. mas gusto ko pa manood ng replay KALYESERYE kesa kausapin sya.

    I just want to thank you, alden, jowapao and EAT Bulaga bcoz YOU GUYS MADE MY MOVING ON PHASE MUCH EASIER!!! (we broke up last Oct, since July- aldub started were on the rocks na, not bcoz I got addicted to KALYESERYE, but it made me realized (what Alden does) thats how a girl should be treated, the chivalry, the exchage of letters 🙂 as well as the lessons thought by the lolas, and how you represent all the introverts. I also feel accomplished kpg you were able to excellently execute your prods!

    looking forward for the day I’ll meet someone who will prove to me that chivalry was not dead 🙂

    so thank you so much for this post, for making us happy and for sharing your life with us!!!

    God bless!

  183. JoanGT says: Reply

    I’m 18 years old yet, d ko pa nararanasan kung paano ma in-love. Malungkot syempre feeling ko kasi amg panget ko hahahahahahaha (kahit hindi hahahahahah) pero masaya, kasi naisip ko hindi pa ako ready para pumasok sa isang relationship (Kayo lang dalawa ni Alden ang FOREVER KO. Pwede ba yun Meng?)
    By the way, napahanga mo na naman ako dito sa isinulat mo. You really inspire me a lot. And I wish you ALL THE BEST. Sobrang deserve mo lahat ng love na binibigay namin sayo. Basta Happy Valentines day nalang ALDUB YOU!!!!

    Ps: continue inspiring people
    Pps: Pahinga ka rin pag’ may time baka magkasakit ka…

  184. Ca Mendoza says: Reply

    omG.. I guess I’ll be lucky enough to just get your attention by simply saying “God, I wish Maine’s my long lost cousin, hehe.. Woaaaah, it took me a minute (oa much, a minute tlga ) to scroll down just to be here in the comment section. When I first know your name esp. your last name, I quickly ask my father..”Tay, may kamag anak ba tayo somewhere in Bulacan?” and he was thinking for a minute while I’m patiently hoping na sana meron, please say Yes tay.hihi And then he said, “wala e, wala akong maisip na kamag anak sa Bulacan”, I was just like -insert sad face-.. Anyways, atleast may ka-last name kmi who’s super talented lalo na when it comes to writing such clever blogs.. I’m a fan
    hope you’ll read my not so interesting comment. ciao
    stay humble girl 🙂

  185. Emy says: Reply

    Hi Maine,

    First Advance Happy Valentines day to you. You already mention sa Vday Playlist mo kung paano mo icecelebrate ang valentines day.. Well good choice. You deserve to take a day off with your bed to take more sleep. Bawi tulog at  a day to spend time with your family.. 

    I really love this “Paano Ba”. Gaya ng ibang ng comment NBSB ako. Ewan ko ba pero ramdam ko lahat ng sinabi mo dito. Specially this part “If there is actually one thing I’ve learned about love, it is to love someone without setting any expectations. Love them lang, make them your inspiration. Do things that will make them smile, make them happy, ganoin! Don’t expect them to do same for you; most especially don’t expect them to love you back in the same level you love them– because it is not always going to happen. Not every person you’ll love will love you back. That’s a FACT. Love someone without expecting anything in return, you’ll be happier.” True na kapag nag mahal ka dont expect much from the person you love. Dapat tama lang. 

    Galing mong mag advice maine talagang meron pinang-gagalingan. Many people can get a lesson here on how to move on specially kung hindi pa sila talaga nakaka Move on sa life. I know some of it based on your own experience to your past bf. Based na rin sa nabasa ko dito sa blog mo.. Well, lucky us to know how you move on from that past. Now you are happy and have a new inspiration with someone really special to you right now.  Just enjoy what you have right now. 

    Like me, single at laging sinasabi ko na darating din ang tamang panahon at makikilala ko din ang tamang tao para sa akin. Siguro ngayn i just want to enjoy being single and do all the things i want to do. I will spend my vday in my bed to. Check my social media to keep update with everything. Spend the day dito sa bahay watching ung series na inaabangan ko every week Pretty little liars at ung supergirl hehe syempre ang manuod ng reply ng kalyeserye.

    Cge na last na to… Hope to read more good writing from you in this blog.. Coz i really enjoying reading it while listening to good music.. (I can’t really live without music, music makez me relax and calm specially sa office na puro stress)

    Again Maine Advance Happpy Valentines day

    Emy

  186. Eiron says: Reply

    You are an amazing young bella…through your blog, you let us see who you are as a person. soooo real and genuine. you are way beyond your age and i can sense that you have the purest of heart. any man will be lucky to have you but i always pray that you will end up with someone who deserves your love and being. enjoy the ride meng but always keep your feet on the ground. a lot of people loves you and adores you because you inspires us eve ryday.

  187. MammuHK says: Reply

    Wow! Thanks for sharing Maine! Happy Valentine and God Bless always!
    #keepinspiringus

  188. Candee A. says: Reply

    Very well said Maine.. i don’t have a partner anymore for more than 10 years now. so i just spending my valentines day with my two sons. Maine, i want you to know that i admire you alot. I like your personality and love the way you handle yourself so well. Maine, i also live here in Sta. Maria Bulacan and i was hoping that one day you be able to give me a chance to meet in person and have a short but meaningful conversation with you. Stay happy and God Bless! See you soon…

  189. Marj says: Reply

    Part of a poem that was popular when I was young: (from Veronica Shofftall):
    “… So you plant your own garden, and decorate your own soul
    Instead of waiting for someone to give you flowers…”

    Dear Maine, that poem reminds me so much of what you write. Thank you for continuing to remind the young people and us not-so-young of our infinite capacity for creating joy. Bless your heart, dear girl.

  190. justineann says: Reply

    Meng, umaasa parin ako na makikita mo yung advance birthday gift ko for you!! Hindi parin ako nawawalang ng pag asa hahahaha
    https://twitter.com/justinevillegas/status/694782477936689152
    ALDUB YOU MENG!

  191. justineann says: Reply

    POSITIVE AKO NA MAKIKITA MO ITO. ALAM MO GAYA RIN AKO SAYO YUNG WALANG TIWALA SA SARILA HAHA! PERO NAGBAGO YUN DAHIL SAYO AT SA ALDUBNATION. KAYA HINDI TALAGA AKO NAWAWALAN NG PAG ASA NA MAKIKITA MO RIN ITO SA TAMANG PANAHON. HOPE YOU’LL LIKE IT OKAY? HAHAHA SANA TALAGA MAKITA MO TO, KAHIT FAV LANG PARA MALAMAN KO LANG NA NAKITA MO NA. BAKA HINDI MO NAGUSTUHAN? HUHU ERASE ERASE HAHAHA LIKE MO DBA? DBA? BAKA HINDI MO ALNG NAKITA KAYA GANOON. BASTA ADVANCE HAPPY BIRTHDAY! EXCITED AKO SA BIRTHDAY MO MENG EH, ANO BA! HAHAHA PARANG BIRTHDAY KO LANG DIN EH :3 CAPSLOCK PARA INTENSE AT DAMANG DAMA MO PAGMAMAHAL KO.

    CHECK MY TWEET PARA MAKITA YUNG GAWA KO. ALDUB YOU FOREVER!
    https://twitter.com/justinevillegas/status/694782477936689152

  192. Hi Maineeee ! May gusto lang sana ko ishare na vid. sayo, di ako yung gumawa pero nung napanuod ko (Goosebumps talaga). Kase nga kakanuod ko lang nung favorite mong movie na serendipy! Fortunate Accidents :)) And then. Napanuod koyang video nayan. Diko alam ah. pero parang tinadhana talaga mangyari yung nang yari sayo. di ako naniniwala dati sa destiny. pero ngayon. naniniwala nako. Sana mabasa motong comment konato. And sure. After mo mapanuod yung video, magiging masaya ka 🙂 Sobrang awesome lang at nakakaamaze. Coincidence? no its destiny 🙂

      1. MAINE

  193. Julie Ann says: Reply

    Hello , Maine! Tama ka, minsan naging TANGA ako, pero nagising sa katotohanan na , love yourself first bago ang iba. God Bless always!

  194. emzpj16 says: Reply

    Little by little sa ganitong paraan nakikila kita at gusto ko to dahil alam kong dito ay napapakita mo yung MAINE na napaka ordinaryo, yung bawat tao nakakarelate…salamat sa pagbabahagi ksi dito libre mong sabihin lahat…alam ko namang ang isang hamak na fan mo ay hindi ka naman makita ka and even makausap sa personal pero atleast dito man lng nagpapasalamat ako sa inspirasyon dala mo….I hope soon I will brave enough na harapin ang gusto kong gawin sa buhay gaya ng pagharap mo din sa mga pangarap mo….

  195. lotis says: Reply

    wow nakaka relate ako dun ha…

  196. shiela says: Reply

    Maine as one of ur follower I am proud of u..u r really reachable..keep it maine..while I.m reading ur blog I would say u really have a talent combined with good heart,,hehe I’ve seen ur drinking days and even had a navel piercing so u r of those gals did have fun during college days (but anyways, it doesn’t make u bad at all)..be our inspiration always Maine..we do love you and we are happy we found you,,

  197. CM says: Reply

    I’m not expecting that you will read this Maine Thank you!

  198. april dawn gasilao says: Reply

    thanks for this wonderful blog. good job maine. You have a beautiful mind and soul. I really hope that someday you will find the right person for you. the most painful thing in the world is when the you love is no longer with you but life has to go on and you can only pray and hope that someday the sun will shine again for you. God bless you always. honestly, you made me cry…

  199. Jess says: Reply

    Nakakatuwa ka talaga Maine, sa sobrang busy mo nakakapagsulat ka pa rin. Just want to say na I really like your style on writing, babasahin mo talaga sya kahit mahaba kasi interesting. Sana may ganyan din akong passion sa buhay! haha! gusto ko rin mag sulat pero iniisip ko palang tinatamad na ko, paano? di ko alam paano i express yung feelings ko, mapa tao man or sa social media. tamlay dba? Continue what you are doing! you are so awesome! 😉

  200. joyce says: Reply

    Hi Maine!
    I so felt it… indeed, moving on is the hardest part of a relationship especially if “iniwan” ka, Been in that situation before and it was the most devastating feeling ever. It took me 2 yeaars to move on, to forget and somewhat forgive.

    Now, I’m enjoying the perks of being single. So, I’m gonna spend my valentine’s day alone, at home and listen to music. 🙂

  201. Ghet Lee says: Reply

    SOMETIMES EVEN THE GREATEST LOVE HAS TO END SO YOUR DESTINY CAN BEGIN

  202. Joyce says: Reply

    Very well said.. You are such a good example to the youth. Keep it up!

  203. Deanechinique says: Reply

    Tama… angValentine’s day Hindi lang para s mag lovers, love birds, mag jowa.. o ano pa man.. Valentine’s day para s lahat, wlang pinipili… walng kinikilingan serbisyong totoo lamang ahahaha… nice advice maine God blessed..

  204. Hazel says: Reply

    Very well said. Favorite phrase ko talaga yang ACCEPTANCE IS THE KEY, madalas ko na din yang nai-share sa friends ko. Pero minsan talaga kahit ilang beses na nating nasabi o nai-share ang isang bagay tayo pa ang nakakalimot at di makagawa. 2 beses na akong na in-love at sa 2 beses na yun ni isa wala akong naging boyfriend hahahahaha. Yung isa nakatuluyan ng friend ko, yung isa naman ay si “the one that got away”. I’m still 21 years old NBSB at naging sawi na sa love, but even though i’ve been hurt because of love i’m still hoping and waiting for that one person who would change the way I see the world. God Bless you maine!

  205. LAYLA says: Reply

    Just wanted to share one of my fave quotes to fellow readers (especially sa mga nakaka-relate *wink*),

    “We accept the love we think we deserve.” ― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

    If pinaglalaruan ka na pero forgive and forget pa rin, malamang tingin mo, ang dami mo nang nagawang masama at deserving ka lang nung treatment na iyon. In other words, it boils down to self-reflection and women have these insecure tendencies the most. Kaya say no to insecurities. Love yourself. Then accept the love you definitely deserve. 😉

  206. Lissa says: Reply

    THIS: “The worst thing you could do is to please him to get back together with you. Do. Not. Do. It. I tell you, do not ever please someone to love you.”

    This is very true Maine.. I pleased my ex thinking we could be back together as a couple, but I was wrong.. It was one of my biggest mistakes in life.. Pag ayaw na talaga ng guy, wala ka na talaga magagawa.. I also believe that Time heals wounds, though years nga lang umabot sa akin, pero at least ngayon naka move on na ako :-)..

    1. Lissa says: Reply

      sana naman Maine ma approve yong comment ko kagabi :-)…

  207. *insert song: You’ve Made Me Stronger by Regine Velasquez*

    Wala lang, It just entered my mind while reading you recent post.

    I certainly agree that it’s ON POINT and ON TIME. One thing I would like to point out though, You don’t need Valentine’s Day to make someone feel special. It could be everyday, every minute and every second, sounds very cheesy but its true.

    I may not have completely gone through those tough experiences yet (though I went through 3 failed relationships already), but one thing stucked most with me, and that is to leave something for yourself, you can love a person as much as you love yourself, but never ever forget that you are your own person and people should learn to love you the way you needed to be loved. *insert song: Love Yourself by Justin Bieber*

    I hope too many kids will learn about this, And I do believe that everything has its own perfect timing and its up to us to make it happen.

    Keep on writing and I’ll keep waiting for your new insights.

    Always,
    Toni 🙂

  208. helen gonzaga says: Reply

    base on exp. ba un iba nasulat mo dto meng? if…..ano a pinaka natutunan mo?….thanks ha…im interested reading ur blog…i realy admire ur charm n thinking!

  209. Ate Meng says: Reply

    11 or 12 years na ata ang nakaraan, dapat na ba taLaga ako mag-move on. Hindi ba pwedeng tumambay muna 😉 hihi….
    Pero thanks taLaga kase ang daming good vibes ngayong v-day dahiL sa post mo?? 🙂
    Ingat ingat?? ^_^

  210. Maja G. says: Reply

    What is to live but to love in as many forms as possible. The greatest love achieved is to be loved unconditionally. And to loose a love so dearly returned breaks a man’s soul. But you are right, we control how we behave. All sorrow will give one strength. When a branch breaks another grows in its place only if the tree still holds life. Life continuous when faith is strong. And, to find the same love time and time again is bliss and irreplaceable.

    When life isn’t too amazing and sadness holds firm. My faith is reinforced and I draw inspiration from others. That is how I move on. You, are amazing! Do you know that? You hold more wisdom than any old bag I encounter. You can do whatever you set your mind to and has bags of courage to face new challenges even when your stricken with fear and not to mention, smart. Not just a pretty face at all. I do love you, you’re like a rainbow after the storm. A breath of fresh air, a nice breeze on a hot day. Simply put, you make my day.

    How does it feel to be the inspiration to millions? Not too overwhelming I hope.

  211. Earl Mikko N. Pepino says: Reply

    Hi Maine, even though lalaki ako (pramis! lol) na-appreciate ko ang perspective mo about moving on, and for a guy, a girls’s point of view about this really helps a lot. As the most sought after female celebrity here in our country, nagsisilbi kana tuloy instrumento para sa mga sawi sa pa-ibig dahil dito sa blog mo na ito and for that, we thank you. Keep on inspiring people with your wit and unique ability to make people happy.

    P.S. buti nalang matagal kana naka-move on. Wala nang sagabal para kay Alden. Whoo!

  212. Raks says: Reply

    YOU are not just beauty and brains, but a woman of substance. Your blog reminds me of a book/girl, Anne Frank. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🙂

  213. Hi maine! I’m one of your avid fan eversince I saw your dubsmash video’s every now and then you keep me surprising in everything you can do even you are new in this industry, talo mo pa nga yung mga matagal na sa show business syempre di lang dahil sa mga awards and recognition na natatangap mo but more than that you still keep your feet on the ground you are the perfect discription of a good role model. I know you have a lot of talent na ipapakita pa sa amin na mga fan mo naway gamitin mo ito in a possitive ways to inspire us more.

    Well, yun na nga mukang expert ka na pag dating sa LOVE. Well, sometimes it really happened na after you broke up with your gf/bf ma fall out of love ka nalang without knowing the reason why, then after she/he moved on and found someone will love him/her back more than she/he expect from you then you will realize that you are still inlove him/her. Then you will begin to feel the pain that he/her going through since the day that you left and take him/her for granted. Regret? Yes! I do, but seing him happy and to be loved by someone more than you can give nor I always make him cry everytime I took him for granted. Then I acccept that I and he is not meant to be. Although before I wanted him back at iniisip na ipaglaban siya para atleast my ginawa akong way for him to come back kesa i will never stop wondering what if. Pero it always come in my mind also na wag na, okay lang na masaktan kung dun siya masaya kesa nasa akin siya at masaktan ko lang siya ulit. I accept the fact that its better for us to remain as friends. When we love we should think also the happiness of others and not only what make us happy, yun lang mali kasi ako naging selfish kung naging matured enough lang ako to handle my responsibilities right sana kami pa siguro.
    Yan tuloy 26 years old na ako and still single, celebrating Vday alone here in dubai, (away with my family also) kinikilig nalsng ako sa love story ng iba. Kailan pa kaya ako kikiligin sa sarili ko namang love story hehe ^_^

    Till here nalang mahal kong idol abangers nalang ako sa next mong blog. At sa mga episode ng KS sana maging DVCD narin ang mga episode ng KS from day1 up to the present. Hoing to see you,

    PS. Sana bigyan mo rin ako ng fansign ❤️

  214. Butskee says: Reply

    You’re really emotionally mature for your age…Good Job!
    You are an inspiration to your young followers…keep up the good work on being a positive influence…. We need this esp nowadays

  215. Danirose says: Reply

    Hello! You really write from your heart. Malalim kang tao, and i’m sure in time you’ll be writing something lighter than this. Love is something we can’t really control. The same thing in getting hurt and all. You are right, acceptance is a must! Though we may felt that the whole world hates us and ask millions of questions of why?, still at the end of the day we’ll see things according to God’s plan (unconsciously). Always trust yourself and never ever be afraid to take the risk of falling inlove, ikaw lang ang makakapagbigay ng ligaya sa puso mo…wala ng iba. Remember, the greatest gift is yung Love na mag stay sa atin gang tayo ay alive kahit ano pang estado mo aa buhay. And para sayo Maine, sana in time makita at maramdaman mo ang totoong love, wag kang matatakot, natural lang ung hurt. Pag nalampasan mo lahat ng takot, i’m sure pangmatagalan na yan. Happy Vday in advance!

  216. Angela says: Reply

    I just want to give you a big hand of applause Meng, you are on the right track. Indeed,at your age?If I am your mom or sister,I will be sooo proud kc kyang kaya mong dalhin ang sarili mo when it comes to love or relationships. Tuloy mo lang yan Meng dapat ganyan pakikipagrelasyon know your limits and learn to handle your emotions. 50/50 lang dapat. Godless Maine happy hearts day to you.

  217. Christine says: Reply

    Haler Maine! Nice blog… well for me tayong mga babae i think nature na nating mag-expect in return sa ating mga irog/bf/asawa/jowa o papa kaya tayo nasasaktan. It’s easy to say than doing it (tao lang). Good or bad experience it will come cause that’s the way life is… we learn from our mistakes… we grow from our experiences… and we love to have someone special this Valentines Day… pinoy tayo e kaya Romantiko… Advance Happy V day! Wish ko for you Maine that God will grant all your hearts desire… More blessings and be safe… Regards to Alden ❤️

  218. Angela says: Reply

    It’s Godbless you Maine. Sorry typing error.

  219. Atty. B says: Reply

    Don’t worry about being judged by others for your thoughts in your blog. No one should have a monopoly of their opinions anyway. And besides, opinions should not only be given by older people. Being old means one has also become wise. Wisdom grows not from experiences alone, but from what you learn from those experuences and how you apply it. Alot of people have committed mistakes in the past but never seem to apply what they should’ve learned from their mistakes. So how can they say they’re wiser than you? Since you seemed to jave applied what you’ve learned from your experiences, I can say that you’ve really grown wise beyond your years. Kudos to your parents for raising you well! I salute your maturity. Most of what you said is correct I must say. Moving on is really dependent on us. If we choose to remain stuck in our pasts, then we will always feel the hurt, anger, bitterness and pity that comes with it. So we should resolve within ourselves to learn from our past and forget what lies behind. We should press on forward and ask God’s grace to fill us so that we can learn how to forgive and let go of all our hurts and pains. It is only then that we can truly say that we have moved on.

  220. Atty. B says: Reply

    Don’t worry about being judged by others for your thoughts in your blog. No one should have a monopoly of their opinions anyway. And besides, opinions should not only be given by older people. Being old means one has also become wise. Wisdom grows not from experiences alone, but from what you learn from those experiences and how you apply it. Alot of people have committed mistakes in the past but never seem to apply what they should’ve learned from their mistakes. So how can they say they’re wiser than you? Since you seemed to jave applied what you’ve learned from your experiences, I can say that you’ve really grown wise beyond your years. Kudos to your parents for raising you well! I salute your maturity. Most of what you said is correct I must say. Moving on is really dependent on us. If we choose to remain stuck in our pasts, then we will always feel the hurt, anger, bitterness and pity that comes with it. So we should resolve within ourselves to learn from our past and forget what lies behind. We should press on forward and ask God’s grace to fill us so that we can learn how to forgive and let go of all our hurts and pains. It is only then that we can truly say that we have moved on.

  221. Elvin says: Reply

    It will always be your choice as to when will you move on. Give your sadness an expiry date. Stop those bitter stories you are just remembering bad things, isn’t it better to remember good things from your past relationship? Sharing bitter stories just makes your ex a bad person so stop.

    Make a eulogy for the death of your relationship so you will only remember the good times, the good things, the sacrifices you both done for each other. I know its funny… eulogy is for a dead person but it isn’t far from an ended relationship because you won’t have conversation, communication, interaction with that person for a long time.

    Love comes around… Keep a positive mind set relax, he/she will come or you will find her/him… In time. For this valentine’s day, if you will be alone. Your not the the only one spending it alone. Just think that cupid is at work and on point that day so my advice is to look your best and maybe the romance you are wishing to happen this valentine’s day will happen the day after that. It’s not a bad thing after all if you think of it..

  222. Maraming salamat Menggay! Wala man akong pinaghuhugutang heartbreak, na inspire mo ako sa Valentine post mo. One doesn’t have to be in a romantic relationship to celebrate it. Love comes to us in different forms or people and everyone should be free to celebrate it! Pero sana meron ng dumating sakin this year, haha. Tataya ako sa universe. *wish wish*
    Nga pala, unti-unti mag susulat na ulit ako kase nakakainspire ka 🙂 salamat ha

  223. mia says: Reply

    Nakaka inspire ka tlga meng,lahat ng blog mo may natututunan ako.valentines is for everyone naman eh,love for god,family,love ones even to your neighbors,kahit nga sa enemy,sa taong ayaw sayo.show them that you love them.pAra ma realize nila kung sino at ano ka ba tlga.
    Im happy to share also meng,na because of ALDUB nahanap ko yung guy na magmamahal sakin.naiintindihan kaartehan ko,mga flaws ko ate tears subside ko rin,nag followan sa twitter,nag uusap about aldub,updated sa happenings,naging close then nagbatuhan din ng pick-up lines sa dm,nag confess,nanligaw and finally naging kami.diko inakala na yung pinag emote tan ko sa ex ko ay siyang magiging present ko.ang saya lang,kaya thank you ALDUB/MAICHARD^_^ ALDUB YOU!

  224. Tin Florentino says: Reply

    Love without expecting anything in return. That’s how Christ loved and it also works well in romantic relationships. If you love like how Jesus loves you’ll be closer to Him and your partner. <3

  225. Issa says: Reply

    Hi meng why’s my previous comment still awaiting approval. I did not make any offensive comments at all. Just wondering,

  226. Kasyana says: Reply

    Hi Maine,

    Very well said.. (smiley)

    Sabi nga nila. It’s part of growing up.

    eto lng maSAY ko.

    After all of those sadness/dramatic moments I make sure to give myself time to laugh. LOVE ba kamo.? We really don’t need to ask for it.. Anjan naman si nanay, tatay, (gusto kong tinapay) ate at kuya (gusto kong kape)..chos! As in yung buong angkan mo especially our lord above to heal our broken heart. Kapit ka lang sa kanina wag dun sa mga bad memories.. Charge to experience na lang ang peg..

    Lastly, Write it down.. Masarap magsulat kapag broken hearted.. Promise.. Try niyo minsan..

    LOVE.. LOVE..LOVE.. HAPPINESS..
    GANOIN! HEHE

    May nabasa akong nagpapabati.. PABATI na rin ako uyyy.. B-day ko din sa Feb 22. haii tatanda na naman ako pero yung isip ko ganoin pa rin (isip bata). Wish ko makita na kita in person.. para makapagpasign ng mga magazine at selfie na din kahit hindi ako maganda.(bakit ba? gusto ko ih!walang makapigil sakin).. Tama na to.. uyyy.. ang haba na oh..

    Supporter here. labyah..

  227. Annie says: Reply

    Of the two, Nang iwan, and Iniwan, I have to admit I’ve only experienced the Nang iwan and that’s just because he was the first and last BF I had before finding “the one” :-). I have to think both make you feel bad initially and one is harder to move on than the other. I think a lot of the reasons for both happening are pretty similar and the same. Cheating, being treated badly, growing apart, sometimes LDRs, and because of family or religion. The last 2, I find very sad if there is no legitimate reason but know that in our culture, breakups because of them do happen. The relationship should emphasize the thoughts, feelings, and decisions of the 2 involved. I definitely encourage, family guidance if you’re still young. I have seen many relationships survive even though each person had differences in religion or family opinions about someone in the relationship.

    Nang Iwan- We grew apart. Going from high school to college was a big culture change in our lives. We both went to Manila but to different schools. Although the schools were not too far apart, the different schedules, activities, barkadas made us have fewer things in common. I guess you can say it wasn’t really “Nang Iwan” but a mutual, amicable parting. We never tried to get back together but remained friends. It was a cycle of emotions after parting ways. At first it felt ok then you get that realization of the good thing you had and the memories come flooding back. It’s ok to dwell on them but not too long. You have to let them go and realize there is a bigger picture in life and a reason you broke up. I know it’s hard when you’re young but hopefully this young at heart woman 🙂 can impart some wisdom. If you’re still in school, then you can either say to yourself you’re not going to have a serious relationship until you graduate or establish your career (which I did, sort of LOL) OR you can say to yourself the “next relationship I’m in I want to find someone who can inspire me in my journey through life”. Of course, I write this all with a disclaimer 🙂 that everyone is different with different needs and wants. I had my share of crushes and manliligaws after breaking up but given my criteria, I didn’t see in any of them someone I could draw inspiration from. Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t suplada or ignored them so I ended up with a few more guy barkada and to be honest, it was great that way.

    After school, it was a big step out on my own into the “real world”. I moved to another place where even though I had relatives there, I was basically on my own. This is where I’m going to tell you my beliefs in knowing someone a while before entering a serious relationship or marriage. I used to believe that (and to some extent I still do and preach it to our sons) and thought I wasn’t going to find “the one” until I was maybe in my late 20’s. That is until I met my next ex-BF (who is now my husband:-)). I met him at work, 6 months later he proposed, 1 year later, we were married. Married at 23! LOL. He turned out to be my inspiration and me his. 🙂 Love works in mysterious ways. Now my story sounds like I haven’t experienced any hurt in my love life. I have, mostly during my teen years. But the biggest thing that got me over heart ache was finding emotional support. It could be family, barkada, a religious person. One thing try not to do is tough it out on your own. Cry, but not forever. “The sun always rises the next day” you’ll be surprised how liberating it is to vent . :-). Keep busy, start a hobby, exercise, set goals (long term and short term). This will help keep your mind off what you need to let go of while building your self-esteem with accomplishment. Pray. And last of all, don’t be in a rush to start a new relationship. If it happens, it happens but make sure it’s for the right reasons.

    Happy Valentine’s Day everybody! Be it with anybody you decide to celebrate the day with. Great blog and subject Maine!

  228. AlmaNY says: Reply

    You may have mostly youngsters that follow your blog but let it be noted that you also have us, the young at hearts that have nothing but pure admiration for the kind of person you are. PLEASE BE AWARE (coz I figured you don’t give yourself much credit), that you are a GIFT to everyone that reads & relates to your thoughts, regardless of age and status in life. Putting all the glory and glitters of fame that you have aside, I see your Heart and Soul through your words, and they are so pure and real. Please keep on spreading Love, Good Vibes and Happiness, coz this world needs more of you. Also, remember you are a kid yourself and you deserve to enjoy life to its fullest, however way you want it to be. (Kalyeserye is REEL right?) BE HAPPY, MAINE.

  229. Violy espera says: Reply

    At your age i can say, MAGANDA KANG MAG ISIP.. true! It shows how much patience you have in you. Tama ka, to PRAY after all things done, prayer is the way to clear away all the troubles of our heart and mind. The best tool to start all over again. Yes, we must continue in our lives and open our door to new hopes and love. Never stop loving and don’t be afraid. GOD is always there to guide us.

    Thank you Maine, you are an inspiration to many.

    I just want to share this to you, i learned it from Fr. bong (a friend of many) that in ancient Egypt before entering eternal life, two questions will be ask: one “have you found joy in your life? Two “have you found someone to share your joy with?”

    I must say qouta ka na Maine kasi you share your joy to millions.

  230. gonzalez patrick says: Reply

    maine astig!

    1. istorya mo ba ito? hehe

    2. 20 year old ka and madami pang angles sa relationship ang hindi mo alam financial psychological ideological etc but you really have passion for this blog

    3. you blog for your own socio economic class, you blog about middle class concerns , you write for the entitled little rich kids na hindi representative ng phil society

    4. i know you are more than this, mas progressive ka maine and ako ay hardcore fan mo kaya ko sinasabi ito

    5. yung barangay na dinadalaw mo dapat ang target market
    mo, it will give you fulfillment and greater grasp of the country where we are. write for them, yung taga baclaran na walang makain , pero may crush, yung taga butuan na biktima ng oppression pero gusto magkaasawa etc

    5. malupit ka maine , matindi ang aabutin mo! at alam ko malalim ka at may mas makabuluhang mga mithiin!

  231. Mary Ann says: Reply

    Meng thanks for the update on your blog. This is one of the many reasons why I’m soooooo loving you. You make us feel na totoong tao ka na hindi ka imortal XD. That you are a common na tao. May feelings, may experiences, humihinga ng oxygen just like us and most of all hindi ka animated, hindi plastic or cartoon.
    I appreciate you trying to reach out to us your fans. Kahit kuminsan, ah hindi pala most of the time umiidlip ka lang. Grabeh ka gurl, di ka na natutulog?! Kaya nga sabi ko imortal ka kuminsan eh. Lam mo yung mga tulog mong ganyan sakit sa ulo nyan buti ka nakakaya mo hindi ka lutang d next day.
    Pwede bang magrequest medyo off lang kasi parang maganda parin na we celebrate V Day yung d usual walang nega, OK I get your point naman sa update na you want to enlighten yung walang mga partners I appreciate it sooooo much pero pano naman kaming mga inlove? Paano ba mainlove ang isang Maine Mendoza? Can you reminisce dun sa time na your in-love. Parang ganito, as a women how can you please your partner during vday. Kailangan ba lagi nalang tayo ang binibigyan? How can we women show appreciation sa ating mga partners in the most memorable way (wag naman censored ha yung rated PG lang, walang regaluhan ng katawan. Hehehe
    Ikaw what have you doned on your past relationship na you think na appreciate ng BF mo or ni special someone.
    Sana mabasa mo to parang Valentines gift mo na sakin. Love you!

  232. Jesse says: Reply

    “And when you meet him, you’ll be glad that none of your past relationships worked out.”

    This is soooo true. Girls, always remember this line. Thanks, Maine!

  233. Wow! Lahat andito na eh, coming from a 20-year old you.. this is definitely so lalim. But yeah, you don’t have to really experience it all just to know the ways on how to mend that broken heart. Well, I’ve been thru a lot of heartaches too, minsan na kong nang-iwan, iniwan, naging sawi, naging second option at kung anu-ano pa. It even came to a point na ayoko na maniwala sa LOVE.. parang imposible na dumating pa saken. But then, I just kept praying and hoping and wishing na bigyan lang ako ng isa pa, aalagaan at pagka-iingatan ko talaga.. will never let it slip on my grip, not anymore. Ayun, may dumating, and just like Meng said.. it’s just you eh, it’s your own decision whether you want to keep it. At mararamdaman mo yun, nde lang basta dahil gusto mo, pero dahil it really is worth it.. and it is. So yun na nga, magdadalawa na baby namin. 🙂 I’m happily married, I’m 31 now and loving the life I chose with the person I love, the person who’s all worth it. 🙂 Kaya chill lang mag bagets, darating din yan. Enjoy the ride while you can, nde mo mamamalayan may katabi ka na sa ride na yan and you two are both enjoying the journey, together. Happy Vday everyone!

  234. Krinelyn Banzon says: Reply

    Thank you Maine! Advance Happy Heart’s Day <3

  235. ghez says: Reply

    Very well said… coming from a 20 year old its very touching and inspiring… everyone can relate with this… what i love on this blog is when you love someone you don’t have to expect to love you the same way you love them or to beg to love you in return… and when someone hurts you its ok to cry, its ok to be sad but not for too long… you have to go on with your life and you can choose to be happy instead… thanks maine for inspiring us with your writings… have a great one and stay safe always… god bless!!!

  236. Donna says: Reply

    What am I doing here reading the blog of a 20- year old and I’m 42? Since day one, I’ve followed you incognito. You’re not the typical “artista.” You’re not typical at all. My 16-year old daughter teases me that I love you more than her because I always watch you online (but that’s not true though. I’m super proud of her and her achievements) and my 9-year old son knows all the characters of kalye serye because we watch it together.
    I won’t ask for love advise, though. Been there than that…. But I want you to know to keep on sending positive influence to your fellow youth. Stay grounded and congratulations to everything. Heck, you’re not typical at all. I work 60-hour-week. Yes, a week. But I have time to watch you Someday, I’ll see you in person Take care

  237. Lourdes says: Reply

    Hi Maine,
    It’s really nice reading your blog. So good that you always write positively for the good of your readers specially the teens. Well, everything you say is correct. So mature for a 20yr old lady.
    I know that you are intelligent and smart to handle what you have in your life right now. I believe you can still handle your life no matter how much more you can accomplish.
    One thing I can say, if you need someone to talk to or even just a sounding board, someone you want to listen to you in whatever you want to share or say, I am here. I can be your counselor or confidante.
    God bless and more success to you!

  238. Mai says: Reply

    Lovely mind and you nailed it! I admire how you put passion in writing, once you find the same level of comfort in anything, you will soar… Never be afraid, I’m sure you have tons of US ‘yaya dub-maine’ admirers who will root for you – you are such a rare gem

  239. Aries Indigo says: Reply

    para kang kaibigan kong psych sa mga advice mo.. pero tama ka!! isa talaga sa mga advice niya e yung e-delete na ang mga photos at numbers niya sa cp ko.. ika nga “out 0f sight, out of mind” tsaka feel the pain again before you let go of it at last. (lakas makahugot!! chos!)

    happiness is a choice..
    love is also a choice..
    in the end, it’s always your choice..

    God bless you always po!! you’re always my inspiration sa pagsabog ng Good Vibes araw araw.. no wonder you’re so blessed!!

    stay happy po!!

  240. Laiz says: Reply

    Single and happy for 3 years no lovelife, parang ang sarap lang nang feeling na free ka sa lahat, walang obligasyon, andyan yung family ko to feel the LOVE 🙂

    it feels so good reading this Meng!!!

    God Bless sa career mo, we will always here to Love and Support You 🙂 ♥♥♥

  241. Kathy says: Reply

    Yah thats true maine…. at the young age you know how to manage the feeling…just enjoy…pero infairness tinamaan ako sa mga sinabi mo..feel na feel ko mga sinabi mo… lahat yan na pag daan ko and still hoping na makawala na ako ng tuloyan sa pain..Kaya very thankful ako SAU at kay alden kc makita ko lng kau I feel the LOVE..khit d na ako ng expect ng forever ko makita ko kaung masaya..sobrang saya ko na…kaya sobrang love na love ko kau lalo kana..nababaling ung attention ko sa inyo hndi ko naiisip ung pain ung nga lng naalala ko lng ung sakit nung muntik kaung paghiwalayin ni lola baba. pero mas lamang parin ang kilig at saya…Dhil sau nkabango ulit ako nging masaya ulit ako at ngkaroon ako ng bagong mga kaibigan
    And2 lng kmi para supportahan ka..we love you hope to see u soon..

  242. Kathy says: Reply

    Yah thats true maine…. at the young age you know how to manage the feeling…just enjoy…pero infairness tinamaan ako sa mga sinabi mo..feel na feel ko mga sinabi mo… lahat yan na pag daan ko and still hoping na makawala na ako ng tuloyan sa pain..Kaya very thankful ako SAU at kay alden kc makita ko lng kau I feel the LOVE..khit d na ako ng expect ng forever ko makita ko kaung masaya..sobrang saya ko na…kaya sobrang love na love ko kau lalo kana..nababaling ung attention ko sa inyo hndi ko naiisip ung pain ung nga lng naalala ko lng ung sakit nung muntik kaung paghiwalayin ni lola baba. pero mas lamang parin ang kilig at saya…Dhil sau nkabango ulit ako nging masaya ulit ako at ngkaroon ako ng bagong mga kaibigan
    And2 lng kmi para supportahan ka..we love you hope to see u soon..

  243. Hahahaha. Love you meng… Pero paano naman maka-Move on sa pagkawalan ng pera kakagastos sa mga bagay bagay?!… Hahaha

  244. macy says: Reply

    “You are not as broken as you think you are.”
    This.
    This has always been my belief. The exact same words that floated in my head in spite of my own failure and loss. During and after.
    Thank you for your time, Maine. This is a perceptive and incisive piece and the time that was put into it, even the moments spent remembering your own personal experiences and feelings, is well apreciated. You have your personal time that was already shrinking in quantity and is so obviously valuable to you, but you made it of even more worth because you still stubbornly and impressively chose to share it.

  245. Paano bang magmahal? Kung puso ay nasasaktan??

  246. REFernandez says: Reply

    hiningal ako dun ah! 😉 but i love that its a long blog.. feeling ko (pasensya na feelingera lang) i got to spend quality time with you haha Pero ayun nga why do i feel that every time i read ur blogs.. its like were in this coffee shop..im listening to you shoot the breeze about love and moving on and now its my turn to “talk”..weird but hey wala daw basagan ng trip. Seriously that’s how i feel…kakwentuhan kita na dipa namimeet in person.***There’s no strangers here, only friends you haven’t met yet****

    Honestly madalang ako magbasa ng blogs except for my friend’s travel blog at pag sinipag.. i read some food blogs para gutumin ang sarili. This is the first time i look forward sa isang blog and actually interact or respond. yes you are irresistible! Shempre! 🙂

    I agree sa lahat ng sinabi mo about loving and moving on. At 20, malalim na ang pananaw mo about it. Yang moving on na yan..napaka tricky and elusive..maraming di makalabas labas or usad (parang Edsa …pahirapan!) sa stage na yan. minsan nga hanggang pagtanda eh dipa rin nakaka move on. mga tipong Anselmo ni lola Nidora. depende din kasi kung gano ka kalalim na fall eh..gano katagal ang time (ang iba pera hehe) ang na invest…gano kadaming unos ang inyong pinag daanan.. Different strokes for different folks. Pero napakalaki ng maitutulong at napakaimportante that you got a strong support system. Go out and talk to someone (of course someone you trust and feel comfortable with..tama ka hindi yung sinabi mong tambay sa kanto or sa driver hehehe). ipagdasal na tulungan ka ni Lord i heal ung hurt na nararamdaman mo. Time heals all wounds. Yes it does…you learn and get wiser with your choices or decisions. And dyan na papasok ung sinabi mong pag control ng emotion(s). You know better na.

    But u know what whenever i talk to my friends..i always say.. gow magmahal ka.. love deeply.. life is short ( nandyan na ang climate change, sunod sunod na earthquake,ISIS, oil crisis etc) Yes, you wait for the right time but when you feel that eto na ung right person. Alam mo sa sarili mo na ready ka na at pinagdasal mo ito sa Dyos..then why prolong the agony. Just do it.

    Pero sabi nga..love is not just feeling but its also a decision. Once you decide to love..be ready for the consequences.

    This is getting long too hahaha but let me share a fave song entitled “Now” . Kasi maganda naman planuhin ang future pero mas maganda namnamin ang NOW.live the present moment ika nga. Have a great day! #labyuNicomaine forevs!

    Now is all I know
    Now is all I got
    And I don’t know
    If there will be tomorrow for us.

    Now is all I care about
    Now that you are here
    Now that you’re the contents of my heart.

    Now you’re all I know
    Now is all I promise
    And I don’t know
    If there will be a future for us.

    Now is all I live for
    Now that you are near
    And it was best that from the start it was clear.

    Refrain:
    Loving is not owning
    We can let it go
    We can let it go.

    Loving is not owning
    You can let me go
    You can let me go.

    Chorus:
    There’s a reason
    Why we love each other now
    And we don’t know if this is forever.

    There’s a reason
    Why we are together now
    And we don’t care if it’s not forever now.

    Now is all I think about
    Now that I am happy
    And I’m not sure
    If there will be a future for us.

    Now is all I offer
    It’s everything I got
    And I still wish
    That there will be a tomorrow for us.

    1. i feel you 🙂

  247. Eliza Mae says: Reply

    Hello Maine,

    I am an avid fan here. First I want to thank you for the inspiration you have brought to my life since I first saw you on TV last July 4, 2015 in EB. Nonetheless, I’ve already watched your Youtube videos beforehand, and you have fascinated me with your hilarious dubsmashing skills as well.

    As time goes by, you have proven to be a star in every inch as you let us witness your hidden talents one after another. You are like a cocoon transforming right before our very eyes into a ravishing butterfly. You are very raw, true and kind. Beautiful inside and out. So much more to explore and enhance, yet you have proven to be an intelligent artist who can easily adopt and learn things fast. Proving that talents run in your blood. You can dance, sing, act, host, write, and make people laugh among others.

    Good things have happened for you with your very successful tandem with Alden in KS. Endorsements here and there, recognitions, and a movie with Vic and AiAi.

    I am happy to see you enjoying what you are doing, however, there is a part of me that also worries with how things are turning out in your career. I feel like you are trapped with EB doing the same things over and over.

    Despite your huge followings, it seems that you are not being given the quality projects you deserve. I’m not sure if you are now a GMA artist and what their plans are for you. As the saying goes, “Strike the iron while it’s hot”.

    I hope you would be able to give yourself a safe timeline as up to when you would want to do the same things in your career. You have so much to explore out there and you are capable of doing that. Don’t limit your world. Soar as much as you can.

    In time, I dream that you be in the same league as some of our renowned celebrities (Toni G., Anne Curtis, Angel Locsin, Bea A., etc) who have conquered both TV and movies. Having a huge follower is an asset, but it needs having good, quality projects to keep things going, to make a strong mark in the industry and attain longevity. Being able to work with the best in the industry will definitely polish you and be a like a diamond, to become the best version of you.

    I pray that you be guided with the right people around you, for you to make the best decisions in your career. We, your avid fans will stay right behind you as long as you want us to.

    God Bless and more power to you.

  248. Mart says: Reply

    ang galing mga payo mo po meng..
    may hugot..hehe

  249. Clare says: Reply

    Thank you for the update Maine. I really love reading your blog, it’s like I’m talking to you.
    Are you really a 20 year old? I’m just a month older than you but your taught was way beyond. It shows that you’ve experience a lot at a young age. I may not relate to what you’ve wrote (NBSB here) but I can used it in the future. Thank you for sharing your taught’s. Sana mag ka totoo yung panaginip ko kahit nakakatawa. Advance Happy Valentine’s Day to you. Hope someone will invite you for a date. ‘yee kilig

  250. roccxx says: Reply

    Hi Maine! You really inspired me to your writings. You slayed every pieces of your write-ups. You’re too smart! (well said) clap clap clap clap! Aldubyou! :*

  251. Farida says: Reply

    You are a very good writer meng..seems like an expert in what you are saying…Oh wait, sana naman on V-day, happy ka, well, a real date with Richards is a super bonus to all of us waiting for that thing to happen..stay happy and in love (ehem)…Congrats, seems ur no longer more of a pessimist, but an optimist na…love you!

  252. Focus on today.– You can decide right now that negative experiences from your past will not predict your future. Figure out what the next positive step is, no matter how small or difficult, and take it. Ultimately, the only thing you can ever really do is to keep moving forward. Take that leap without hesitation, without looking back. Simply forget the past, look straight ahead and forge toward the future.

    I post on my blog about Ways to Let Go and Move On. I hope it could help 🙂

  253. MLRC says: Reply

    naiyak ako pero i must say it’s worth reading (i love long stories anyway).
    i cannot comment much kasi i’m still so full of emotions pa after reading your blog.
    just want to say THANK YOU Maine!

  254. maguanco says: Reply

    dear maine
    as i read your newest blog i’ve got this feeling that you are indeed a blessing to all of us who loved & admired you so much..looking back thru my married life you know i never felt that word described as “true happiness”..yes there was love at first but for all we know love will fade thru the passing years if its not taken cared of..kahit ganito ang nangyari i’m still happy because of my children..sabi nga iba’t ibang landas ang ating tatahakin sa buhay..but none the less i have no regrets sa naging choice ko it was my destiny..maine iha please keep on writing if time allows you to..you’re an inspiration to all of us..you have so much more to give iha..i love you for what you really are!!!

  255. angie says: Reply

    Hi Maine,

    You’ve got a great understanding and wisdom for a 20-year old. You’ve proven once again that wisdom does not come with age 🙂 Thank you for sharing your thoughts and using your blog to positively influence not only people of your age but even us (or me) that is in my 40’s . I agree with all that you’ve shared. What I really like most is what you said also of ‘loving oneself’. And its true, how can one give love or love others if one doesn’t love oneself. If we are content with ourselves we lessen our expectations of others meeting our needs. Again, thank you and I pray you’ll find the time to write — you have a gift for it. Your writing inspires! God bless you more!

  256. Hi Maine! I agree with you. VDay is not just spending with your partner, you can spend it with your family and friends, after all they give the love you know it’s unconditional. Salute to your maturity when it comes to love. Pwede na mag-asawa!! (joke lang, baka magalit si lola nidora) Hahaha. God bless your way meng! Aldub you! :*

  257. Reese David says: Reply

    Maine I tell you, madaming ma iinspire dito sa sinulat mong blog. They will get more inspired by your writings. Thats why you have alot of supporters and fans. Keeps inspiring people Maine.

  258. Worthy to read 🙂 Maine,just want to ask you have you met “Him” already?I don’t expect you to really answer because for sure your blogsite is flooded with comments but I’ll be really happy if you will have some time to reply.Godbless you!

  259. So after all, I’m not alone. Cheers sa lahat ng Singles out there! Thanks for this Maine. Are you really a 20-year old girl? Kasi parang hindi. 🙂 I’m 7 years older than you but I really learned a lot from you. And for that I commend you. Keep updating your blog girl to inspire more people like me. I really really wish one day, that you will be able to have your own book. fingers-crossed! Happy Hearts Month Maine Girl! 🙂 xoxo

  260. R U T H says: Reply

    Worth it. Slow clap for you meng! Sana naging kasing talino kita. At your age alam mo kung paano patatakbuhin ang buhay pag ibig mo. Hindi ka padalos dalos sa buhay. You’re just enjoying every moment. Maswerte ang magiging asawa mo. Masyado na kasing mapusok ang mga kabataan ngayon kaya ayan tulad ko nakakapag asawa ng maaga. Haist. Meng, continue to inspire the youths of today. Hindi aq nagkamali na ikaw ang inidolo ko. Love lots!

  261. 4big4i7 says: Reply

    hi maine!pano ba mging ikaw?but of course,ikaw ang NAG IISANG IKAW!f uv got more time, sulat k lng palagi.u lift someone’s soul..im not xcited for d v-day, im more xcited for you..lol..i hope someone,whoever he is, will make an effort to make you happy .lovelots for you. God bless!

  262. marieperea says: Reply

    You are an Old Soul Maine.
    what I liked most with what you have written is “TO FEEL YOUR FEELINGS”.. most of us try to escape .. and you are right, “feel the sadness- feel the pain… We mustn’t skip this part. To fully embrace the entirety of moving on and letting go, is to succumb to all the emotions enclosed with it. Because it’s only then that we’ll fully understand the essence of the love that existed and lasted for that period of time…

  263. Ate Meng can you talk about friendship naman. i know you’ve been there. kung paano mawalan ng kaibigan. sa totoo lang hindi ko alam kung ano ang nangyayari sakin. i’m a good bestfriend pero bakit ganun ate meng kahit na sabihin ko na marami akong bestfriend, wala pa rin? naiingit talaga ako sa mga bestfriend goals na yan because i know kaya ko yun pero wala akong bestfriend miski isa. marami akong naging bestfriend pero parang ayaw naman nila sakin. hindi ko alam kung anong mali sakin but hindi ko talaga maramdaman ung bestfriend na parang kapatid nadin ang turingan. halos lahat ng naging bestfriend ko ay nagkaroon na ng boyfriend at eto ako iniwan sa ere. i chachat lang tuwing namomoblema. ang sakit para saakin na iwan nalang basta basta. mas masakit pa kesa sa iwan ka ng boyfriend. ngayon ate wala akong kaibigan na nakakasama i mean masaya naman mapagisa pero mahirap din pala kapag wala kang napagsasabihan miski isa. i used to be a jolly person pero simula nung nalaman ko na parang wala akong kwentang kaibagan, i cried everynight and asking why i don’t have any bestfriend. i asked God na sana kahit isa manlang meron. yung taong may pakeelam talaga sakin. kaya para saakin hindi muna importante ang pagkakaroon ng lovelife ate kasi sanay na akong Nbsb. sa ngayon ate naging tahimik na ako at hindi naging loner na ako sa school at kahit sa bahay hindi na ako na labas ng kwarto. minsan nagala ako magisa pero ang sakit ate na parang tuwing magisa ako naiisip ko na walang nagmamahal sakin kahit meron naman talaga. Hindi ko kasi nararamdaman na may nagmamahal at nagaalala sakin except kay God and my family.

  264. Grabe ‘to haha malalim na tao ka pala talaga

  265. K says: Reply

    i have always enjoyed reading your blog entries. And even though di ko pa nabababasa yung iba, i am sure they are all brilliant. And i have to say this is the most mind bottling blog post i have ever read.

    Uhm what can you advice naman to people na still doesnt know what to do or where to go after they graduate? Coz you yourself, even tho you already graduated with a degree in culinary arts, e you werent happy. You wanted something else or should i say something more. And now, as we all know (and by we i mean the entire universe) nahanap mo na. Coz im struggling. Even though di pa ako ggraduate anytime soon. I’m losing interest na sa pinili kong program. But i am still fighting it tho. Help

  266. Maria B. says: Reply

    Thanks for updating your blog. I’m turning 51 this March 4th and I’m amazed with your writing skills. You are the best inspiration for younger generation nowadays. I’m happily married for 23 years with 2 growing up boys. My 2 boys never been in the Philippines since birth and they have a Canadian culture but understand and speak little Tagalog. We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day as for us everyday is Valentine’s Day. Sharing our happiness and admiration together every single day. Satisfaction is the key and don’t expect to much. Enjoy life to the fullest as life is too short to live. God Bless You More! Stay safe, happy and healthy!

  267. Much of one’s suffering is self-inflicted

  268. Lauren says: Reply

    I CRY A LOT upon reading this maine. This topic is for me! Hahahaha. Seriously, Iam going through a lot of pain lately and reading this makes me feel better. Thank you maine! You are really INDEED and inspiration to everyone 🙂

  269. J says: Reply

    Heartache is inevitable but misery is optional. Let go and let God.

  270. TsenzyB says: Reply

    It’s best also to ‘Love someone without expecting anything in return’ when you are in a relationship. Your relationship will work much better that way. But we also have to draw a line between being ‘tanga’ and just doing all the loving. If your love is unrequited then better find someone else where it is better put to use. Don’t waste love. It’s precious.

  271. TsenzyB says: Reply

    Never mind the part on drawing the line.

  272. annie carlos says: Reply

    you nailed it once again Meng! superb… you’re the exact definition of the word BEAUTIFUL!!! Godbless…

  273. amity says: Reply

    lovely…acceptance is the key word..and how to deal with it..either ikaw ung the one that got awat or ung iniwan.. sa ano pang dahilan …tanggapin mo lng and move on..move on..agad agad…

  274. amity says: Reply

    i forgot to include.. we should not dwell on the situation ng sobra sobra..wag hayaang maging kawawa…

  275. JHOSH says: Reply

    i really start loving you Meng! Nice blog.

  276. Lala Latupan says: Reply

    Very well said….We must discern GOD’s perfect will in our lives.
    LOVE – 1 Corinthians 13 (NIV)
    1 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
    4 LOVE is patient, LOVE is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 LOVE does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
    8 LOVE never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
    13 And now these three remain: Faith, Hope and LOVE. But the greatest of these is LOVE.

  277. Carmela Ann says: Reply

    Hello Maine!
    Ang galing naman ng aking idol, parang hindi 20 yrs. old, kaya mahal na mahal kita and no.1 fan mo talaga ako, best part is – Cut him out – natawa ako dito. God bless you always

  278. Carmela Ann says: Reply

    Hello Maine!
    Ang galing naman ng aking idol, parang hindi 20 yrs. old, maganda kang huwaran sa mga kabataan napakalawak ng pang unawa mo sa mga bagay bagay, best part – Cut him out – natawa ako dito gets na gets mo naalala ko tuloy ang sarili ko dati hahaha… God bless you always Maine, I love you..

  279. Haycell Solis says: Reply

    Your advice is what you`ve experience, right?? I don`t think I need to go with that situation just to be related. Thumbs Up ako sayo Ate Maine! 🙂

  280. Sharmae Gapas says: Reply

    Hi ! ate maine
    I really love your blog
    it inspire me a lot…
    I LOVE YOU ATE MENGGAY!!

  281. esther says: Reply

    Hi Meng,

    So in awe how you wrote this blog. Tama sila you think beyond your years. You’re a multi-talented person. You can act, sing, dance, write blogs…you’re a book author in the making. Keep writing because you’re inspiring a lot of people. Use your influence to spread values and lessons that will keep people on right tracks..Hope you’ll continue writing..You really have a future in writing. I’ll wait for you to finish your story of Zach. Keep writing. It’s a gift to be shared and not be hidden at all.

    Thank you very much for your lives.

  282. Mary says: Reply

    Great article. 🙂 though di ko nabasa lahat kasi yung eyes ko gusto ng pumikit pero I get your point.
    Na guilty tuloy ako sa iniwan ko noon. It must have been really hard and painful.
    To that someone, I am so sorry.
    Hope you are happy. 🙂

  283. DAN says: Reply

    ❤ Well said. I love this post. I learned a lot. Thanks Maine. Keep it up!

  284. Best feature I’ve read about LOVE. Thank You Meng! Da best! <3

  285. Nikko says: Reply

    Stay beautiful Maine.

  286. Cadeebear says: Reply

    Nice one and very well said.. for me, Valentines day is just a reminder that “Love is all around” , as long as we live dont get tired of giving love to others most especially to our loveones.

    “God is Love”

  287. Anna Marie Beltran says: Reply

    Good Morning Maine,

    A good read for the morning…especially for a young lady like you. God gave you wisdom to be able to give wisely advice for your young/adult readers. And your past experiences and life lessons learned in the past were there on purpose to be shared for situation/time like this.
    The Lord God truly blesses you each day because of your kindness to share that there are always brighter things at the end each bad experiences.
    I have no issues in the matter of the heart…
    Maine, you’re always in my prayers…

    In Christ,
    Anna

  288. lois says: Reply

    Galing!!!kumpleto rekado…and inspiring lhat ng naisulat..tama ka din n every decision we make is our choice…kaya hndi natin masisi kung meron mang tao na pinili nalang na wag nang umibig muli dahil sa nabigong pagibig before.Aasa nalng na baka sa pagdating ng panahon pagtagpuin silang muli para mapagbigyan ang pagibig na inaasam.

  289. lois says: Reply

    PARANG SA MGA MOVIE LANG…PINAGHIWALAY NG MAHABANG panahon tapos pagtatagpuin din sa tamang panahon…RARE NA MANGYARI YUNG GANUN..pero si POSSIBLE ay lagong andayn..

  290. Cherry says: Reply

    hi menggay! i just love reading your blogs, its like i’m reading from a blog of a matured woman…its like you’ve been through a lot…w/lots of experience. Everything in life is really a choice. God will always allow us to make mistakes, in order for us to learn and to grow more.
    But hey meng, you’re just 20… enjoy your life in your 20’s…if ever you have problems or difficulties…we’re just here to back you up. (feeling ate na din ako no he he..coz i’m a fan!). I hope you’ll always pray for all your fans…for us…not just to get through the day…but to be strong and successful in the presence of God. I LOVE YOU MENGGAY. KEEP INSPIRING US AND USE ALL YOUR GOD-GIVEN GIFTS FOR GOD’S GLORY. HAPPY HEARTS MONTH!!!

  291. paul says: Reply

    everyday should be valentine’s day. not because of what you can receive from others, but because everyday, you can give your love to others, especially the unloved.

  292. Euniece tomimbang says: Reply

    Alam mo ate meng tama ka kasi sa sitwasyon ko ngayon, ngayon na 18 pa lang ako tapos parang big deal na sakin yung tungkol sa love. Alam mo kasi ate meng may bestfriend ako na lalaki na super close kami noon, until at one point dumating yung araw na minahal ko siya higit sa pagiging magbestfriend naming dalawa. Hanggang sa nalaman niya yun hanggang sa naging akward na talaga kami sa isa’t-isa. Hindi na kagaya ng dati pero magkaibigan pa rin kami. Honestly hanggang ngayon masasabi ko na hindi pa talaga ako nakaka move on sa kanya. Gustohin ko man pero bakit ang hirap? Bakit ang hirap mag move on??? Hanggang sa nabasa ko po yung blog na inupdate niyo po. Yung word lang na “ACCEPTANCE” ang kailangan na talagang siguro talagang hindi kami yung para sa isa’t-isa at talagang eto na yung panahon para mag move on ako. Salamat ate meng kasi mga inspirasyon mo at your thoughts na binahagi niyo po sa amin, sa akin. Sana po balang araw makilala at makita ko po kayo ng personal dahil idol ko po kayo. Sana nga po talaga. Salamat po dito and God bless po. Aldub you po ate meng ☺️☺️☺️☺️

  293. Katherine says: Reply

    Maine, you are right. People shouldn’t be dreading over themselves especially on VDay. You don’t wait for VDay to tell those you love that you love them. Everyone should be telling their love ones ‘I love you’ every day cuz you may never know when their time will come and it’s too late to say I love you. For those who were asking on how to move on, I reminded myself that there are plenty of fishes in the sea no matter how madly in love I was with that person. I, too, fell in love with someone who got away (it had happened to me 2x) and I’ve realized that I was nothing to those 2 guys. They both had been with someone who has been their childhood sweetheart and high school sweetheart. Now that I am married, I realized that my husband is way better than those 2 guys who broke my heart. I have found everything that I was looking for that my 2 exes LACKED. Word of advice for those who had their hearts broken: there is always gonna be someone better out there. True not everyone is fortunate but if you believe that love will come, then love will find its way to your heart. Never give up on love cuz if you do, you might miss something and may regret it.

    What I learned from my previous relationships is :
    1. It made you a better and wiser person
    2. You know what other qualities that you are looking for
    3. painful as it is, you know how to make the next relationship better
    4. There is someone better out there
    5. Don’t seek revenge cuz karma will come back to you

    After my breakups, I took care of myself. I cut my hair and had my nails done. Bought new clothes. It made me feel better. As awkward it was, I was getting noticed by other guys and it made me think about my ex. I had to remind myself that my ex doesn’t want me so I had to force myself to move on no matter how much I was still in love with him and that was the best decision that I’ve ever made. Along the way, I regained my confidence back and could never be more happier. If you want updates, let me tell you: my ex who is married to his childhood sweetheart was shocked that I was married to someone he knows (small world, noh?) and he got scared cuz he knows that I told my hubby how he treated me. Believe me, my hubby was pissed and my hubby told me the whole story about how my ex was still with his childhood sweetheart and that they never broke up. So I was just the spare tire. My ex who married his high school sweetheart claimed that he still have feelings for me and I didn’t believe him. I cut ties with him since I am not a homewrecker and I am happily married but his families still talk to me cuz they still consider me as a family friend.

    It is best to keep experiencing love and heartaches until the right one comes to you. Never give up on love. Ever. There is always that special someone who is gonna do anything for you. Always trust yourself and your heart.

  294. Alex says: Reply

    Good day, Maine.

    Here is one verse that reminds us specially at the age when emotions and attraction with the opposite sex gets in the way so intensely.

    Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.
    Song of Solomon 8:4, NLT

    This verse also somehow helps us avoid the heartaches most young people experience. The words “I Love You” is not really magically but it is so powerful that it can literally make or break one’s future when mishandled. It is not a thing one can play with when talking about getting into a relationship. If one wants to wisely deal with the feeling and not fall into the same snare as others have been, then this word of wisdom is the best decision to start with.

    The last part you’ve mentioned, PRAY, is the thing that anyone should do First. Having God first even in one’s love life will always save the day and make it far better than one can imagine.

    ps: I hope you are able to read and answer email as well. I sent you one. Kind of a request. Not a big deal but I would highly appreciate if you reply back.

    God bless you in your career. Find time to read the Bible. It has a treasure of wisdom that will guide us not only in this present world but most specially toward eternal (or as what many are fond of nowadays called, Forever. It is for real no matter what happens.}

    Cheers! Shalom.

  295. samiya sandila of valenzuela city says: Reply

    hi meng! Ikaw na,ikaw na talaga…
    You are really an inspiration.. Lam mo,hilig ko ng balik balikan ang pagbabasa ng blog mo,nakakawala ng stress,nakakainspire,at nakakainggit hehehe! Galing mo mag-english e,, sana talaga makita na kit a in person,hihingi ako ng cp kc nakakainis na i tong gamit ang
    tagal magloading at minsan di pa ako tapos mg type namamatay na..ehehe,2700 lang kc mas matanda pa sa panganay ko,hahaha. Pero ok lng atleast.Greet m aq sa 15 ng feb ah,25 bday q,pls..,…

  296. Kutin Balaguer says: Reply

    Being a 20 year-old girl with that perspective in life / love you make me idolize you more. Thanks for sharing that. You put so much effort/ time/ emotions / money and you end up na kulang padin para sa taong mahal mo. Being inlove is like parking your car beside a construction site “Love at your own risk”. But just want to share this love God first and everything will fall into their respective places. God bless you Maine. Thanks for always inspiring us.

  297. Eelehd says: Reply

    God! You are so intelligent, Meng. Just so proud how articulate you are. You have almost everything in life. You deserved every fame you have right now. Who would have thought a 20 year old girl could give so much to her readers regardless if you are a kid, a teen or an oldies? Never been so obssessed with anyone in showbusiness but it changed when I laid my eyes on you 🙂 Keep it up! stay grounded and don’t let the bashers affect you. Remember the 41M tweets, thats the number of people who loves you 🙂

  298. Grace says: Reply

    Tagos hanggang sa buto mga sinabi mo at super relate ako. I was both “nangiwan” at “iniwanan”. Ako nangiwan because I cannot trust him anymore. Pero/datapwat/subalit/bagamat mas masakit yung iniwanan at hanging in the air. After those relationships, what really helped me was to rest my heart. Nakakapagod din mag-isip. I found myself working, traveling, meeting new friends and yes I deleted pictures and threw all the letters in the bin. I realized I have to love and respect myself first before I could love others. I prayed to God na bigyan ako ng peace of mind every single night (sobbing in my bed), to give me strength to move on and to see the beauty of life again. At Kung magmamahal ulit ako, mas alam ko na kung paano handle situation, alam ko na gusto at ayaw ko sa isang lalaki. Naisip ko din kapag broken hearted di ba dumidilim ang paligid, gloomy. Yung tamang panahon, hindi hinahanap kundi sa least expected moment dumadating yun and I thank God na enjoy ko pagiging single and now happily married. Maine, I salute you for being brave enough to give advice. And yes, take it slowly, as you are wiser than yesterday because of those trials napagdaanan mo. Thank you for inspiring not only the youth but all people who are following you.

  299. Jayn Yala says: Reply

    I’ve learned a lot about life when i’m here in your blog site.. isa ako sa mga abangers ng post mu
    🙂

  300. joanna says: Reply

    Yah. Eto tlga yung buwan kung kailn feeling mo buong mundo sinabi sau na ‘hoy, magisa klng kawawa ka naman. Wala kang kadate sa valentines.’ Pag lumabas ka on feb 14 may makikita kang mga lalaki na may hawak na bouquet of flowers habang naghihintay sa mga girlfriend nila. Nakakalungkot kasi alm mong hndi yun para sau. Hndi makakatanggap. Wala kng karapatan kasi magisa ka lang.
    Nakakapraning pa kasi naalala ko feb 14 yung araw na nalaman kong niloko ko ng ex ko, yes feb 14 yun. Ang saklap diba. Sasabhin mo nlng sa sarili mo na okay lang you’re find, hindi ka dapat maiingit, wala kng dapat isipin pero deep inside you know gusto mo rin nmn na kahit minsan maging special yung araw na yun. Haay. Nagiging madrama tlg ang mga single pag ganitong buwan. Pero kung tutuusin darating din nmn tau lahat jan. Hndi pa nga lang siguro ngaun. And malay natin there is a big surprise coming na mas maganda kesa sa ineexpect natin. So here i am focus muna sa career habng hinhntay na mameet someday yung right guy for me. Thanks sa blog meng. God bless you.

  301. joanna says: Reply

    Yah. Eto tlga yung buwan kung kailn feeling mo buong mundo sinasabi sau na ‘hoy, magisa klng kawawa ka naman. Wala kang kadate sa valentines.’ Pag lumabas ka on feb 14 may makikita kang mga lalaki na may hawak na bouquet of flowers habang naghihintay sa mga girlfriend nila. Nakakalungkot kasi alm mong hndi yun para sau. Hndi makakatanggap. Wala kng karapatan kasi magisa ka lang.
    Nakakapraning pa kasi naalala ko feb 14 yung araw na nalaman kong niloko ko ng ex ko, yes feb 14 yun. Ang saklap diba. Sasabhin mo nlng sa sarili mo na okay lang you’re find, hindi ka dapat maiingit, wala kng dapat isipin pero deep inside you know gusto mo rin nmn na kahit minsan maging special yung araw na yun. Haay. Nagiging madrama tlg ang mga single pag ganitong buwan. Pero kung tutuusin darating din nmn tau lahat jan. Hndi pa nga lang siguro ngaun. And malay natin there is a big surprise coming na mas maganda kesa sa ineexpect natin. So here i am focus muna sa career habng hinhntay na mameet someday yung right guy for me. Thanks sa blog meng. God bless you.

  302. Jhelene says: Reply

    Love you Meng!! Stay true to yourself!!

  303. Liz says: Reply

    Hello Maine,
    Wow! I think magiging magaling kang writer in the future, simple vday Lang ang usapan naging long topic and example na how to “moved on” agree ako sa lahat ng sinabi mo, na experienced ko ang “iniwan” at “nang- iwan” and frankly parehong masakit.kailan ba naging madali ang goodbye? Letting go is a long process pero darating ang tamang panahon para mag heal ang sugat..ang relationship laging meron ending, it’s either you end up together or apart nsa inyo na yun kung ano ang keribells nyo! Ang natutunan ko sa love n relationship always always ask God “God sya na ba?” if YES hayaan mong mahalin nmin ang isat isa hanggang katapusan, if NOT hayaan mong mahalin parin nmin ang isat isa kahit sa maiksing panahon at pagdating ng panahon na yun let God help you ease the pain..positive Lang lagi mahirap man darating rin ang panahon na magiging madali..Love is God in action ..
    Thanks Maine for just being you..

    Ps..bilang fan mo Alam ko mahopia ako nun sinabi mo na Meron ka kadate sa vday but then again because Iam a fan hinayaan kong maglakbay ang isip ko “Richard Faulkerson Jr. Nicomaine Mendoza” nde Lang hawhaw but harthart date.. Neways enjoy your heartday with people that you love or with mr.bed.. I admire you for a simple reason because you are “simple”

  304. Alex says: Reply

    Good day, Maine.

    Here is one verse that reminds us specially at the age when emotions and attraction with the opposite sex gets in the way so intensely.

    Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.
    Song of Solomon 8:4, NLT

    This verse also somehow helps us avoid the heartaches most young people experience. The words “I Love You” is not really magically but it is so powerful that it can literally make or break one’s future when mishandled. It is not a thing one can play with when talking about getting into a relationship. If one wants to wisely deal with the feeling and not fall into the same snare as others have been, then this word of wisdom is the best decision to start with.

    The last part you’ve mentioned, PRAY, is the thing that anyone should do First. Having God first even in one’s love life will always save the day and make it far better than one can imagine.

    ps: I hope you are able to answer email as well. I sent you one. Kind of a request. Not a big deal but I would highly appreciate if you reply back.

    God bless you in your career. Find time to read the Bible. It has a treasure of wisdom that will guide us not only in this present world but most specially toward eternal (or what many are fond of nowadays called, Forever. It is for real no matter what happens.}

    Cheers! Shalom.

  305. Leo Paderes says: Reply

    Hay, sarap basahin ng paulit-ulit ang blog mo Maine. While reading it, word by word, I can actually imagine the things that happened to me before. I am now 27 and been in a relationship before pero LAHAT walang happy ending. It was kind of a devastating feeling that I have ever felt in my entire life PERO, the moment I have witnessed the blossoming of KalyeSerye, the love story of Divina and Alden, the bitter ending of Anselmo and Nidora, all I could think of is there will always be a RIGHT MOMENT for everything to happen. It may not be as SWEET as a candy. It could be as BITTER as a medicine we take. But, you have the power to choose which path to go. Everything that you have experience, before or up to this day, it has a purpose and that is TO MAKE YOU THE PERSON WHO YOU ARE RIGHT NOW!

    I am happy to be single because I have my family who supports me all the time, EB and KS family who gives laughter and KILIG to me every day. Most importantly, I have GOD who always see the best in me and never leaves my side in every step of my way.

    Thank you Maine for this inspiring blog and I really hope you will have a beautiful, lasting career or whatever path you may choose for yourself. Andito ako, kami at lahat ng nagmamahal sa iyo from the very beginning that you have started out na susuporta sa iyo, in all your UPS and DOWNS. You just do what you are destined to do: SPREAD HAPPINESS!!!

    Gihigugma ka namo! (it’s a visayan phrase. in tagalog it means MAHAL NA MAHAL KA NAMIN!)

    ALDUB YOU FOREVER and EVER! ^_^ <3 😉

  306. Gene says: Reply

    Hi Maine, please write a book. You’re really so smart.

  307. JBE says: Reply

    for maine and to all the twenty-somes, life is but a decision. you decided whats best 4 u today but sometime it’s irrelevant for tomorrows. it happened to me, but i stick to my decision, for my kids. life is no fairytale, LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF IS THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL.!

  308. Lei Bautista says: Reply

    Thanks for this! Ipapabasa ko to sa mga kaibigan ko, surely, madami silang matututunan dito. Na explain mo lahat thank goodness! Yung feeling na, hirap na hirap kang mag explain sa kanila kasi di mo maipaliwanag nang maayos yung gusto mong sabihin. Honestly, wala pa kong experience about “love”, (because I’m only 15 and study first is my priority) but someday, I know I will and I will never forget all you have said about it. You’re truly an inspiration (for all of us). It is okay if you ask the opinion of others, but don’t let others make decisions for you.. (hindi ko alam kung saan ko nabasa yan…? Bat ko nga ba nasabi?? Hahaha) Aldub you Maine! Keep writing on your blog. :)))

  309. Shela Mae Salcedo says: Reply

    Hi Maine,

    Just give yourself a break 🙂
    Remember Health is Wealth. 🙂

    Take care and God Bless 🙂

  310. Anna says: Reply

    Meng, thank you so much for this. Relate ako much. You’re right, acceptance is the key.
    It really hurts big time pag iniwan ka ng taong mahal mo ng sobra, but life must go on …
    So for this coming Valentine’s day, I will spend it with the people I love – my family and friends. The people na mahal ako at hinding hindi ako iiwan.
    With God’s guidance, I will smile cause it’s not the end of the world!

    Salamat ulit, Menggay. Love you!

  311. Diana Pineda says: Reply

    Wow…thanks for updating your blog kahit na busy ka…happy valentine’s da in advance…

  312. Elai says: Reply

    Hi Maine, i really enjoyed reading your blog, actually its my first time to read someone’s blog. Most of the time i can relate to the things that you say or state. Thank you for the advices and inspiring words…i sometime find some of your blogs funny too…liked it so much. Hope that you can always find time in expressing your thoughts and feelings sa blogs mo. Take care always and God bless…

  313. Mr. Deeds says: Reply

    Very well said Meng! Thank you for the inspiring words, surviving Valentines is now a lot easier knowing somebody else feel my pain 🙂

  314. Klintoi says: Reply

    Idol, love guru ka pala. mas magaling kpa yata mg advice kesa ky DJ BAE. hahah

  315. marian says: Reply

    Dear Maine,

    If ever nafall ka na kay Alden/Richard.. It’s okey, you don’t need to explain to any of us HOW it happened and WHY all of a sudden. The fact that you two just met through split screen and you personally met him only three months ago…You don’t need their opinion what matters most is what your heart feels right now. Let me tell you my own love story well I don’t know kung almost similar to your story pero kung maging kayo man ni ALDEN/RJ then baka nga parehas tayo ng kwento pero sana un ending hindi parehas sakin.. HAHAHA!! Kc hindi naging forever un sakin maybe because I gave up…

    Freshman ako back then, to me everything seems perfect to me already. I have my friends and a boyfriend who happens to be in my circle of friends so there is nothing to worry about introducing him to my friends at all.. Then everything change during my first week of school.. I was in my computer laboratory class(wednesday to be exact), It was first week of school so definitely wala pa masyadong activities and I was fuckn bored so what I did is I check some files from other students. Then I saw a POEM from a guy who is a year ahead of me(but i didnt know it at first). It was so nice that I left a message saying how nice his Poem is.. I was not expecting any response from him. I was not even sure if I am still going to use the same computer after. A week after kasi my schedule for that lab was Mon and Wed and he is using that computer (Tues and Thursday) I check his file and I got shocked when he responded. Grabeh noh ang Jologs.. hahaha!!! To me it was all for fun besides I don’t even know him at all.. So un ang naging communication namin… Dun nagumpisa ang getting to know stage naming dalawa..Malapit ng SEMBREAK when he finally decided to ask for my number kasi at that time we will no longer be using the laboratory so wala na kaming way para makapagusap pa. So I have him my number.. Little did I know parang mas excited pa akong kausap siya kaysa sa boyfriend ko. Mas inaabangan ko pa ang mga messages niya kaysa sa text ng boyfriend ko. Even if I am with my boyfriend I was expecting a message from him.. He is way sweeter than my boyfriend. My boyfriend was the typical guy who doesnt make any effort. I love you you love me that’s it. We go out, we date, we hang out but there is something that I am longing for which I do not know. Could it be TLC?!? So when I met this guy (not personally though), the way he talks to me, the way we share stories was so different from my boyfriend. I didn’t tell to any of my friends about this guy kasi I know they will for sure against sila sa pinaggagagawa ko the fact na di ko pa siya kilala masyado ang friend nila ang boyfriend ko. So definitely mas gusto nila un boyfriend ko kaysa dito sa guy na to na di naman nila kilala..

    It was the last day of first semester, when he asked me kung pwede kami magkita.. so ayun na nga grabe ang kaba ko at that time. di ko alam gagawin ko. after months na sa computer and sa text lang kami naguusap eto na magkikita na kami ng personal.. So we decided na magkita after class.. I told him na sa hallway sa harap ng dean’s office kami magkikita. So kung sino man ang nakatambay sa harap ng Dean’s office definitely isa na kami dun. So grabeh hirap iexplain kung ano nafifeel ko at that time. Mixed emotions… And I finally met him at last…

    During semester break, dun na siya lagi nagyayayang lumabas, kain sa labas or just go out and talk.. Anjan yung text text till midnight na you already said goodnights pero still naguusap pa din kayo hanggang sa di niyo mamalayan umaga na pala. Anjan yung naguusap kayo everynight..kamustahan biruan tuksuan.Take note I am still dating at that time. To me I am happy to be with this guy pero mahal ko din boyfriend ko. Hindi pumasok sa isip ko na what is this I am feeling. Or hindi sumagi sa isip ko na hiwalayan ko na BF ko to be with him. To me everything is just fine. I am happy that he is my friend and I feel secured pag kasama ko siya. I never questioned myself until one night this guy send me a message I forgot the exact words pero un last part ang nagdala. I forgot the exact line pero something like My only mistake is I fell in love with my bestfriend I was shocked, Off-Guard.. I don’t know what to say or what to do.. I don’t know how to respond. Dun na lahat ng tanong pumasok sa isip ko. Lahat ng worries na di ko iniisip before biglang lahat pumasok sa isip ko. Na halos di ko masagot… Pano ang boyfriend ko… Ano sasabihin ng barkada ko ng family ko. If I will say sorry my boyfriend ko will he be able to accept it? What if layuan niya ako pag sinabi ko yun. Will I be able to accept it? I don’t think I can kasi I am happy when I am with him. I already told him almost everything, My happiness, my worries, my life halos lahat na ata nasabi ko na sa kanya and I am considering him as my bestfriend. un mga secrets na di ko sinasabi sa barkada ko nasasabi ko sa kanya so what if lahat ng un mawala na dahil sinabi ko sa kanya na di pwede dahil may BF ko.. Dahil sa fear ko na mawala siya. I told him that if he can wait I have to settle first my relationship with my boyfriend. Hindi naman pwedeng kinabukasan break na kami agad.

    I have lots to consider. The opinion of my friends and my family. Besides this guy is the opposite of me. Sobrang very firm and proper siya. Walang bisyo, walang luho. He thought me how to live a simple life. Kung sa boyfriend ko lagi kami kumakain sa fine dining resto eto mcdo/jolibee or sa tabi lang ng school ok na. The only difference is this guy knows how to give simple things unlike my boyfriend. Anjan un may pacard siya or chocolates, flowers or susunduin ka and ihahatid. Simple things really matter…

    So we started to go out ng palihim.. No one knows even my friends… Masaya na kami sa set-up namin na nagsasama kami ng patago. It took months din na palihim ang relationship namin. He was aware na kami pa din ng boyfriend ko at that time. He was aware that my boyfriend is also part of my barkada that I have to be cautious and needs time to settle it. My friends knows him only as a friend that I met him kasi we have the same course pero they started to doubt our actions kasi everytime may lakad I would always make an excuse only to find out na I am with him and that they have to make excuse to my BF why I can’t go with them.

    Mas lumalim ang relationship namin as months passed by until I decided to break up with my BF kasi I know na who I love..Of course he couldn’t accept it kasi mahal niya ako. He even tried na makipagbalikan pero I am already decided na wala na talaga. Na hindi na siya ang mahal ko… My friends got mad at me at first kasi syempre they thought kami na magkakatuluyan ni Boyfriend tapos ng dahil lang dito sa guy na di naman nila kilala lahat mababalewala. They judged me, they didnt understand or they don’t wantto understand what I’ve been through. To them BAKIT GANUN.. BAKIT MO SIYA INIWAN DAHIL DITO SA GUY NA TO NA NAKILALA MO LANG SA COMPUTER. ANO PA BA HAHANAPIN MO SA BOYFRIEND MO? Hindi nila alam na habang kami ng boyfriend ko I was searching for Love that I couldn’t find in him. I was longing for TLC but he couldn’t give it to me pero this stranger whom I met online has all the qualities I am looking for. He may be that simple guy but I know he is responsible enough to prove to me that he will do everything for me.

    I chose him, I chose happiness over material things, over my friends…I gave him all the love. Lahat binuhos ko.. Dati I have reservations pero ng dahil sa kanya all out ako. I never doubted my feelings.. I was happy that finally open na kami sa relationship namin. Di na namin kailangang magtago. Di na namin kailangan maging cautious sa kilos namin. We were madly in love.. Iba ang feeling pag nilabas mo yung totoong nararamdaman mo. Ibang Iba sa pinipigilan mo dahil takot kang majudge ng tao. I never care what they will think about me, about us. What matters to me is US. Kaming dalawa lang. . It was against all odds pero dumating din un time na natanggap din nila ang naging decision ko.

    So Maine don’t be afraid to fall inlove.. Kung alam mong siya na GO FOR IT. Wag mo isipin ang sasabihin ng ibang tao kasi kayong dalawa lang yan. IKAW at SIYA wala ng iba pa.. It’s just a matter of how will you be able to handle it. Always pray to God na he will guide you two in your journey. Na sana whatever trials you will both going through malalagpasan niyo lahat ng yun.. Don’t love with reservations. Don’t be afraid to get hurt it is all part of the journey, ang importante ay kung paano niyo haharapin ang problema at kung papaano niyo ito sosolusyonan. .

  316. Ybette says: Reply

    Hi Maine! First time to open your blog. I see how levelheaded you are for a 20’s young lady. Seeing your insights makes me smile. So nice rin to see that you’ve got a lot of followers. Actually its 3:40am cant sleep may hangover sa kalyeserye episode yesterday (feb 11) you guys made me cry. As for loving someone in my opinion we shld love unconditionally. That’s for now my dear Menggay. Take care of yourself and God bless. Hope u cud read this. Good night/Good morning! – Ybette

  317. consistentme201 says: Reply

    I’ve been a single mom for the past 12 years and I have always spent Vdays happily. Its a choice that I make. But this 2016, im even happier because of being an aldub fan. I see new reasons to smile. new reasons to feel good within me. Not saying I was not happy, Im saying I am happier. Aldub gives me new smile every day. Maine is correct, life is a choice. Let me share this to everyone, I’ve read this in one of the books that a friend gave me “what you think about for the first 5 minutes after you wake up will determine the kind of day you will have.” Imagine how would your day go if you decide to be happy upon waking up? Good vibes for sure. Stay positive. Love is everywhere. Share it more to get more in return. Happy V Day.

  318. Gayze says: Reply

    Thank you Maine ..

  319. Danica Shane says: Reply

    hi ate maine 😉
    nakaka inspire ka talaga ikaw nah hahhaha 😀
    ganada ng quote mo hahahha favourite ko narin to sorry gayagaya ” Be miserable or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it ALWAYS YOUR CHOICE”
    thank you talaga sa lahat sa pagbigay ng advice, sa mga aral at iba pa…. thank you ng marami ^_^
    #forevermaine #aldubyoumaine

  320. Shiela says: Reply

    hi maine,
    “do not ever please someone to love you. Love isn’t something that you beg for; it is something that is given to you freely without questions asked”.. i so love this quote of yours.. superb.. God Bless you always,,

  321. Mark Jayson Pineda says: Reply

    Thanks a lot! I learned new things

  322. Emily says: Reply

    Hi Maine,

    I have a lots of realization while reading your blog about Valentines day and LOVE. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Very inspiring 🙂

  323. Thanks! This is so Legit! Thanks Menggay!

  324. Aileen says: Reply

    Ako na yata ang nasa dulo ng thread ng mga comments pero walang makakapigil sa akin! Hahaha. I just want you to know that I love the way you write, the way you express yourself and the way you inspire people. I am one of those na nainspire sa mga writings mo. I also write but I don’t have the guts to showcase my works to others, before. Nagsimula akong magsulat nung nasa elemeatary pa ako and only few of my writings survived because I always delete them thinking that nobody will like them. Why am I telling you this? Because I want you to know that you are such an eye opener. You inspired me to write and to show people what I’ve got. And here I am now my blog na rin ako (leendacanay.wordpress.com)! Hahaha. Kakasimula ko lang last year (October yata).

    I also have a write up regarding this upcoming VDay and it is entitled: What To Do During VDay (For Singles Only). If its not too much to ask, can you take a glimpse of it? Thank you! More powers to you and Alden! Mwah! Hihihi

  325. Bryan says: Reply

    Isasali kita sa ‘Grabe Ka!’ ha. Kasi grabe ka e. Grabe ka! (In a fantastic baby way)

  326. Maine since dubsmash at day 1 follower muna ako 41 yo nko marami na ang sakit kaysa saya well hindi 20 ka palang lalo mo ako pinahanga ang akala ko masayahin at matalino ka lang feeling ko mas higit kapa don.naalala ko anak kong dlaga at binata na miss ko sila dahil sayo how i wish na nawala ako sa kanilang tabi for how many year’s ng mga special days s buhay tama ka katulad ko palaging nag iisa walang partner pero buo pagkatao ko Dahl s mga anak ko sila gusto kong kasama pero dahil sa work abroad hindi ko sila kasama pero awa ni lord mababait sila appreciate nila lahat ng hirap ko pero Di maalis malungkot sila lang ang forever ko eh wala ng iba congrats meng sa lahat ng ngyari sayo sana masaya ang love life mo forever god bless i inspired always sa panonood sayo yan dulot mo sakin

  327. ruby says: Reply

    Good eve po! I may not have experience to have a relationship in my whole life,… Hindi man ako yung nang-iwan o iniwan, o kaya naman yung nagpapakatanga sa love o yung nasa state of moving on,. – I had felt po every single word that you had shared and advised po.Tama nga po ang Lola Nidora niyo po, na sa pagibig hindi palagi ang puso o kaya ang utak ang laging uunahin kundi dapat both your heart and your mind must work.

    And I know na darating din po aq sa state of being inlove and i would be facing the crucial points of love pero bago pa dumating yun I have my heart and my mind ready.

    “Be miserable or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it ALWAYS your CHOICE.”—– BIG CHECK!

    Thank you po.

  328. Aden says: Reply

    well practice what u preach! puro ka lang salita.. lagi mo naman pinapaasa at sinasaktan si Alden.. 🙁 kawawa naman sya…………………………

  329. May point ka naman ate meng, naiintindihan ko/namin kung bakit nagiing ganoon yung reaksyon mo noong 3oth weeksary niyo, ako? I’m just 17 years old girl, halos magkapareha tayo ng mga sides, pero sana buhay pa yung salitang binitiwan niyo noong ininterview kayo sa BBC remember? sabi niyong dalawa na WE ARE NOT CLOSING OUR DOORS IF THAT POSSIBLE TO HAPPEN, kasi ako? I’m very fan of both of you.. Ang daming nag bago sakin noong dumating kayo, ALDEN IS A TYPE OF GUY THAT EVERYONE DREAMING OF. (Chooos)!

  330. niqz says: Reply

    1 Corinthians 13:4-7New International Version (NIV)

    4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

    But you can change LOVE to your name like MAINE is patient, MAINE is kind…. and then your perspective on love changes. You begin to understand that LOVE is a gift and it requires commitment until death. That is LOVE. And the LORD is the ultimate example of LOVE. Because of LOVE, He gave first. And that is how we must love. We give and we commit because in the end even if we do not receive the love that we expect we have given LOVE. 🙂

    May LOVE overflow in our hearts so we can share it to others and may LOVE fill us everyday to overflowing!!!

    God bless MAINE. May you find TRUE LOVE in HIS time. 🙂

  331. This is really nice…
    I really learned a lot to your blogs.
    and realized such things and how it supposed to be..
    I love your blogs as like how I adore you 🙂
    God bless always:)

  332. GILIAN says: Reply

    Hi maine, I know mahirap talaga pumasok s mga commitments especially in a relationship commitment. Parehas tayo ng view sa pakikipagrelasyon, ung pang lifetime partner na ang hinahanap at hindi past time lover kaya cguro NBSB pa rn ako (pero marami n rn ako naka-MU, mga 3 n rn cguro). Minsan nga naiimagine ko na sarili ko na tatandang dalaga (though i’m only 20 pa lng naman. Haha). Ang mahirap dn kc sken madali akong magsawa kaya sa 3 naka-MU ko, ako lahat nang-iwan kaya nga maingat na tlga ako makipg-MU sa ngaun, hindi na basta-bsta, mahirap dn kcng nakakasakit ng tao o ung pinapaasa sila. Kaya nga ALDUB muna ang lovelife ko ngayon, kc ung kilig na nararamdaman ko sa inyo parang kilig na may kaspecial someone. Sana bgyan mo ng chance c RJ, kht MU lng muna. Let’s give love a try nga db? Pero sana maging kayo sa bandang huli, ang ganda lng kc sobra ng lovestory neo. Pero naiintndhan dn kita kung may pag-aalinlangan ka kc marami tlga dapat iconsider, parang too good to be true c RJ no? Bsta hoping for your lovelife to be blessed, tumanda akong dalaga bsta kaung dalawa ni RJ sa huli masaya na ko, maniniwala na ako sa Forever. Hahaha

  333. GILIAN says: Reply

    PS: Have you read At the Beginning ( The Adventures of Alden and Maine) sa wattpad? Sobrang ganda ng story, ang galing ng writer. It composed of one shots story but ung ALTERNATIVE UNIVERSE: Captain and Maine ang naappreciate ko ng sobra, it’s all about fear of loving and hurting again. Sana mabasa mo yun and sana gawin nyong movie, blockbuster cguro un. Para saken kasi hindi common ung storyline na madalas n napapanuod sa tv, Hope u will read it too. :)))) -/\-

  334. Pinky says: Reply

    Nice Ate Maine!

  335. Ed M says: Reply

    Wow! You call that a blog? I call it a thesis written by a 20 yr old way ahead of her time. Your thinking process is so amazing and mature. You’re going to be at the same level as Dr Joyce Brothers, Dear Abby or Ann Landers in no time. I always enjoy reading your blogs.
    I’d say that coming from an academics family here in Canada. Proud to say all 4 of us (with my son and daughter) are all Uni grads. My wife and I are big fans of yours and often compares you with our daughter, she graduated BA Honours in Psychology, who happens to be getting married in a couple of days in Miami. Too bad both my children does not speak Tagalog and don’t follow stuff in the Phil.
    I just want to say keep up with this amazing writing skill of yours, amongst your other talents.
    You are beautiful inside and out, stay humble and keep the faith.
    Best wishes to your future and I hope you will find the right man in your heart (certainly don’t need advise on that matter).
    God Bless,
    Ed M
    ps – Kudos to your parents for bringing up an amazing child

  336. Elle says: Reply

    One of the best Vday celebration I had was the one I spent with one of my best friends. He (we’re not romantically involved, btw) and I decided to head to the salon and get our hair done. Afterwards, we went to Sequioa, one of the waterfront restaurants in Georgetown and asked for a table for two. There in the midst of all the table for twos, my friend and I enjoyed the live jazz music and complimentary champagne. You see, Vday is for love indeed, but not just for lovers. It’s for everyone who chose to love themselves….with or without the “ONE”

  337. Sana po ipost mo ang poem na ginawa mo for Alden. Pero kung hindi, okay lang. ALSO, you’re a great artist. You know art by heart.

  338. sarah says: Reply

    Meng , post mo dito yung tula mo for RJ hihi .. thanks

  339. Hi ,

    Will you post your poem for Alden? It’s very heart felt. I loved it. I felt what you really wanted to say. I’m looking forward to your blog. Somehow, it makes me feel like you’re really talking to me and that you understand me.

    Thank you Maine. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW YOU HELPED ME COPE UP WITH LIFE. Thank you so much! I’m proud to say that you’re my idol. Napakabuti mong tao. Hindi kita kilala pero, ramdam kong mabuti kang tao. Salamat!

    Your Fan,
    DAREEN BARZAGA

  340. Jasmine says: Reply

    nice thoughts meng! happy vday to you! hope one day you’ll find your “forever” in God’s perfect time… =) because the best feeling in the world is to love and be loved right?! =) regards to you menggay!

  341. bebot torres says: Reply

    Please excuse me if i am off topic in my reply. I watched KS today 2/13/16 the Valentine episode. I was listening intently to your poem and I know that it came from your heart. Its true mahirap basahin si guy (wont name drop) kaya you are right in your decision not to jump on the gun, you know what I mean? Advice from a mom/fan, get to know him better before you get into that much awaited relationship. Showbiz is showbiz maraming paparazzi maraming nangingialam. Before you know it, its doomsday already. Am i being a pessimist? Nah..just being careful. But if you said yes already, you still have my support..as if barkada naman tayo. God bless you more…oops always listen to your parents advice coz they’ve been there, done that..wink*

  342. Eve Lali says: Reply

    Hi again Maine,

    It was a truly lovely day, even lovelier when you has this road trip with RJ. You are starting to slowly move on..Try to forget the two previous heartaches, you were very young then, and you should try to get over them.
    If you don’t try to move on, then you will never know…so take the plunge, throw caution to the wind…RJ is a nice man as he has shown you these past months; he did all those things as per KS, but still, he was intentionally falling for you..Remember that Jqapan trip with Ai-ai?? She said, RJ mentioned he was missing you more than anything else, when he was doing shows in Davao, Cebu and elsewhere, he was always asked who he is missing, and he would answer -you, he always had his cellphone ready for any update on your instagram and twitter when you were in Japan…who in his right mind would still carry his cp while on vacation on a private beach, about to do his dive?? He’s the the one to lean on, he’s your bff..he will not ‘make any loko, di ka niya lolokohin; trust him like you have these past 8 months; Joey de leon, tatay igan clavio, ryan agoncillo know how much RJ loves you; maybe the rest of the bakardas feel these,too. Pag niloko ka ni alden/RJ promise, babatuhin ko car niya, or bangaain ko car niya; I am from Nuvali so I would easily find out his new home address. But then I don’t have to; I trust RJ to keep his word, wait for you till you are ready; if he had his way, he can’t wait for five years, maybe in three years, you and RJ are happily married..Wish ko talaga.

  343. Zette says: Reply

    hi maine! I’ve watched the Kalyeserye episode today.. Can I make a request? Can you please post your poem here? It is really well written and heartfelt and I would like/love to read it all over again… Thank you!

    ~from your avid fan

  344. Arf says: Reply

    What can I do?
    To make you feel secure
    Remove all your doubts
    So that you’ll know for sure that
    You’re the apple of my eye girl
    Fulfillment of my dreams
    Time, will show the value
    Of just what you mean to me
    More precious than silver
    More precious than diamond rings or
    Anything that I can give you
    It wouldn’t mean a thing
    If you didn’t have my love beside you
    There to guide you through
    Well it is good to know you do

    I know just how you feel
    But this time love’s for real
    In time it will reveal
    That special love that’s deep inside of us
    Will all reveal in time…

  345. Jeffrey says: Reply

    Happy Valentine’s Day Meng 🙂 <3

  346. cukxyz says: Reply

    hi Maine! super heartfelt ng letter mo kay Alden. u just confessed ur feelings on national tv! and i admire u for that! naka-ilang “awww” ata ako. Sa mga lalaki, normal na lang sa kanila na gawin yun but for a girl? it takes a lot of courage! iba ka talaga! ang pinakatumatak sa akin sa letter mo ay yung “wag mo lang akong lolokohin” para sa akin, napakarami ng ibig sabihin ng 5 words na yun..wait lang ah, isa-isahin ko..hehe
    1. TAKOT. yung takot na dahil unexpected yung mga nangyayari. yung sweetness niya, yung gestures niya, yung mga tingin niya, yung mga sinasabi niya na ang sarap makita at pakinggan na nakakatakot na hindi pala totoo o sa isang iglap bigla na lang mawala..
    2. TAPANG. yung tapang na “ginagawa ko ‘to para sa’yo kaya kung anuman ang maging sagot mo, tatanggapin ko, magsabi ka lang ng totoo.”
    3. TIWALA. wag mo akong lolokohin dahil may tiwala ako sa’yo na hindi ko basta-bastang ibinibigay
    4. PAG-ASA. hayaan mo lang akong lumipad kasama ka, hindi ko alam kung hanggang kailan pero wag mo akong hayaang bumagsak mag-isa..
    Mahirap magmahal ng walang kasiguraduhan, mahirap umasa. Sabi nga, “honest feelings and bad timing make the most painful combination”. Yung gusto niyo ang isa’t-isa pero may iba siyang priority. Pero may nagsabi rin na “you never meet the right people at the wrong time because the right people are TIMELESS”. Ibig sabihin, piliin mo mang mahalin siya ngayon o sa TAMANG PANAHON, kung siya ang the RIGHT ONE for you, he will be there. Tiwala lang. GANOIN! hehe..
    Thanks Maine! Always choose to be happy!

  347. Beng Ignacio says: Reply

    Dumaan talaga ako dito at malamang tumambay… Waiting for a possible blog post from you Meng, and a transcript of your nice poem. Mahirap gumawa ng tagalog poem, and you totally nailed it! =)

  348. Deanna Mendoza says: Reply

    I don’t know how will I reach out to you and share my thoughts about today. Pero sino ba naman ako. Bakit mo ba pagaaksayahan ng pnahong basahin man lang ang comment ko. Hayaan mo na. Pero kahit 2% hope lang sana mabasa mo.

    I get you maine. My heart pulls apart when you read your poem to Alden and the fact na that’s what you really (i mean really really) feel towards him. It saddens me sa part na “may mga oras na sumasakit ang aking dibdib (parang ngayon)” because believe me I KNOW THE FEELING. Yung totoong masakit na sa puso. The struggle between you want to let him know about how you truly feel and you have to be guarded as he might not feel the same way. I know that. Ayawko ikaw makitang ganyan. 🙁

    I know Alden feels something kasi believe me sobrang imposibleng wala. All the love is in the air feeling pag kalyeserye. And the fact na ikaw ang biggest blessing sa buhay niya. IMPOSIBLENG WALA. Pero you are stuck sa time na busy pa kayo ngayon. Nasa peak kayo ng career niyo ngayon e. Kaya I think pareho sayo confused din siya. He has an obligation sa family niya unlike with you stable kayo. He’s not stable enough yet to you know be involve with you. SIGURO NAIINTIMIDATE DIN SIYA SAYO DI NAMIN ALAM. Kasi di naman siya galing sa may kayang pamilya like you. Kaya ngayon wala siyang oras pa para sa ibang bagay. Sa trabaho trabaho at trabaho muna.

    Pero maine!!!! 🙁 Sana maintindihan mo at mahintay mo siya. Hanggang sa maging handa na siya pati ikaw. Bata ka pa naman e! I-enjoy mo lang muna kakaumpisa mo pa lang. Mahaba haba pa ang lalakbayin.

    “Tamang panahon na lang ang hinihintay ng puso ko.”

    At kapag dumating ang tamang panahon na yun at hindi man maibigay ni alden yung pagmamahal na yun, kami na lang magpunan ng lahat. MAHAL NA MAHAL KA NAMIN MAINE. KUNG ALAM MO LANG.

  349. Maine, happy valentines day♥♡
    Your poem reflects your self on your compose in KS, very real yet it reflect your emo tinwthowardto a man, i know may someday, sa tamang panahon. woman are soft hearted to be fall to a man, just wanted to tell, heart and mind are balanced when you fall inlove and trust to a man.. Know him much doesnt equal to expectation, but a true feeling towards from him to you and as he accepts you for who you are. As a song goes, You could have a change of heart if you would change your mind. blessed sunday, take care always, love lots from a fan ♥♡

  350. Hi Maine! 🙂 I am a silent fan. I always make time to visit all the available sources where I can stalk you and Alden, I follow you on twitter, IG, Snapchat, I also go on youtube to search something about you & do visit this site to know if you have new writings (consider that your writings inspires me so much, lalo na yung ‘Til next time love & yung Note). I do remember last time when I checked my SC and saw that you have uploaded something the one with the caption “done writing” after seeing that I immediately visit your site as fast as I can. Me and my mother admires Aldub so much, kalyeserye turned out to be our bonding time (which I thank a lot) we watch it together when I don’t have class, but, If I do after I got home Mama will start giving me updates like *ang ganda kanina anak, nakakatuwa sila manuod ka na ng replay dali* Kakatuwa si Mama cause she’s already on her senior year but still, kung kiligin daig pako. Hahahaha. Btw, I decided to leave a comment here because I want to request something. Sana ilagay mo dito yung tula nyong dalawa ni Alden, with that I would be very happy. I’ll be waiting. Iloveyou Aldub. Thank you for being such an inspiration. Hope to see you soonest!

    PS: Notice this please, pretty please. 🙂
    Happy Valentines Maine and Alden! <3

  351. Nabby says: Reply

    Hello Maine! How are you? It looks like you and Alden had a great time earlier, it was a lovely valentine’s date in KS. 🙂 So many reactions I saw in twitter and mostly they all felt the love and how real it is. Your poem too is very honest, open, and sincere. Alden was speechless. Attagirl! 🙂 I know a lot of women out there can relate to your poem. It actually reminded me of myself when I was your age. I was terrified. I would like to share some of the poems I wrote which are somehow related to the fear and hope for true love.

    https://nabbysline.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/war-of-love/

    https://nabbysline.wordpress.com/2015/05/27/a-heart-that-loves/

    https://nabbysline.wordpress.com/2015/06/05/in-love/

    https://nabbysline.wordpress.com/2015/06/05/worthy-of-love/

    https://nabbysline.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/ready-for-love/

    https://nabbysline.wordpress.com/2015/06/23/invisible-wall/

    So dear, we always say that you take your time but you have to listen to that voice that will tell you when you need to jump in or jump out. Take the leap of faith. If we wait for the time when we are ready, then we will be waiting forever. Have a happy valentine’s day!

  352. ladyaiz says: Reply

    hi maine..im a regular visitor but its my first time to leave a comment…..im older than u…have two kids and unhappily married..actually 1 yr 2 mos ng separated….thank u for this blog it help me find myself again..i guess ill need to start ACCEPTING…!!!!
    thank you and God bless u more..
    i hope you can find more time to write again…

  353. Nabby says: Reply

    Btw dear, I admire you for being brave out there, for opening your heart and embracing what will be. As an introvert, I know what you did is not easy for you. That’s why we are bloggers, poets, writers. We are mot comfortable with thinking out loud, saying what we feel. But you did it! Love does make a person brave. Remember 1 John 4:18.

    Your poem also says more about you than what is written. It is about a girl who is afraid to take a risk at love yet deep inside she does want to take that leap of faith, because she believes in love. Ignite that fire in your heart. Focus on the good. Better to live a life of “oh well” than “what if”. Love yourself fully so you can love someone fully too. It is not easy if you think you are at it alone, trust Him to guide your heart.

    You are a smart woman. We tend to overthink and overanalyze things, instead put a balance. What was Lola Nidora’s advice? Gamitin pareho ang isip at puso. Di puro isip, di puro puso. Pareho. 🙂

    Enjoy and treasure everything that is happening with you and Alden right now. You will be fine, dear.

  354. Bughaw na Langit says: Reply

    We have been sold a vapid vision of “Love” for decades…

  355. Shirls says: Reply

    Well said..
    It seems like you’re an old soul trapped in a young body… 🙂
    Keep on writing and we will keep on reading and following you..

    Take care,
    Shirls

  356. Happy hearts day Meng!
    Ang ganda looking forward for another updates. Very brave girl.

  357. ISHKA says: Reply

    that was a good poem.composition, alam mo na galing sa puso, alam rin ng lahat kung na mahirap un ginawa mo just to read and open up your feelings on air. Sanay kame ng for your eyes only pagdating kay RJ and ok na kami dun. Pero kahapon iba eh and nakakaadmire un tapang na pinakita mo. On how you handle your emotions. Sabi nila ang pag ibig para sa matatapang na tao,.. take your time meng, and ako at ang aldub nation ay nasa likod nyo lang, accepting you and Rj kahit anu pa man. Pray and He will Guide us. Mahal ka namin. 🙂

  358. ladyaiz says: Reply

    i love everything in this blog..especially the old post..it see
    s that reading them mskes me know you better and deeper…thanks for sharing them..its really inspiring!
    after watching KS yesterday…i guess its time to stop being a pessimist and just let LOVE move you away..
    i love you…maine!!!

  359. Cherie says: Reply

    yes thank you Mench :* walang dapat malungkot sa valentine’s #SpreadLove ..
    #AldubLangSapatNa ♥

  360. COOKIE says: Reply

    Jinxed my vday plan (which I commented in this post). Apparently, odds were not in my favor. So, I didn’t spend it with my besties but instead, I spent it with my bed because I just had a minor vehicular accident. Wew. What an unlucky occassion right? But it’s still okay coz I’m safe now and I got to spend it more with my family. I believe that everything happens for a reason. So maybe, there’s a reason why God let this happened to me. Anyway, happy valentine’s to all!! Xoxo

  361. ❤️Yours4Lyf❤️ says: Reply

    Pretty good stuff to read coming from a 20 y/o.

    Just one comment though (and please people do not go bashing me coz i love maine)….Maine, i think your mind thinks faster than what your fingers can type. I hope everyone would take this as a constructive criticism.

    here are 3 evidences:

    > “What, you are in love someone who doesn’t love you?” – missing preposition (with)
    >” Also if you have been together for so long, breaking up them would never be easy.” – missing preposition (with)
    > “Whatever has to be done, it ALWAYS your CHOICE.” – contraction (it’s)

    By the way, your V-day date with Alden left me awed. I felt it was you and not Divina pouring her heart out through that poem! Brave girl!

  362. Ikon evangelista says: Reply

    Thats a good one..
    As always
    Dealing with a broken heart
    Hmmpp..
    Harsh!
    In my 32 years of existence waley major major (joke lang)
    Syempre nman i been there, done that..
    *1st boyfriend (literal na first love ganun, syempre masakit)
    *2nd boyfriend(ganun din..nag iwan pa ng memory that i will treasure forever! My babygurl she is 11 now)
    Looking back sa dalwang beses na brokenhearted ako..
    Natatawa ako as in.
    Dba..my moment na ganun
    Kahit papano naging tanga din haha!
    But we learn our lesson dba?
    Ang pag move on parang hagdan
    One step at a time hanggang marating mo ung part na im ready to fall in love again
    (But please dont fall harder..leave some for yourself) Pak!!
    Pero nga after all those heartbreaks
    I found the one
    He love me and so as my daughter unconditionally!

  363. Liz says: Reply

    Hi Maine,

    Salamat…
    Ako ngayun ay naguguluhan
    Sa ano nga ba ang katutuhanan

    Funnywalain kung isipan
    Nagtatanong ng kasagutan

    Nakagawa Tuloy ako ng isang tula
    Ngunit ng aking biglang maalala na minsan sinabi mo na “uyyyy actingan lang ito’ ang mga kataga ay naglahong para bula..

    Haist! Save for next time na lang yun tula baka in the future kailanganin ko yun bigla 🙂

    Stay safe and simple.. 🙂

  364. Leng says: Reply

    Nice.. 🙂

  365. Anna Garcia says: Reply

    What a nice thoughts of you 🙂 Halatang galing sa puso lahat na sinabi mo. Hoping for more blog posts of you. 🙂

  366. Deanna Mendoza says: Reply

    Hi Maineyyyy!
    Hoping that you will have an amazing day today.
    Please keep smiling kasi virus yang ngiti mo para samin e. Nakakahawa. 🙂
    Whenever you feel sad just think of your tons of us looking up and love you.
    I wish that it will somehow ease the feeling. 🙂

    YOU ARE AWESOME.

    1. Deanna Mendoza says: Reply

      tons of fans i mean. 🙂

  367. Daffodil says: Reply

    Hi, Maine! I enjoy reading your blog. I admire your courage to continue sharing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences in this platform even now that you are super famous (and inevitably prone to judgment). Sometimes I wish I could give you an anti-vulnerability cloak just in case you’ll need it when people’s opinions get too overwhelming. After all, openness is synonymous with being emotionally vulnerable.
    Anyway, I’ve got a question for you that is not related with this blog entry. Are you familiar with the Myers-Briggs/MBTI personality types? When I read a section of your blog, Figure Me Out, I said to myself, “Challenge accepted!”
    You seem like a puzzle, and INTJs like me want to solve puzzles. (Shucks! I hope I don’t sound creepy here. Disclaimer: I’m a female fan who happens to be an analyst.) You are a human enigma, an interesting one, but I think I figured you out. Am I right to call you an INFP (introvert, intuitive, feeling, prospecting)? You might enjoy reading more about MBTI personality types. I could be wrong though, and it’s completely okay. If you happen to read this and if you’re not too busy, I hope you’ll share your thoughts about your MBTI personality in your blog. I hope you won’t see it as stereotyping. No one wants to be boxed in. But just think of it as a piece of information that adds to one’s self-awareness. 🙂
    Keep on writing, pleeease. You are good at it.

  368. [Tula ng puso, desisyon ng isip]

    Oh pag ibig sa aking dibdib
    Naghahari bukod na mag iisip, Kumakanta at humihiyaw, ikaw ba at wala nang iba.

    Bakit ganito ang siyang kabaliwan, hindi mapigilan at kusang lumalaban.
    Ako ba ay lapastangan? Sa tuwing ikay nanaisan? O dahil sa damdaming hindi mapigilan.

    Para kang isang hopia, matamis at hubog at parang ka isang isaw, malinamnam at malambot, parehong hindi nakakayamot.

    Ang akala ko’y kwento ngunit hindi ako makuntento, ako ba ay nahuhulog at hindi makatulog? oh isip! Tiyagain mo si puso, nang hindi mabagot sa anu mang pagsubok.

    Yari nawa, sa aking pag iintay, takdang panahon siyang aking idamay, hindi dapat padalos dalos sa buhay na uma-agos.

    May tamang panahon ka sa bawat agwat at makakasama ng tapat. Ang isip na sapat, sa desisyon ng pusong naway nararapat.

    Maine – ang tipo ko lalake ay mabait, gentleman at yung may halaga ako sa kanya.

  369. NBSB says: Reply

    Hi ate Maine!
    Yeah! NBSB ako pero andami kung naatutunan sau! tnx a lot !

  370. carol says: Reply

    Hi Maine ,
    You are a lovely intelligent girl ,thanks for the blogs I really enjoyed reading them .
    You made me laugh about the photo shoot with Alden “aldub na ba un” hehe crazy you ,maybe there was too much tension between you and him that is why tounge tied kau Pareho cute mo …
    About him and you go for the gold please ,you hold the key.there is something special between the two of you
    It’s worth trying,just watch the God gave me you song that he did for you during the sugod mansion episode ,he really is into you, you said you cannot read him I know you knew why ,there is a wall around him that he made Dahil sa early death ng mom niya no one is allowed to break that wall but I know aware ka na he is giving you an access sa wall na un open un for you break it Maine kaw Lang makagawa nun,
    Don’t feel awkward to show him na you care make him feel na you are his best friend ,your friends in and out of showbiz can wait for you Kung kelan ka available for them but with him I prioritize mo siya,kaya mo yan Maine I know na khit libolibo Ang Tao sa paligidniya if you ask for his presence or attention for sure Ikaw piliin niya makasama,don’t doubt him you will be the one na magdala Kung saan man pupunta Ang relationship ninyo broken siya make him whole,make him feel that you are his ok because deep inside you knew that he is yours..lam mo un don’t let people cloud your opinion of him he will never betray you …trust yourself ok people are jealous that s why they hate.

  371. Monette SF says: Reply

    thank you.

  372. Monette SF says: Reply

    Maine, Good evening! Thank you kasi masaya ako sa blog mo. Nakasmile nga ako while reading it minsan tumatawa. God bless and pray always.

  373. Sheen says: Reply

    Ang galing mo Meng… pwedeng pwede ka ngang maging psychologist. Love ko yung pagiging deep mo..ehh.. para lang tayong magkasing edad sa maturity level at lalim ng pangisip mo. Love you for being you. Keep moving and keep loving. AJA! Praying the best for you.. mwuahhugs…

  374. Erica says: Reply

    Hello meng, glad to read about what your insights “paano nga ba mag move on”, nakakamangha ka kasi you know this things even if you haven’t experience the worst of being broken hearted. Anyway this is the best thing that you can do inspired man o Hindi you still have time to write something. Looking forward sa mga iba pang kataga n isusulat mo. I love you menggay.. Keep on doing things that you love. Take care always.

  375. Donna says: Reply

    You’re writing speaks a lot about you. I can’t help but admire your blog. It’s full of wisdom, wisdom beyond you’re 20 years of age. Maturity is really not measured in chronological age, its your soul. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I want to share a little of mine. Yes acceptance is the key. Forgiveness however, is the lock. You will never be able to accept if you don’t forgive. Whether ikaw ang nang iwan or iniwan you will do yourself a favour if you forgive. Forgive him/her for leaving you and/or forgive yourself for giving up on him/her. God is like that. We sin so many times, but His promise is “He remembers it no more”.
    Whether you’re a pessimist or a realist, it doesn’t matter. What matters is you love yourself and you respect yourself. This is very evident in your writings. I wish sometimes, I have more 20 year old patients like you 😉

  376. Deanna Mendoza says: Reply

    Hi Mainey!!!
    How are you?

  377. Judith Niniel says: Reply

    “I SEE MYSELF ON YOU.” Hindi sa beauty huh kasi di naman ako kagandahan. (Choosss)! It is on HOW YOU THINK. I once told myself, ” I don’t need to experience/have a lot of boyfriend to know what love is, it matters on how you view and appreciate love.” Kaakibat kasi ng teenage life ang peer pressure. The “Collect and Select” motto. I had my first BF when i was 21 then at 23 (At the moment, wala). Most of my friends before don’t understand my life’s perspective. Lalim ko daw (Ocean deep…haha).

    It feels great knowing that isa sa hinahangaan at sinusubaybayan kong artista ay tulad ko kung mag-isip (isama mo na rin ang kalokohan..duck face). Habang binabasa ko nga ang blog mo, i am also imagining you in front of me. 🙂

    Sana sa Tamang Panahon, magkita at magkausap tayo tungkol sa buhay-buhay. Feeling close lang agad! Masarap kasi makipag-usap sa taong may sense kausap, diba?

    Well, thank you for sharing you brilliant thoughts to us. Good luck sa career. God Bless You, Maine!

  378. lesley cojano says: Reply

    Very well said meng, dahil sa mga sinabi mo nahimasmasan ako..Dbest ka tlga…Iloveyou na tlaga..hahaha..Dhil jan khit anong mangyari..hindi ako bibitaw sau..mwah!!

  379. Ganda ng thought s and ideas mo knowing na masyado pa tayong bata to think about moving on 🙂 Napakatotoo and genuine 🙂

  380. Ghia says: Reply

    Everytime I read your blog, I don’t think that it is written by a 20-year old girl. I really admire how deep and intelligent you are. I am really not fond of reading blogs like this, I usually read travel blogs because I love to travel. But when I started reading your blogs, I really enjoyed it because it has a lot of sense and I think that I am beginning to know the real you (kahit dito lang sa blog) and the “Maine” as a celebrity. Hopefully, I can meet you in person and have a chance to talk to you. Sarap mo siguro kausap. Stay true to yourself Maine.. Everyone love you for that (lalo na ako).

  381. Tea says: Reply

    It’s easier said than done. I am a 45 years old single woman. I have had boyfriends when I was younger. I was with a guy for 11 years only to be left behind because he had someone pregnant. I was 18 when we became us and I was 29 when it was over. I have had other boyfriends after him but the pain wouldn’t go away. I guess this goes to all everyone who have hurt their exes, LEARN TO APOLOGIZE. No matter how hard I tried to move on, the pain won’t disappear. No matter how hard I try to forgive and forget him, the pain just keeps haunting you. I guess moving on is still a two way street. Apologize for the hurt and the pain cause it will help bigtime.

  382. KIA says: Reply

    I am 1 year older than you but it seems mas marami kang alam kesa sakin about love/life (yan tayo eh) I’ve spent my Vday last february 14 at home (nanuod ng Sunday Pinasaya) yet syempre mashaket lg kc walang date ganern. ever since naman wala tlga akong nakadate t’wing Vday. But it’s okay. gustong gusto kong basahin yung mga blogs mo nakakaaliw, nakakainspired supeeer. thanky for this Menggay! I hope khit busy ka masyado sa KS (career) wag kang tumigil sa blogging. hnd mo alam sino yung natutulungan mo, and hnd mo alam kung paano mo bigyan ng magandang pananaw sa buhay yung mga readers mo gaya ko. almost all nabasa ko na Meng. (legit stalker) am an avid fan of ALDUB. isa lg wish ko goodhealth lg tlga sayo and ky Alden. Labyu! No matter what it takes I will and always will support you both. ALDUByou Meng.

  383. MONETTE SF says: Reply

    Pretty Maine, Thank you for the latest input and for sharing us again your talent in writing. Usually, gabi ako nagtatambay online kasi ito lang yong time na may peace of mind ako walang magulo/nanggugulo, at ginagawa at higit sa lahat tahimik. Kaso ang kalaban naman antok! Ngayon lang ako napaaga. Nakapagcomment na ako last 15 February and I decided na magmessage uli kasi IM A FAN. Natuto akong magtweet dahil sa ALDUB kaya ngayon dotdotera narin ako. Kaya lang hoping parin na mafollow mo ako sa Tamang Panahon @FernandoMonette. At young age bat ang galing mo? sa dubsmash, singing, dancing, acting, blogging, hahaha tawang tawa ako sa mga jokes mo no doubt galing mo sa comedy, sa driving din at makata ka pa. Ah basta sa lahat magaling ka. May tanong lang, dont worry its not about Alden very common na to. 1. Naniniwala ka ba na kapag ang tao ay matalino, TANGA SA PAG-IBIG? 2. Ano ang mas gusto mo Ikaw ang NAGMAMAHAL O Ikaw ang minamahal? Sige baka maubusan ako ng pagkain, birthday ng Auntie ko. Take care and always pray.

  384. Kariza says: Reply

    I actually smiled after reading the PPS 🙂 Haha I dont usually read blogs, more on books talaga ako. Haha Blog mo lang talaga. And I enjoy every word in it. Yay

  385. Nyte says: Reply

    Hi Maine,

    Its my first time to read your blog. I’m now a Mom with 2 kids (16 &13). But I feel like a teenage girl again, every time I watch you and Alden. I had a lot of past relationships, until I met my husband. But I had someone, whom I really love. We were both young when we met (13 and 14 years old). I’m from Pampanga and he’s from Manila. So we seldom see each other. Only during Christmas and summer vacation plus our barangay fiesta on March. I have to admit, I missed him and his birthday is on the 19th. 5 days after Vday. Especially nowadays, its leap year. We met leap year, after 4 years, we separated because something happened, it was leap year. Then we met again after 4 years, leap year again. Until then and up to now, we haven’t seen each other. Its leap year again, that’ s why I missed him so much.
    In life, there are times that we cannot easily move on. For me, I still remember those days because I was so happy then. Even though we were too young, but I can say I really felt ‘love’ at that time. We cherished those memories when we were together. But still hoping that someday, we’ll meet again as ‘Friends’.

  386. Kimberly Onia says: Reply

    my gosh!. you nailed it ate Maine!
    i really enjoy reading your blog. Sana ipagpatuloy mo pa yung pagsusulat mo dito sa blog mo 🙂
    sa sobrang gusto ko mabasa tong “PAANO BA?” sinave ko yung page niya hahaha mawawalan na kasi ako ng load nun that time ^^.
    anyways, You are so good in giving advice.
    hmm meron kasi akong request, kung pwede ka rin bang magbigay ng advice sa akin about family.

  387. Liza jane peria says: Reply

    Grabeh ka meng! Just finished reading this part of your blog..i thought i’ve read this all before the vday, there is still pages to continue. It seems that i reading the love guro pages at the age of 20…regine..wooohhh! Indeed nothing to be special on vday. Its just fine not dating w ur love one. You can make vday everyday if u want to. Hands & feet up for you Meng ! that when u love expect nothing..just love & make him happy that’s all! Love for me is unconditional..enjoy the moment of being in loved. If things will not working out for the 2 of you..well nothing to regret coz u do all ur duties as a partner! Well see who’s the loser! In the end..i’m sure he will be longing your moments….LOVE U MENG! More writes up please!

  388. Mike says: Reply

    Why would you force someone to love you, doing everything you could to catch her attention e.g. sending a bouquet of flowers which i believe is sweet but flowers wither in time royce chocolate na lang sana and the bad thing about it is when the mr. Right comes along making you a sore loser. Ano bestfriend ka na lang kunyari! Moving on is hard so i advise to love yourself first which means don’t get drunk most of the time stay away from shabu weed is alrite joke rest for 6 months and date again.

  389. olivia macale says: Reply

    Im your biggest fun in hagonoy bulacan

  390. wenax says: Reply

    Hi Maine,
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I really enjoyed reading your blog. Bilib nga ako sayo 20 ka pa lang pero ang galing mong mgsulat. Isa kang HENYO maituturing. ai HENYA pala. Keep it up girl madami ka pang ma inspire hindi lang sa kabataan pati na mga young at heart. GOD BLESS YOU Maine…

  391. france says: Reply

    Grabe anghaba po, Maine! Hahaha. I envy your level of productivity. (Procrastinator here)
    Anyways, I have never been in love in my life, I think. Or if I have, it’s never reached “that level”, you know. But I will keep these advices in mind –if ever the time comes. If it ever does, I will let you know what happens and hopefully you’ll be there to hear (or read) about it.
    You’re a good “love guru” and these advises will come in handy and will really help a lot of people, especially the young ones. Thank you for sharing your wisdom in love. 🙂

  392. Briellyn says: Reply

    At the age of 20, You have a pretty down to earth insight of one of the most poorly understood experience on earth, maybe because its an emotion, and who had ever claimed that they have the best explanation of that thing called LOVE? Honestly, I find your understanding of why breakups happen and how to deal with them sensible, realistic, hurtful ( ang ilan) but bulls eye. You sound pessimistic, but sometimes this is better than looking through rose-tinted glasses. Your advise to love wuthout exoectations may just be the right thing for people in a world where you are now. There are just too much temptation and the word of the day here is ” the great pretenders”. But reading further, I am glad you are not “tanga”. Sa totoo lang, nakahinga ako ng maluwag, kasi kung sa KS lang ako mag base ng reading ko sa inyong dalawa na AlDub, parang totoo na, kaso, merong mga snippets that your love team is doing it for his career. I am very glad that you are not fooled. That you too are doing what you are doing now because you are enjoying the things that you are having now, without expectations of a ronantic love. At your age now, enjoy the monent. If you commit yourself now, you’ll enter into a very limited world, a situation which will easily curtail the freedom and enjoyment you are having now. I am happy that you know this already. You are the only local celebrity I have ever loved, aside from Kris Aquino. It used to be only Kris, now, Kris comes after you. I am more than a fan to you I’d say, because I dont want you to get hurt. I dont even want to think it! After reading this blog, as I said, nakahinga ako ng maluwag.

    Also, I want to add to your advise how to move on. THINK OF ALL THE BAD THINGS your ex have done, been to you, and avoid looking for excuses or explanations for him. It is ok to reminice the good times you had with him, but do not dwell on these otherwise you’ll go back to wallowing into misery. By looking at those ugly things, you are teaching yourself to let go of sonething that is not for you. It is actually easier to let go when you think how badly you were treated or how bad you felt while you were with him. I did it myself instinctively. I was having a difficult time letting go because I always reminisce the great times we had, I would even blame myself or some other things when things went bad, result—I cant have any other relationship for sonetime…,until I got tired of whimsical thinking…stopped denying its really over, and do something to get over him…accept there is no future for us together. It took sometime but I did it eventually.

  393. Inagrace says: Reply

    Ung habang binabasa ko sya naiiyak ako? Thank You Maine for this. Madalas nga nagiging bitter tayo sa daming heartache experience pero still 🙂 choose to be HAPPY great reminder!

    I love you even more 🙂 God Bless ur heart Maine! Keep writing please :*

  394. melai says: Reply

    happy birthday meng hnd pa man tayo nagkikita …love na kita bilang isang tao napapsaya mo kasi ako sa mga simple things na gingwa mo sa tv… wish u all the best in life.. deserved mo lahat ng blessing na dumating sayo.. take care and i will always support you.. sana magkita na tayo at maging friends… lab yah meng..

  395. Grabeeeee ka meng! Yan ba ung hindi love guru? 🙂 kuha mo! ganyan na ganyan ang ginagawa ko pag broken ako.. Iyak. Dasal. Move on. 🙂

  396. “Di porket di ka nakatanggap ng bulaklak eh wala nang nagmamahal sayo.”

    Hahahaha. Hindi talaga ko nagsasawang basahin’to . UTANG NA LOOB MAINE MAGLABAS KANA NG LIBRO!! Galing mo talaga girl.

  397. grace says: Reply

    hi maine! slamat at naging isa kang insperasyon hnd lang sa ka age mo, sa mga bata at mttandang humahanga sayo.. npka galing tlga ni lord kasi hnyaan k nua gmitin pra mag pasaya at mg bgay ng halimbawa s tao, slamat sayo at hindi mo hnayaan na mtalo ka ng hiya,. hndi mo intensyon sumikat, hnd mo rin itensyon na mag psaya pero gnamet k ni lord, slamat kasi pnili mo sundin ang gusto mo at mkka buti sayo, salamat sayo kasi dmating ka lageng tumatawa ang nanay ko s tanghalian, hndi lang ang nanay ko ngustuhan ko sgurado ako mas meron png iba, slamag ksi npaka importante ng nanay ko stroke sya (2times) last stroke nya hnd n sya mka pag slita but she still undertstand kpg knalausap siya, slamat at nppa saya mo nanay ko, slamat kasi ngustuhan ka din ng anak ko, hnd sila nttulog ng hapon hanggat hnd tapos ang kalyeserye or hnd ka nppanuod sa eatbulaga.. slamat kz hndi lng anak ko na iinspired sayo lht ng bata ata! i wanted to be good example as a mother of my kids! pro naunahan muna aq, but okey lng hnd p kita nkkita or nlksama in personally spat ng mlaman ko na totoo at mbuti kng tao. npaka swerte ng mgulamg mo sayo at ikaw din kasi mganda pag ppalaki sainyo. slamat at slamat kay Lord.. sna gabayan ka lge at always in healthy. ipag ddasal ko n lng ky Lord, sa gnung praan mka pag pa slamat ako sayo.. SALAMAT!..

  398. jasmin says: Reply

    Thank you for this.I love you Meng❤

  399. Ivy says: Reply

    Hi Maine,
    Yeah I know. This is such a late reaction to your post but I was kinda shy to post a comment here, because I think most of the people who commented were either in their teens or early 20’s. Plus I am not really the type to write to someone about my feelings. I write a lot but I don’t post them online. I just keep them on my phone’s notepad. But last night, I was of course active on Twitter and I came across this anonymous confession from an aldub fan who said that whatever happens, he or she will always support aldub/maichard because you helped him/her get through the loss of a loved one. That short post inspired me to write (on my notepad ) about how you, alden, jowapao and kalyserye changed me.

    I’m 36 years old and yet I feel like I learn a lot from you and Alden everyday even if i’m 15 yrs your senior. If I were to bump into you now, the first thing I am going to say is Thank You. You helped me get thru a painful time.

    It was May 1 last year when I got my heart broken into pieces by my best friend. We never had a romantic relationship. We were best friends and we were closer than close. We lived in the same condo, went to the same graduate school, worked for the same company, we were travel buddies, we spend holidays together (our families have migrated in Canada and US). We were inseparable. He was my confidante and I was his. I don’t know when and how it happened but one day I just realized he wasn’t just my best friend anymore. I tried to fight it. I wrote on my notepad the annoying things about him and why he is the worst guy to love for me. But sometimes our heart just won’t cooperate. Damn this heart for loving him beyond the boundaries of friendship. I never told him because I was afraid of losing him. I was afraid of this one person who I trust and rely on and have fallen for would reject me. I kept it hidden. I lied to myself by saying that when he finds a girl who will love him more than I do and he will fall in love with, I will be happy for him, for them. What a lie that was.

    Around March til April, I noticed a change in him. He started becoming secretive. He spends too much time on his phone and he started going on climbs (he’s an outdoor/adventure guy) with a girl he met on the pre-nup shoot of our friend. I asked him, a couple of times, if anything’s between them and he always say that there was none. My mind was saying otherwise but my heart chose to believe him. On May 1, I was coming back from a solo Pagsanjan Falls trip, I saw a post from our friend congratulating him and the girl. I texted our friend and he confirmed my doubts. I texted him and he said he wanted to tell me but he didnt know how (crappiest excuse in the world, if u ask me).

    My world just fell apart and inside that public bus going back to Manila, the dam of tears just bursted and I can’t hold them back. My seatmate got so worried she called the conductor. Imagine my kortification when the conductor approached me and others just started looking at my direction. I said I was fine and I buried my face in my wet towel to hide the tears. I cant go home to the condo because he was there. I went to a coffee shop and stayed there til morning. What a pitiful sight I was. Sitting alone in the corner, with three empty coffee cups, crying til there’s no more tears.

    To cut the story short, he left the condo and moved back to his parents’ place. We ceased talking in the office and in school. We stopped texting unless its about work. We just cut each other from our lives. I was such a cry baby so I kept to myself in the office. I was a mess and I couldn’t concentrate. I needed to get away so in june, I flew to Canada to be with my family and just forget him. But I have a career here that I have to go back to so in July, I came back. I was far from ok but I was in control of my emotions already. July 6 was my bday and everyone in the office greeted me but him. So I cried some more.

    I thought I will never be ok again and that everyday will just be a routine of busy work and then crying myself to sleep at night. I prayed to God to help me and give me something or someone to help me be ok again.

    It was early August (1st Yakie wedding) that my sister in Canada asked me who is aldub? She said that the Filipino community in Montreal were sort of talking about it. I told her maybe another internet sensation who’s going to guest in Ellen. And she said maybe. We never talked about aldub for the rest of our convo but the name was stuck in my mind. That night, Aug 20, I have nothing to do so I googled Aldub. I was directed to Youtube. I saw the EB video and it was 1st weeksary ep. I was an EB baby but since I started working, I lost track of showbiz so I was glad to see that TVJ were still funny as hell. I liked the episode and my curiosity was piqued by you and alden and so I decided to watch episode 1. I started at 11pm aug 20 and by 5am aug 21, i was still awake watching. I wanted to finish all the episodes so that I am updated by the time aug 21 episode airs that day. I am proud to say I have never missed an episode since aug 21. Mostly I am team replay due to my work schedule. I am definitely team puyater in twitter. I was team arena on TP and team abroad during my business and personal trips.

    You and Alden got me through that heartbreak. I never cried again after that night except on plywood, kidnapping and cindy episodes. The GV that you and KS brought into my life was so immense that I am proud to say that I am a better and happier version of me now. Twitter and aldubnation kept me company and I just found peace and joy. I found the courage to approach my best friend and told him, I missed my friend and that I really, really wish him all the best. I said that without pain and without sarcasm. He smiled and said thank you and he said he missed his friend too. He said he was sorry and that he is grateful for our friendship. He stepped away because he felt he was causing me more pain by being close. The moment I look into his eyes and I saw my friend again, I knew I was healed. The pain is gone. I have my friend back. Things between us arent what they used to but thats understandable. We are ok knowing that when the time comes that we need a friend, we are just a call away.

    Coupled with prayers, I am proud to say that being an aldubber made me a better me. Thank you for letting me share this to you. Thank you and alden for entertaining so many Filipinos here and abroad. Thank you for inspiring us to dream big and work hard to make it happen. Thank you for showing what faith can do. From the bottom of my heart, thank you maine and I truly love you and alden. I dont know when, but when God wills it that I get to see you two, I just want to hug you and say thank you. (Ang lapit ko lang sa bahay niyo.)

    I will always support you and alden magkasama man kayo or hindi (pero siyempre sana magkasama ). Whatever it is between you two, just seeing the smile in your faces, makes me happy. When the lights go out, when the crowd thins, when the shouts/screams dulls, I will still be there rooting for you. Because more than the kilig and the laughter, you gave me something I will never forget – inspiration.

    Cliche but true, God gave me you.

  400. Dimple says: Reply

    Hi,

    Here I’m again posting a comment bout your blog. Well I have read this already and nevah get tired of reading it again because??? Let’s just say this blog gave me a “real” goose bumps. Why? Coz you see I ‘am a 36 years old lad but what can I see you are more matured on handling a relationship than me.

    I’m a single parent (for 2 years now) Been married for almost 8 years and ended on a not so good break up. You as Yaya Dub and KS of course become my Therapy on healing. Your blog showing how to stay positive motivates me to move on and now your “Paano Ba?” blog strikes me again. Coz even I keep on telling to my self that I’m ok at this state of my life but I keep on back sliding to the old me. You are right, after feeling the pain start to leave it there (Happy to say I did erase all the pictures on my Phone but I kept printed pictures of our family for my daughter)

    Thank you for the good vibes…. Lav Yah!

  401. Broken Hearted says: Reply

    Maine,
    Ganito kasi yun, paano ba mag move on sa nasirang friendship dahil lang sa nagconfess ako?
    Although ni check ko kung ok pa ba kami at sabi nya ok naman pero hindi na kami nung tulad ng dati.
    May awkwardness na. Sinabi ko naman na disregard nya lang yung confession ko para balik na kami sa dati pero hindi talaga eh. Na miss ko yung kami as friends. Sana di na lang ako nag confess. Kung maibabalik ko lang yung time.

  402. Broken Hearted says: Reply

    Should I move on..and tanggapin na di na kami friends? OR should I try to fix our friendship? At paano ma fix? 🙁

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