To my best friend–– who began to drift away

Before anything else, I would like you to know that you have been a really good (best)friend; I wouldn’t be writing this letter in the first place if you weren’t. And I thank you for all the things you’ve done to me and for me; merely for being a true friend from day one up to now

I have always admired our bond through the years; but let’s face the fact that people change with time– so do relationships. Our relationships with some people change whether we like it or not– it’s inevitable… I think? And at this moment, I am writing you this letter in view of the fact that our used-to-be-really-cool-friendship has started to fizzle out.

We used to be really close to each other; we were more like sisters than friends. We tell each other everything and we talk about the most random and irrelevant things of all. We never ran out of things to say and things to talk about; and I find that amusing for some reason.  I used to think we won’t ever get tired of talking to each other– I guess we did, in some way. I do not know if it is me, or you, or the two of us who got tired of dealing with each other’s anecdotes and musings; my point is, we let it happen.. and that is the saddest part of all.

Things between us are different now, admit it or not; we are way closer before than we are right now. And I don’t know why but for some reason I feel like there’s a small barrier between us. I am sorry if I have been rather distant if we have always been close. Forgive me if I refuse to talk to you sometimes; I shall admit that I am doing that intentionally, only for the reason that talking to you makes me sad for I know that it isn’t the same anymore–talking to you isn’t the same anymore.

You see that’s the thing about relationships.. we don’t get to keep something alive for good and all. At some point things will begin to fall apart; sometimes we can still do something to prevent it from happening, sometimes we don’t. As for the two of us, I hope we get to regain what’s been missing. After all, I am glad you are still in my life; I am glad that we still get to talk every so often and laugh at the same corny jokes. I hope in time we can catch up on all the things we’ve missed out and talk about the crazy things we used to share.
I miss you, little biatch.

Love,
your close friend

26 Comment

  1. steph says: Reply

    “…talking to you isn’t the same anymore.”

    All the #feels

  2. Cindy says: Reply

    “We don’t get to keep something alive for good and all. At some point things will begin to fall apart.”
    i love this. #hugotbutreal

  3. Yhumyhum says: Reply

    Damang-dama ko to.. reminds me of my two best friends since elementary whom I have shared everything, until we parted ways.. they now have their own families, while I’m here busy with my career (no comms at all).. Hope we’ll get to see each other again..

  4. bea says: Reply

    Ramdam na ramdam ko ito. I also had a really close friend during college but things started to change before graduation. She has her new set of friends now and I have mine too. I sometimes think of our happy moments together. Nakakamiss din. Hindi na kami friends now kundi magkakilala nalang. 🙁

  5. Ivy China says: Reply

    ” I used to think we won’t ever get tired of talking to each other– I guess we did, in some way. I do not know if it is me, or you, or the two of us who got tired of dealing with each other’s anecdotes and musings; my point is, we let it happen.. and that is the saddest part of all.”
    I really find your posts very relatable especially this one! Honestly, this blog post of yours made me emotional. It reminds me of my best friend as well. I’m so happy that I got to know you (though not personally). You’re a person with lots of amazing things to tell. May God continue to shower you with His blessings! All the best, Ate Maine. 🙂

  6. M says: Reply

    “Forgive me if I refuse to talk to you sometimes; I shall admit that I am doing that intentionally, only for the reason that talking to you makes me sad for I know that it isn’t the same anymore–talking to you isn’t the same anymore.” – Exact same thing happened to me.. So sad 🙁 I dunno what will happen to our friendship in the future 🙁 Thank you for this blog. It really helps to know that there is someone somewhere, somehow who’s been in the same situation as I am and had to deal with the sadness of losing that deep, real connection you had with someone and going through those “we used to be like this before… and now we’re not…” I really do hope and pray that the two of you will regain the things that you’ve missed and catch up with everything that’s been happening in both of your lives. 🙂 Again, thank you for this.

  7. anon says: Reply

    Bestfriends breakup is always harder and more painful than bf/gf </3 My bestfriend and I drifted too :'(

  8. “You see that’s the thing about relationships.. we don’t get to keep something alive for good and all. At some point things will begin to fall apart; sometimes we can still do something to prevent it from happening, sometimes we don’t. ”
    I don’t know if you’ve already seen my comment to your post about falling for the wrong man wherein I said I can relate. But Maine… T.T This is the post wherein I can. really. really. really. relate. T.T Most friendships really don’t stay for a long time. It’s saddening but it’s a part of life. Anyway, I started a blog site in wordpress as well. Got inspired by you. I guess what I said hours ago on my first comment here made me change my mind about blogging. Thanks to you! And I’m glad your okay now. Hope you see Alden next week na! God bless! Much love 🙂
    Ariann.xx (ariannjs.wordpress.com)

  9. ghe says: Reply

    Hope by this time you regain what might has been lost…

  10. hannah patricia solis says: Reply

    Oh sad 🙁 well I didn’t have a bestfriend for my entire life and I don’t know if there’s something wrong with me but I know how it feels to lost a friend/bestfriend

  11. “You see that’s the thing about relationships.. we don’t get to keep something alive for good and all. At some point things will begin to fall apart; sometimes we can still do something to prevent it from happening, sometimes we don’t. ”
    I don’t know if you’ve already seen my comment to your post about falling for the wrong man wherein I said I can relate. But Maine… T.T This is the post wherein I can. really. really. really. relate. T.T Most friendships really don’t stay for a long time. It’s saddening but it’s a part of life. Anyway, I started a blog site in wordpress as well. Got inspired by you. I guess what I said hours ago on my first comment here made me change my mind about blogging. Thanks to you! And I’m glad your okay now. Hope you see Alden next week na! God bless! Much love
    Ariann.xx (ariannjs.wordpress.com)

  12. “You see that’s the thing about relationships.. we don’t get to keep something alive for good and all. At some point things will begin to fall apart; sometimes we can still do something to prevent it from happening, sometimes we don’t. ”
    I don’t know if you’ve already seen my comment to your post about falling for the wrong man wherein I said I can relate. But Maine… T.T This is the post wherein I can. really. really. really. relate. T.T Most friendships really don’t stay for a long time. It’s saddening but it’s a part of life. Anyway, I started a blog site in wordpress as well. Got inspired by you. I guess what I said yesterday on my first comment here made me change my mind about blogging. Thanks to you! And I’m glad you’re okay now. Hope you see Alden next week na! God bless! Much love

    P.S. I messaged you on Facebook! Hope you’ll have time to respond.✌️
    – Ariann.xx

  13. ALY says: Reply

    Hi, Maine! I just want you to know that I am one of your millions and millions of fans. You are such a humble, sincere, and a crazy beautiful person inside and out, and, you are funny (even tho you tell us that you are not) and you make me smile every time I watch you in EB’s Kalyeserye. You inspire me a lot!

    This is my first time visiting your blog because I have so much time doing so now for it is finally our sem break! Just reading to this makes me like you even more. Maybe because I can relate to it, not exactly relate to it, but I have this fear in me that things will go the same way as you have described in here, and that makes me sad. I don’t know, I am somewhat possessive, clingy and selfish when it comes to my friends, especially to that one friend I consider as my best one. And I don’t want us to change but like you said – it is inevitable.

    My favorite part in here is when you referred to her as your “best friend” and at the end you just referred to yourself as her “close friend” – because I feel the same way too. I’ve been treating her as my best friend but I do not say it to anyone especially to her because I’m afraid that she doesn’t treat me that way, too. That to her, I am just a close friend. Sometimes I find it weird, it’s like having a crush or being in love with someone din pala, pag ‘di nasusuklian, you get hurt and you get heartbroken din. Mas nakakaheartbroken pa nga ata kesa sa lovelife eh! *based on experience* Hahaha!

    So, THANK YOU MAINE for this, I didn’t know you could inspire me more than you already do. I hope I can meet you in person and have a selfie with you! When the Bayanihan was in our place a couple of weeks ago I didn’t have the chance to see you because of school matters.. Ikanga, You were so close yet so far! God bless you more! Sending my love and support! x

    *hoping you can at least read this, bonus na lang pag nagreply ka* Hahahaha! A girl can dream, right? 🙂

  14. Jecel Manabat says: Reply

    I suppose one of the hardest thing in life is losing your bestfriend, especially when you don’t know what went wrong.. because you’ve simply grown apart. Honestly, I currently am in this situation and idk the way out yet.

  15. Aj says: Reply

    *imsert* -Cool with you i feel you maine!

  16. krizelle says: Reply

    I could literally feel every single word that is written in here. I kind of see myself saying this to my bestfriend (that drifted away, as well) . thank you Maine for this, it’s really expressive and i don’t think i could be as expressive as you.

    Ps, my bad for only seeing this now.

  17. patriciamadraga says: Reply

    Still…:'(

  18. Apple says: Reply

    I have read this blog for the nth time and still…my heart. :'(
    Kashi naman eeeehhhh.. i can relate this. Grabeh noh? I thought I was the only one, dami pala natin.
    Anyhoo, I just want to thank you for this blog, Maine.
    Keep writing. God bless! 🙂

  19. Christina Magalona says: Reply

    Hi, Meng. I hope you can write the update of this blog post. You wrote this in 2015 and it’s 2018 now. How’s your friendship with her now?…

    I feel the same way actually in 2015 we “…talking to you isn’t the same anymore.”(this line is tagos hanggang bone marrow) It hurts but it’s true. Friendship has its own beauty.

  20. rhea mendoza jacobe says: Reply

    Relate much 🙁 meron din ako sinulat noon para sa mga friends kong hindi ko na nakakasama at nakakausap ngayon na samantalang noon eh kala mo galing kami sa iisang bahay bata. First time ko lang makapag basa ng blog at hinanap ko agad yung sayo syempre kamag anak ata kita, Mendoza eh. char!

    share lang.

    “LOST ROPE”

    WE ALL HAVE THAT ONE CIRCLE OF FRIENDS THAT WE TREASURE THE MOST, CHERISH EVERY BONDS AND CONSIDER THEM AS BEST OF FRIENDS. YOU EVEN MEMORIZED THE STRANDS OF THEIR HAIRS, THE FLOW OF THEIR INTESTINES OR EVEN THE COLOR OF THEIR FARTS. ALL THE DRAMAS ARE KNOWN AND EVEN THE MOST KEPT SECRET. YOU LOVE THEM LIKE SISTER’S OWN.
    EVENTUALLY, YOU WILL HAVE YOUR OWN LIVES, DIFFERENT PATHS AND PRIORITIES. YOU’LL START TO TALK AND SEE EACH OTHER SELDOM. TOO DIFFERENT FROM WHAT YOU USED TO AND YOU CAN’T DO ANYTHING BUT JUST TO REMEMBER THOSE HAPPY MEMORIES THAT YOU CREATED WITH THEM.
    THOSE TIMES THAT YOU DIDN’T FEEL ALONE BECAUSE THEY WERE ALWAYS THERE.
    THOSE SHOULDERS THAT WERE ALWAYS READY WHEN YOU WERE LONELY.
    THOSE HANDS THAT HOLD YOU WHENEVER YOU GET WEAK.
    THOSE HUGS THAT COMFORTED YOU.
    THOSE CHEERS, TEARS AND LAUGHS THAT YOU CHERISHED ALTOGETHER.
    THOSE PRESENCE THAT MADE YOU FEEL LOVED.
    THOSE TIMES…
    THOSE STORIES.

    were left behind in memories.

  21. Sofie says: Reply

    “You see that’s the thing about relationships.. we don’t get to keep something alive for good and all. At some point things will begin to fall apart; sometimes we can still do something to prevent it from happening, sometimes we don’t”

    exactly! sometimes people tend to forget that everything in life is temporary.

  22. Chee says: Reply

    This is exactly what I’ve experiencing today. 🙁 Thanks for sharing Ms. Maine.

  23. lorelie says: Reply

    have to read it again for nth time. it still hurts a lot.

  24. lorelie says: Reply

    alam mo meng parang ikaw yungtaga sulat ng nararamdaman namin, thank you.

  25. This,, is so sad. toinks, mali yung una ko nabasa sa morning. Makes me remember an old friend,, tama ka,, i also wonder if its me, or sya, or yung mga gusto namin sa buhay yung dahilan kaya nawala nalang kami pareho. But I wish, I get so this friend again one day.. She still owns a part of me pa rin naman. Okay! Pasok Beatles! 🎶There are places I remember all my life
    Though some have changed
    Some forever, not for better
    Some have gone and some remain🎶😭😭😭😭 This song sums up everything. #laslasmode Morning Menggay🤗

  26. This,, is so sad. toinks, mali yung una ko nabasa sa morning. Makes me remember an old friend,, tama ka,, i also wonder if its me, or sya, or yung mga gusto namin sa buhay yung dahilan kaya nawala nalang kami pareho. But I wish, I get so this friend again one day.. She still owns a part of me pa rin naman. Okay! Pasok Beattles!

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